He keeps liking his ex’s pictures. Should I be worried?

I met this guy about a month ago. We seem to be hitting it off. The issue is he likes about every other picture his ex has posted. They broke up in early October. I’m trying to tell myself it’s just him liking the content. He’ll like his other ex’s pic
missmissyDecember 4, 2017 2:28am
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    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...


    Ehh I don’t think it really matters what he’s liking given the rest of the background information. He could like pictures of her pet rock-he still tried to make the ex jealous and then proceeded to like her pictures and look at her Snapchat. I don’t know that’s just the way I see it.


    OP --- lolll. Listen to your peers. I know you want to believe different, and go ahead I guess if you want to get burned, but this guy is hung up on her..... But you seriously keep fighting that notion so ride out the storm I guess!


    So you really don’t think his likes mean he’s just trying to be cordial? Showing, ‘hey no hard feelings’?


    No. I don't. With all the other background info you provided and him contacting her... No.


    Now I do think he was being friendly.

    His father was just diagnosed with terminal cancer recently. I guess his ex got wind of the news. I was at his house and he was getting his mail. He opened it and he looked a little funny so I asked him what was up. He said his ex heard the news and was saying she was sorry to hear the news and was keeping his family in her prayers.

    We go inside and sit down on the couch. I see him text her thanks for the letter. I think if he was still interested he would've said more than that to her.



    Again, wrong. She sent a card addressed to he and his family. Only saying thank you is the appropriate response. Plus, she was doing something genuinely nice during a difficult time so I would only say thank you as well because it’s not like my ex was asking for me back or saying they missed me. He could very well still be interested and only say thank you.


    I disagree. A man who is interested will say more.
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    No. Not someone who was dumped.
    No. Not someone whose attempt at hurting their ex backfired.
    No. Not someone who was told by the ex I'm happy to see you move on.

    No matter which way you and try to flip it he told her thanks for the card. If he really didn't want to he wouldn't have. If he really wanted to show her that she needed to move on he wouldn't have responded at all. Bottom line. He is still interested.
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    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...


    Ehh I don’t think it really matters what he’s liking given the rest of the background information. He could like pictures of her pet rock-he still tried to make the ex jealous and then proceeded to like her pictures and look at her Snapchat. I don’t know that’s just the way I see it.


    OP --- lolll. Listen to your peers. I know you want to believe different, and go ahead I guess if you want to get burned, but this guy is hung up on her..... But you seriously keep fighting that notion so ride out the storm I guess!


    So you really don’t think his likes mean he’s just trying to be cordial? Showing, ‘hey no hard feelings’?


    No. I don't. With all the other background info you provided and him contacting her... No.


    Now I do think he was being friendly.

    His father was just diagnosed with terminal cancer recently. I guess his ex got wind of the news. I was at his house and he was getting his mail. He opened it and he looked a little funny so I asked him what was up. He said his ex heard the news and was saying she was sorry to hear the news and was keeping his family in her prayers.

    We go inside and sit down on the couch. I see him text her thanks for the letter. I think if he was still interested he would've said more than that to her.



    Again, wrong. She sent a card addressed to he and his family. Only saying thank you is the appropriate response. Plus, she was doing something genuinely nice during a difficult time so I would only say thank you as well because it’s not like my ex was asking for me back or saying they missed me. He could very well still be interested and only say thank you.
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    I disagree. A man who is interested will say more.
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    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...


    Ehh I don’t think it really matters what he’s liking given the rest of the background information. He could like pictures of her pet rock-he still tried to make the ex jealous and then proceeded to like her pictures and look at her Snapchat. I don’t know that’s just the way I see it.


    OP --- lolll. Listen to your peers. I know you want to believe different, and go ahead I guess if you want to get burned, but this guy is hung up on her..... But you seriously keep fighting that notion so ride out the storm I guess!


    So you really don’t think his likes mean he’s just trying to be cordial? Showing, ‘hey no hard feelings’?


    No. I don't. With all the other background info you provided and him contacting her... No.


    Now I do think he was being friendly.

    His father was just diagnosed with terminal cancer recently. I guess his ex got wind of the news. I was at his house and he was getting his mail. He opened it and he looked a little funny so I asked him what was up. He said his ex heard the news and was saying she was sorry to hear the news and was keeping his family in her prayers.

    We go inside and sit down on the couch. I see him text her thanks for the letter. I think if he was still interested he would've said more than that to her.

    click to expand


    Again, wrong. She sent a card addressed to he and his family. Only saying thank you is the appropriate response. Plus, she was doing something genuinely nice during a difficult time so I would only say thank you as well because it’s not like my ex was asking for me back or saying they missed me. He could very well still be interested and only say thank you.
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    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...


    Ehh I don’t think it really matters what he’s liking given the rest of the background information. He could like pictures of her pet rock-he still tried to make the ex jealous and then proceeded to like her pictures and look at her Snapchat. I don’t know that’s just the way I see it.


    OP --- lolll. Listen to your peers. I know you want to believe different, and go ahead I guess if you want to get burned, but this guy is hung up on her..... But you seriously keep fighting that notion so ride out the storm I guess!


    So you really don’t think his likes mean he’s just trying to be cordial? Showing, ‘hey no hard feelings’?


    No. I don't. With all the other background info you provided and him contacting her... No.
    click to expand


    Now I do think he was being friendly.

    His father was just diagnosed with terminal cancer recently. I guess his ex got wind of the news. I was at his house and he was getting his mail. He opened it and he looked a little funny so I asked him what was up. He said his ex heard the news and was saying she was sorry to hear the news and was keeping his family in her prayers.

    We go inside and sit down on the couch. I see him text her thanks for the letter. I think if he was still interested he would've said more than that to her.

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    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...


    Ehh I don’t think it really matters what he’s liking given the rest of the background information. He could like pictures of her pet rock-he still tried to make the ex jealous and then proceeded to like her pictures and look at her Snapchat. I don’t know that’s just the way I see it.


    OP --- lolll. Listen to your peers. I know you want to believe different, and go ahead I guess if you want to get burned, but this guy is hung up on her..... But you seriously keep fighting that notion so ride out the storm I guess!


    So you really don’t think his likes mean he’s just trying to be cordial? Showing, ‘hey no hard feelings’?
    click to expand


    No. I don't. With all the other background info you provided and him contacting her... No.
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    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...


    Ehh I don’t think it really matters what he’s liking given the rest of the background information. He could like pictures of her pet rock-he still tried to make the ex jealous and then proceeded to like her pictures and look at her Snapchat. I don’t know that’s just the way I see it.


    OP --- lolll. Listen to your peers. I know you want to believe different, and go ahead I guess if you want to get burned, but this guy is hung up on her..... But you seriously keep fighting that notion so ride out the storm I guess!
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    So you really don’t think his likes mean he’s just trying to be cordial? Showing, ‘hey no hard feelings’?
  • hazeofpixiedust
    Feet on the ground, head in the sky.
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    Posted by LDM90
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by UnicornSag
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by missmissy
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...


    Ehh I don’t think it really matters what he’s liking given the rest of the background information. He could like pictures of her pet rock-he still tried to make the ex jealous and then proceeded to like her pictures and look at her Snapchat. I don’t know that’s just the way I see it.
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    OP --- lolll. Listen to your peers. I know you want to believe different, and go ahead I guess if you want to get burned, but this guy is hung up on her..... But you seriously keep fighting that notion so ride out the storm I guess!
  • Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by UnicornSag
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by missmissy
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...
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    Ehh I don’t think it really matters what he’s liking given the rest of the background information. He could like pictures of her pet rock-he still tried to make the ex jealous and then proceeded to like her pictures and look at her Snapchat. I don’t know that’s just the way I see it.
  • Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by UnicornSag
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by missmissy
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.


    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...
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    Her friends birthday post, an old picture with her grandfather, a picture with her little cousin, a picture of the city...her page is open *shrug*

  • Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by missmissy
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.
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    How many years were you a cheerleader?
  • hazeofpixiedust
    Feet on the ground, head in the sky.
    female
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by UnicornSag
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by missmissy
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?


    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.
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    Notice how you said months later.. They are still going through the break up with previous girl involved while he is dating this new girl. It's going to be a while before he is emotionally available to date. Seriously? Also what *types* of pictures he is liking is *sort of* important. Is it just photos showing her only, like selfies? Or is it food, beer etc. like other user posted? There's a difference. But still... any of that should be happening months down the road.

    Either way it's too soon. He should be dealing with his break-up alone without roping both girls into his obviously messy emotions. Dude needs a break from any females and you need a break from him until he gets his head on straight. butttt you seem hell bent on entering the mess so I guess learn the hard way...
  • beautifulsoul74
    "Most people strive to achieve balance within themselves. In terms of positive
    male from King Of December
    Posted by bittercupcake
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    At first I felt like you should maybe be worried. But if he does the same with another ex from a longer time ago, maybe that’s just his way of staying on friendly terms and it means nothing. Why not just ask him?

    So glad I seem to attract men that hate social media and I never have to think about these things. Good luck 🙏 Talk to him. That’s the only way you’ll know.


    I would agree, BUT it’s one thing to like pictures of an ex from years ago and flings who didn’t amount to anything versus an ex from only a little over a month ago.


    Yeah, a recent ex and paying a lot of attention to them online would really bother me too. I’m just wondering if this is just how he is, doing it just to be nice, or doing it to let the ex know he’s still paying attention and interested.


    That’s what I’m trying to figure out as well. Our mutual friend’s boyfriend knows a lot about their breakup so that’s how I know the details.

    I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). Maybe it’s just me, but that doesn’t sound like someone who is liking the pictures to just be nice...


    This all screams of red flags. Why are you going to stick around with a guy whose just using you as a rebound. He wanted to MARRY her. That’s big for a man. There’s no way he’s over her and it’s clear she’s not over him. I wouldn’t doubt that he’s trying to fix things up with her behind the scenes while you sit here pinning and dreaming about your futures, when the probability is, you two don’t have a future.

    Rule of thumb: don’t date someone who has just broken up. Chances are they’re not over their partner and you’re just a rebound. Good luck!


    1. Since when has liking a picture of an ex, especially when he likes his other exes posts mean he still wants to be with her?

    2. Talking about marriage doesn't mean you actually wanted to marry the person

    3. This guy is moving on if he's dating others so why does this mean he's not over her? Sounds like he is to me if he's dating around.


    I don’t understand why you’re asking redundant questions when the answers have already been provided. This guy was talking marriage with his ex who he just broke up with. Ime men don’t talk marriage unless he’s looking for something more concrete. Dating around also doesn’t mean he’ll truly move on. Men process emotions differently. It takes them a while before they begin to experience the heartbreak associated with a breakup. This is why they usually go back after months. He’s just using her as a bandaid to cover up that heartbreak.

    Ive been in situations where I’ve used other men to mask my pain and have said no to someone I loved because I was hurt and I wanted him to prove that he wanted me in his life, not because I was truly moving on even though it’s what my mind wanted. Feelings are harder to sever and men take longer to feel those feelings. It’s been proven that women process emotions faster than men. It’s the reason why the longer a man takes to come back, the harder it is to win her back. And also why men come back after months of dating around. The fact this guy is still in contact with his ex, will only make it harder for him to move on.

    I know this personally and also with men in my life who’ve done this. But if you want to live in a lie, go ahead.


    this x1000

    This is exactly what the guy is doing. If he didn't still want his ex after he turned her away he wouldn't have blown up her phone AND said he was struggling. If she had done something egregious like cheating this would be a different story. His ego was probably just hurt and probably felt like they had a lot of issues aka not enough to be completely rid of someone that you wanted to marry. Love just doesn't work like that. So he probably wants his ex to prove that she still wants him like bittercupcake said. Not sure if I'm right on this part, but I wouldn't be surprised if he's liking her things to get her attention.

    Bottom line is there's a difference between using someone as a distraction vs genuinely wanting to move on. Even if he never took her off social media, he still doesn't have to like her pictures. Genuinely moving means you give yourself time and space to heal, which he is not doing by liking her pictures. The difference between this ex and the other people is she the most recent one that he wanted to MARRY. By the way, discussing marriage with someone means that you want to marry them. You don't discuss that unless you want to marry the person...


    Exactly. The only way I was able to move on from the Leo was by cutting him off out of my life. But it took me a year to do so and in the meantime, I was dating around and talking to other men. It sucks because a lot of these men wanted something serious with me. I couldn't bring myself to commit though. Even my Aries has said that if we were to break things off, he'd cut off all contact, because it would be too painful to keep me around. He'd only be around if he wanted to be with me.

    Thing is if you've truly moved on or wanted to move on, there would be no reason to keep an ex around while you're healing. For two possible reasons: #1 to heal and move on or #2 to avoid giving the other person false hope that there could be a possible reconciliation.

    This guy isn't done with his ex. That door is still open.
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    +1

  • Posted by UnicornSag
    Posted by bizzybee84
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    Posted by missmissy
    Posted by hazeofpixiedust
    OP - he's still wrapped up in his ex. plain and simple.

    Get movin' with your life. You deserve better.


    Thanks. I have a date lined up with someone new for this weekend.

    I guess I’m not seeing things clearly. I’m not sure if you saw this update or not:

    So apparently after he turned her away he was blowing up her phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that he tried to make her jealous (I don’t agree). He snapped a video of his food and then showed the girl he was on a date then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling her that he was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

    Anyway, she said she was hurt but loved him enough to be happy for him to be moving on. He replied with a question mark, and she said your video that you posted. He told her how he loved her very much but they just argued a lot. Then sent her another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on his dating life. She said she wasn’t asking but wished him all the best. He then liked her picture a few days later and I was told he was looking at her social media. This happened in November. He’s still liking her stuff now.

    ^^^
    How is that wrapped up? If he turned down her reconciliation and told her not to ask questions about his dating life, doesn’t that sound like he’s moved on?


    lol are you serious? It's actually worse than I thought than just with the pics.. You might have blinders on because you like they guy ( or are you young?) and I guess you would have to go through this quite a few times to realize what all this means..... He is still toying with her. Playing games. Playing hard to get. He's even making effort to make her jealous. Why? Why does he even contact her? Then it dies down and he likes a pic of hers days later. He should be focusing on you. Whether he is trying to hurt her, or whatever the case may be.... WHY? is the question.. Why would he be on a date with you but still focused on her enough to post the pic??? And yes - he was trying to make her jealous in doing that...In fact he might just be using you to make her jealous. She actually doesn't seem that interested. Your man is the one doing the damage here. Hun. he is still wrapped up in her. Sorry to say. You learn as you go that these are huge (literally, GIGANTIC) red flags and things won't work out in the end. You're being taken for a ride as a rebound. When he stops talking to her, about her, he is a free man and all yours. Until then, he still belongs to her in his mind... make sense? I really hope so.. In time you'll learn this stuff always rings true. Please don't learn all of this the hard way with this dude... Best to you, I know it sucks..



    Good insight.

    I hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment. He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

    You really think that's it?
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    Yea I do.

    My ex had some serious issues. She eventually cheated on me. I broke up with her but I still kept her on social media. Now, I didn’t like her posts for a good three or four months, but after that I started liking her pictures here and there. She would posts things with her sister who I had gotten close with, food, beer,etc.-I would mainly like things of that nature. I liked the pictures because I was happy that she seemed to be doing well.
  • OCJack
    Shwiggity shwag what's in da quantum electrodynamic bag?
    24 years old male from The Void, Damned To, Hell
    Posted by PayMeek_NoMind
    you already lining youself up to fall way to hard for somebody that is going through a rebound phase you have to be more guarded of your heart and feelings
    Love is love.
  • OCJack
    Shwiggity shwag what's in da quantum electrodynamic bag?
    24 years old male from The Void, Damned To, Hell
    Posted by missmissy
    I met this guy about a month ago. We seem to be hitting it off. The issue is he likes about every other picture his ex has posted. They broke up in early October.

    I’m trying to tell myself it’s just him liking the content. He’ll like his other ex’s pictures too, but she’s from years ago. He’ll even like pictures of old flings that didn’t work out, so maybe he’s just weird?

    Either way should I be worried?
    You should always be worried that if you haven't confronted him about becoming exclusive, that he'll end up with someone else. That's kinda just the way of the world.

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