I'm in my 30s, he's in his 50s - do I initiate?

If there are any older men here, or women around my age - what is your view about a younger woman wanting to date a man 20 years older? Do I do the asking? It is also a work thing. I know him going after me might make him look creepy, plus we work toget
asw8July 11, 2018 1:07pm
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  • Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    I would never butter where I eat.


    So liking someone for you is ‘butterting’? That figures...
    And google how many people had met at a workplace. I think it’s 60% .
    👯‍♀️


    Its a saying. Like, don't mix business with pleasure.


    Not every saying is true. Most people met and formed families AT workplace! Well...before dating sites maybe but still...


    Well idk about most people. I only know myself and I would not...wait for it...butter where I eat.


    So...if you fell for someone (not sure if you understand the meaning of ‘fell for’) at work - you would just dismiss it? Ha! Sure!!!
    It’s just you probably don’t have much in a love/sex department...
    You love furniture more than men. Not there is anything wrong with that...


    Falling is a choice. I'm saying its a choice I'm not gonna make.
    click to expand


    Do you really believe it’s a choice?
    Why whoukd I choose THAT?
    Being hurt 24/7? You are just cold hearted individual and trust me - one day you will fall!
    Then come to me. I’ll hive you a hug! If I am still alive...cookiemonster! ❤️
  • LadyNeptune
    🌵🍋🌿
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    I would never butter where I eat.


    So liking someone for you is ‘butterting’? That figures...
    And google how many people had met at a workplace. I think it’s 60% .
    👯‍♀️


    Its a saying. Like, don't mix business with pleasure.


    Not every saying is true. Most people met and formed families AT workplace! Well...before dating sites maybe but still...


    Well idk about most people. I only know myself and I would not...wait for it...butter where I eat.


    So...if you fell for someone (not sure if you understand the meaning of ‘fell for’) at work - you would just dismiss it? Ha! Sure!!!
    It’s just you probably don’t have much in a love/sex department...
    You love furniture more than men. Not there is anything wrong with that...
    click to expand


    Falling is a choice. I'm saying its a choice I'm not gonna make.
  • Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    I would never butter where I eat.


    So liking someone for you is ‘butterting’? That figures...
    And google how many people had met at a workplace. I think it’s 60% .
    👯‍♀️


    Its a saying. Like, don't mix business with pleasure.


    Not every saying is true. Most people met and formed families AT workplace! Well...before dating sites maybe but still...


    Well idk about most people. I only know myself and I would not...wait for it...butter where I eat.
    click to expand


    So...if you fell for someone (not sure if you understand the meaning of ‘fell for’) at work - you would just dismiss it? Ha! Sure!!!
    It’s just you probably don’t have much in a love/sex department...
    You love furniture more than men. Not there is anything wrong with that...
  • LadyNeptune
    🌵🍋🌿
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    I would never butter where I eat.


    So liking someone for you is ‘butterting’? That figures...
    And google how many people had met at a workplace. I think it’s 60% .
    👯‍♀️


    Its a saying. Like, don't mix business with pleasure.


    Not every saying is true. Most people met and formed families AT workplace! Well...before dating sites maybe but still...
    click to expand


    Well idk about most people. I only know myself and I would not...wait for it...butter where I eat.
  • Posted by LadyNeptune
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    I would never butter where I eat.


    So liking someone for you is ‘butterting’? That figures...
    And google how many people had met at a workplace. I think it’s 60% .
    👯‍♀️


    Its a saying. Like, don't mix business with pleasure.
    click to expand


    Not every saying is true. Most people met and formed families AT workplace! Well...before dating sites maybe but still...
  • LadyNeptune
    🌵🍋🌿
    Posted by Gemitati
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    I would never butter where I eat.


    So liking someone for you is ‘butterting’? That figures...
    And google how many people had met at a workplace. I think it’s 60% .
    👯‍♀️
    click to expand


    Its a saying. Like, don't mix business with pleasure.
  • Posted by Waterbearerwearer
    You’re describing a kind of hell that Dante would roll in his grave over.


    Why?
  • Posted by LadyNeptune
    I would never butter where I eat.


    So liking someone for you is ‘butterting’? That figures...
    And google how many people had met at a workplace. I think it’s 60% .
    👯‍♀️
  • You’re describing a kind of hell that Dante would roll in his grave over.
  • lol now I'm scared to.
  • Jade_Alexander
    Libra ☀️ Gemini 🌙
    I think you should ask him once you’re leaving. If he says no, then you don’t have to see him again.
  • I aint gonna lie, the place i work at is temptation island. So many attractive girls at my company. And they work in different departments too!

    So OP I get where you are coming from albeit slightly. If i wasn't focused on escaping my living exploitment nightmare i would definitely be testing the waters.

    But if he feels comfortable again around you the invite him to a group of co workers outing first.

    Like someone else said you want to build rapport first instead of diving in.
  • DMV
    anybody else wanna be a hero? Sag Sun Scorpio Moon Scorpio Merc
    36 years old
    Why not.

    Love is HARD to find.
  • There's something about him. Just like any other man my age, or my ex who was also a bit older. There's an attraction and I want to get to know him but... there seems to be a but... I'm mature enough to not let personal and professional affect each other in anyway. But I understand he may not see it that way.
  • Work is tough if he’s higher up. Maybe reach out after you leave? What’s the attraction with 20 years older? That’s a big age difference. Im in my 50’s btw. It seems the biggest thing is if you’re in the same lifestage not necessarily the age. I tend to date younger due to that, but not right now lol

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