At wits end literally.....................

Hi I have been reading through this forum and have found it very interesting to say the least. I wondered if you Scorps would mind helping me. It's a bit long winded, here it goes??_??_??_

So I started seeing my Scorp in October last year, when I say seeing I don't know what it is (he said its more than —just?? friends) Although we have only slept together a couple of times (incl oral sex😉 and speak more or less everyday over bb about random topics. Anyway I have known him since I was 17 (I'm now 27) We lost contact as we were in relationships which have now ended and both moved back home. Initially he pursued me. We spoke on the phone for hours and it got very intense very quickly then he started to back away. I thought we were getting somewhere as he said he could see himself settling down with me and even discussed how many kids we would have? Around end of November he randomly messages me saying —We don't have the same vision etc etc?? So I'm thinking like WTF? I sent him a heartfelt message saying don't know why he is saying that cause we both know we have feelings for each other and he once said we did have the same —vision??. I chased him, he was very blazhay, I continued with my persistence (as this is the man for me). The last time I saw him was just before Christmas. I decided I??d give him his space then he was back on my case (which I loved) Around New Year he made some spiteful comments so I just retaliated (but held back A LOT) So a few days into the New Year he messages me saying he's got a free house and If I wanted to stay with him for a few days (?) Please bear in mind that we message each other back and forth everyday more or less all the while since October till date.

As it happens I was out of the area but wouldn't have gone anyway, cause in my mind decided I couldn't continue sleeping with him, it's just too painful for me cause my feelings for him began to get stronger and he was still hot and cold! So he ended up calling me that same day and we had a really nice conversation. He told me he liked me a lot (he's done this ONCE before only) Anyway he asked me if I missed him, I told him that I miss him every time I'm not with him (which is a fact) He didn't seem to believe me. I asked if he missed me, to which he replied he did. He said he was gona call me before the night was out (he didn't) I didn't hold my breath anyway.

Last week he messages me saying —I like you a lot?? So I say —Ok, where does that leave us— Then he said —I want you??. I instantly became annoyed —assuming?? he was talking of sex (I KNOW I shouldn't have assumed) Anyway I stupidly just said to him we??d be better off as friends! WTF is wrong with me!! I was just frustrated and treetrunked off with him. Anyway he ignores me for the rest of the evening. He randomly messages me the next day saying —You??re right, we are better off as friends etc etc?? Anyway I know I treetrunked up as this may have potentially ruined me! So I just told him I was mad, I really like you a lot, I wana be more than friends. So the next day he just messages me like he hadn't even acknowledged what happened the previous day. A few days ago I messaged him a long heart felt email explaining that I can't stop thinking about him and I care for him deeply etc etc, basically I poured my heart out. He has had 3 months of me telling him of my feelings and the one time he opens up to me I say —lets be friends?? ARRGGHh! That was probably equal to rejection in his mind. Anyway he still messages me just doesn't talk of that email I sent him. I think he is going through one of his —the world doesn't understand me phases?? as per his status. He said he didn't want to hear from anyone but I text him saying —I hope you??re OK, you know I care for you and I'm here if you need?? to which he replies back (the next day) —I always need you??. What do you make of all this?

Can you guys evaluate this for me and give me your advice/comments, anything would be greatly appreciated! I am going out of my treetrunking mind; I am falling so hard for this man. I have never felt like this about anybody.

His planet placements
Sun in Scorpio
Moon in Scorpio
Mercury in Scorpio
Venus in Sagittarius
Mars in Capricorn
Jupiter in Capricorn
Saturn in Scorpio
Uranus in Sag
Neptune in Sag
Pluto in Scorp
Leo rising

My placements
Sun in Sag
Moon in Capricorn
Mercury in Sag
Venus in Cap
Mars in Aquarius
Jupiter in Cap
Saturn in Scorp
Uranus in Sag
Neptune in Sag
Pluto in Scorp
Virgo rising

Wow what a roller coaster. And what a lot of scorp in his chart.

Well obviously he still wants to be with you. Idk my instinct would be to hit it hard. not sexually of course 😛 I'm not a scorpio sun, but I do have a scorpio moon. It can get very emotional for us

Have to agree with Stinger Baby. The Cap placements mean keep the emotional output light. Scorpio means let me throw out some danglers to keep her around. Doesnt mean he is conscious he is doing this, but still its being done.

Just make sure YOU are receiving what you are GIVING to him. 50-50 in the relationship. You sound head over heels for him, which can blind you. Remember YOUR value and keep evaluating if he is respecting your value and treating you with consistentcy.

Fuck his brains out weeehooooo!

Posted by Sag89
Fuck his brains out weeehooooo!

Jeeze sag! lol Though I'm kinda getting in that mood today :/ wish I had someone to do that with

He puts in very little effort to get you to bend over and grab your ankles .. in fact, you appear eager to do so.

Posted by P-Angel
He puts in very little effort to get you to bend over and grab your ankles .. in fact, you appear eager to do so.

lolz

I've dated mostly Scorpios, only women, but I don't think it really matters--Scorpio is Scorpio--and it sounds like he's dangling something in front of you, keeping you on a string, leading you on.... I've done that to a girl before (she was actually a Scorp herself with a Taurus rising), and what you wrote about him sounds exactly like what I did to her, so it could be the case. One thing you gotta know about Scorpios is that if they want you all the way, they will have you. They only play games, I think (and I only think because I don't know for sure) if they're not 100% sure and there's some test you need to pass. At this point, however, the point you're in, I'd say cut ties and if he wants you he'll come after you full force. He'll do that because Scorpios hate losing and won't give up if they're passionate about something. And yes to whoever it was who mentioned the Cap holding back feelings thing. I have a Cap Venus and it's incredibly difficult for me to honestly express how I feel romantically, even when it matters most. I don't know why though.

Scorpios are very hard to understand (maybe impossible), but being a Sag, you should be able to see through the bullshit. At least most Sagittarians I know are excellent at seeing things for how they really are.

WOW, thanks guys for all your feedback, much appreciated!

I feel as though I am letting my emotions get the better of me and need to control myself with IMMEDIATE effect-lol! So stupidly I message my Scorp yesterday saying 'I've decided I don't just want you, I need you'' (just for a reaction) to which he replies back saying ''I dont doubt how you feel nor have I said that, your feelings will pass. This is just how you feel now'' to which I said ''Well live for the moment then''. He hasn't responded but I am so used to such behaviour that I don't even expect a reply.

The thing that puzzles me is that we are not even having sex but he is just keeping me there on the back burner. FOOL!

Should I avoid him totally—? And if he messages me should I just ignore him completely? Should I just cut him off without saying anything to him? I never let my emotions get the better of me normally but I need to take my control back. He doesn't make me feel secure, I don't know whether I'm coming or going, it is emotionally draining to say the least!!!!! Such is life!!!!

I really feel you guys have given me some guidance🙂 I just needed someone to share this with as my friends do not like him and haven't even met the guy yet. Ha X

Read the book "Why Men Love Bitches". And yes, you should go no contact IMO...until you regain your self respect and self control. You seem to have lost a bit of yourself to this man...with nothing in return from him. I been there, and now Im not. I prefer to have 100% of myself, even if it means not having *him*.

I read this and chuckle. The Scorp you are dealing with has the same placements as one of whom I've known now for 2.5 years ... Sun, moon, merc, venus (I dont know his asc.), and may have more but I would have to pull his chart.

What's strange, and why I chuckle is where you're at now with him, after your comment about just being friends? That's exactly what his and my conversation was over two years ago... me thinking he was messing with me so I told him the same thing. And from there? Over two years of constant MIA, encrypted messages, me jumping thru hoops thru his tests, me giving him the what fors and not talking to him for months, everything and anything under the sun.

His words sound very much like how this Scorp talks to and with me. My best advice, everything has a meaning behind what he says. He's very smart, thinks a lot, and also is very suspicious of everything including you and/or your words. Both his Moon and Sun are Scorp so his suspicions and traits run stronger. So my thought is that he feels youre just saying things to get back into his good graces and truly don't mean them, and only for the moment both because he feels it will pass for you...a fleeting thought or emotion on your end...and again because he feels you are just saying that you want him. But also show passion, and MEAN it. He needs to see and feel it through your words, passion shows you care. That you're serious about him and you two.

I wont be surprised if this is where he goes MIA, but also test you too. Send you random texts that'll leave you thinking "wth is he talking about?" There will be something behind it. Guaranteed. Be ready to think. Hes making sure you're on top of things, remembering things, and testing you ... to see if and where you slip up. BUT through all of this become one with him and his mind. You'll find it fascinating, frustrating, comical, sad, and amazing all at the same time. Remember though to be yourself, stand strong, and don't let him get away with too many things that go against your grain. But when you do bite or "fight" back, do so with integrity and decency.

I do have to say DON'T be hurtful. You're on damage control now. You really are on a fine line right now because of what you said about being friends. One wrong word or hurtful word that HE feels it is, could be enough for him to begin his journey to get over you. If he's serious and sets his mind to it, there wont be any turning back for him. So tread lightly.

Ocean THANK you so much. Your advice is actually a god send!!!!!! The thing is after I sent him the initial "let's be friends' cause I was frustrated I really did send him a deep email which was full of passion and all the feelings I have for him from the bottom of my heart and he hasn't even spoken about that email. Its as if it never even happened? Like what the treetrunk is that about—??

He's continuing to 'constantly' update his status which is not the norm for him. Its like he's trying to get a reaction from me (?)

So should I got M.I.A on him? I am so confused right now! I have followed my heart with his foolish ways when I should have followed my head. I just can't stand the mind games (but obviously want him hence why I suffered his butter)

Ah thank you so much Stinger baby. Yes I will leave him alone and let him chase me. I know it seems mad but the way I feel about him makes me think about having his kids, living the rest of my life with him. How crazy is that?

I shall update you further once he comes running and I just know he will🙂 (a girl can dream) HA! Xxxx

Posted by SagChick411

.... he is just keeping me there on the back burner. FOOL!

Correction .... you keep yourself on the back burner

You are worthless in this relationship because you allow you to treat yourself that way.


Somewhere in here you said you will just continue to play and let him chase you ... so, it's obvious that you have no clue that it further devalues you. You have no credibility, and certainly this is why your people in real life aren't listening to you = because you have no honor or dignity at all, and actually believe this to be worthy of you.

You will get what you are calling for ... and then I'm certain you will think it's been done to you and you will have no clue that it's been done BY you.

Posted by PiscesZero
I've dated mostly Scorpios, only women, but I don't think it really matters--Scorpio is Scorpio--and it sounds like he's dangling something in front of you, keeping you on a string, leading you on.... I've done that to a girl before (she was actually a Scorp herself with a Taurus rising), and what you wrote about him sounds exactly like what I did to her, so it could be the case. One thing you gotta know about Scorpios is that if they want you all the way, they will have you. They only play games, I think (and I only think because I don't know for sure) if they're not 100% sure and there's some test you need to pass. At this point, however, the point you're in, I'd say cut ties and if he wants you he'll come after you full force. He'll do that because Scorpios hate losing and won't give up if they're passionate about something. And yes to whoever it was who mentioned the Cap holding back feelings thing. I have a Cap Venus and it's incredibly difficult for me to honestly express how I feel romantically, even when it matters most. I don't know why though.

Scorpios are very hard to understand (maybe impossible), but being a Sag, you should be able to see through the bullshit. At least most Sagittarians I know are excellent at seeing things for how they really are.

I ALMOST Agree to all you have said.. Though I of a bit of Sag. Placements do I bs the bsters lol

I think when Scorp. Is at the point of doing things like that.. He is deciding to not let you into his life..until HE is interested enough to.. It has nothing to do with you at all I don't think.. I personally think he's fighting with himself.

@P-Angel, I hate to admit it but I think you're right. I just feel so caught up in this whole affair.

I feel as though I have regained a little piece of my sanity back now. I am letting him be and getting on with my life. I deserve better and don't want to be treated this way or allow myself to be treated this way.


@Scorsagian7, I think you are totally right about him deciding to not let me into his life!

His ex left him quite emotionally scarred for reasons unknown to me so he has major trust issues, which is understandable but so have I as my ex cheated on me various times and I only found out after I split with him. I guess I always had an inkling but was too blind to see.

I think I always let my emotions get the better of me when I should go with what my gut tells me, I always kick myself afterwards for it.

My Scorp has continued to send out pointless broadcasts and update his status a ridiculous amount of times. What the hell is wrong with him (?) *huffs*

OK So I've made a decision to TOTALLY delete my Scorp. I need to regain my sanity and now after deleting him I feel it has come back somewhat! HALLELUJAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No. No. No. No. No! Listen to OceanDeep, she knows what she is talking about! I am dealing with a scorpio man just like this.
(From what I've seen with my Scorpio man) Scorpio men rarely put their feelings out there, and when you rejected him (ESP b/c he is a man first of all-huge ego thing) you really hurt his feelings. He doesn't want to put his whole heart into a relationship he's scared of.
I have that Aries fiery temper that I've let loose on my Scorpio man a number of times. I know all about that damage control. I'll say something that hurt his feelings. The next day, maybe it's my moon in Pisces, I'll apologize and try and makeup for what I said. Nothing will work with him except for telling him how much I care about him. I mean, I could tell him he'd have the best sex of his life if he came over, and he'd tell me to leave him alone. But the next minute I could tell him how much I care about him, how sweet and wondeful he is, how he's the only one for me etc. and all would be forgiven.
The thing you're going to have to understand about this man is.. he's probably always going to be this confusing and holding himself back from you. You have to ask yourself - do you want to deal with that?
I personally have a Sun in Aries and a Venus in Aquarius. So, I love to chase after men - Aries. In fact, I don't think I can fall in love with a man unless I have that opportunity to chase after him. Scorpio man rejecting me after I blow balls of fire at him and then having to make up to him + that reserved feelings nature of him gives me that chasing aspect I so crave. Plus my Venus in Aquarius loves always having to figure out his mysterious self. He is very reserved and sometimes does odd things - it is actually kind of fun for me to try and decide why he is acting the way he is now. (Usually it was he caught me "flirting" with another man and doesn't mention anything about it but gives me more of a cold shoulder than he usually does.) Lord knows, I have gone through my share of dating men already and I have just gotten so bored with dating I don't really want to bother anymore because there's just no challenge to it anymore. So I love that about my Scorpio man. He's mysterious/challenging but I know he has a big heart to give me underneath.
IF that kind of sounds like you.. I say you still have a chance if you tell him everything in your heart again.. I would wait a while first of course. (days or weeks depending on what you said to him exactly) But tha

*But that's only if you like the challenge or drama or whatever.

UH OH......I think I've made the biggest mistake of my life!

So on Sunday I email Roc (my Scorp) a very long passion filled, heart felt email expressing ALL my emotions, I spilled my guts out. Like you said Ocean he may go MIA, well he did until yesterday but just casually texts me saying 'Alright love' to which I reply, 'No, not really, when am I gona see you? I miss you' to which he replies back saying 'What's wrong with you?'.

It actually infuriated me to the point of where I text him back something like 'I'm not gona continue spilling my guys out to you over and over and again. I don't know where I stand with you'. He acknowledged that text but ignored me BUT had the time to send out a broadcast totally ignoring my text. My sister was with me and she was more madder than me and was like 'DELETE him, he's treetrunking with your emotions and you just don't need that butter' STUPIDLY I listened to her and sent him a text saying something like 'My time is very important to me and I'm not gona continue wasting it on you, see you round' AND deleted him off my blackberry messenger before I could see that he read it.

ARRRGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH WHAT HAVE I DONE————!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I still have his number and email ad, and he still has mine. I dreamt about him last night and he's all I've been thinking of since I woke up. I have a pain in my heart. I miss just stalking him on my bb and now he's gone *sobs*

HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP 😢

OHHHHH WHAT HAVE I DONEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😢

Girl, get a hold of yourself. One minute you want him, next you dump him. Can't you control yourself? Getting emo is what's causing your problems. I don;t know if you are a teenager, which would explain all this back and forth.

If you want to clean up your mess, stop listening to your sister, stops stalking him. Pick up the phone and speak like an adult, from the heart, off the text/emails. Electronic communication for important relating is bullshit. Take control on yourself, ask where you stand and be prepared for rejection. At least you will know and can stop all this drama. Good luck.

LOL! OK but the thing is he's NEVER taken any of my calls whenever I've called him. Its like what he says has to be controlled incase he says the wrong thing to me! I will call him and see what happens but it would be very surprising if he answers atal anyway especially as though now I totally treetrunked it up.

A good slap in the face is exactly what I need! Somebody slap me senseless immediately!

Bad move taking advice from my sister who is a Scorp herself. Arrrgghhhhh!!! I'm going to call him this evening after he finishes work, I shall update you whether he answers or not. This is my own doing anyway and I will have to face the consequences! I don't do myself any favours. What is wrong with me (?)
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Ai yai yai *smh*

Girl, wth—? Outside of holding your hand, I gave you past experience of the same exact thing that happened to me. And what to do with damage control. *smh* It's that sagginess, swear to God has to be ... my Moon is saggi, and patience is not something Sagginess has all of the time.

BUT, the one thing you need to remember is even IF you want his undevided and undying love 24/7 you will feel stifled! He on the other hand will too!! So for the sake of Baby Jesus, look beyond the here and now because even IF he was all over you, you would hate it!

Also, remember chicky, I told you to go into his mind! As hard as that is, and I guess I may have 2.5 years of well trained and both lived and breathed experience, you HAVE to stop and think before you react to anything! That includes if you ARE hearing from him, or you ARENT hearing from him. Hard as hell? OMG, Yes to the YES! But in order for you to gain any prespective let alone any control over yourself, you HAVE TO stop and think. And if you can't think of anything, then say 'what do you mean'.

And he is going to hate talking on the phone, dont take it personal!! Even if he does once in awhile, it will also more than likely have to be him to pick up the phone, on his own time and when he feels like having the voice to voice convo..he doesnt have time for it (the phone) AND he isn't going to want to get into the mushy details of your relationship. Hates it. BUT he needs you to give him the love, adoration, and appreciation on a continual basis that you feel for him. BUT not to the point of where he feels you are being insincere. So texting may be his thing, BUT he also needs it up close and personal also when you say the 'you are so handsome' right before you kiss him, or caress his face, or whatever. ADORE the man, and your actions and words will come through into that head of his. AND at the same time, his suspicions of you will grow greater, and more and more tests will be thrown at you.

If anything, drive to his house. If he's not there, leave a note. Show him you are trying. BUT, and I cannot scream it enough, BUT

you have got to quit with this every two mins you are ending it with him. Would you want or trust someone who kept doing that to you? Would you trust their love? Hell to the facking no.

And quit listening to your sister. Scorp men and women are different. And case and point, just an example: my bestie is a Scorp. Whenever I listened to her on this? Or another Scorp I dealt with? I kicked myself afterwards. Whenever I went with what MY gut said? I was right to have. They(men and women scorps) have the same fundamental base, but the men's emotions and line of thinking or doings are different. Hard to explain, but it is.

Once again, Ocean Deep carries it home. Truth in her words. Girl rocks 😉

wtf —?



You get a grip and make a stand of your convictions ... and then immediately fall into miserable suffering —

And then go chasing him .. not based on him proving to you that he is worth you, rather because you can't stand yourself otherwise?


:::: shakes head ::::

OK so I called my boy and needless to say he didn't answer. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm............

He's currently living with his dad and I don't even know where he lives otherwise believe me I would go there! I think I have lost the battle now. What else can I do to resurrect the situation. I AM SO FOOLISH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the slap DominOo, just what I needed. I am now back and have realised what a HUGE treetrunking mistake I have made......I feel to cry my pathetic little heart out!!!!!!!!!!

I feel like a total idiot!

Thanks for your advice OceanDeep, once again much appreciated 🙂

Wait..I don't get it. Where do you come into all of this, SagChick? When will your needs be met? I didn't see that part in OceanDeeps plan.

Whether is misconstrued as a plan on my part or not, I could care less. It's not a plan, it's called looking outside of ourselves.

Errybody needs to go back and reread her original post. He said he liked her, he said he wanted her, and SHE was the one who didnt sit back and think first and took it wrong, and has continued on this see saw of I love you I hate you with him, which would make anyone either step back and reevalute, completely disappear, or tell someone to have a great life they're sick of it and her.

What? He's supposed to slip a ring on her finger and propose ASAP or when he said he really liked her? Or now when she again blew up on him? Flackin hell, I'd be hiding out from her too not knowing if she loved me right now, or hated me because it changes with any given breath.

You either have the guts to deal with a Scorpio or your don't. There is no inbetween. Hairpulling, yes. Understanding of them is a must, and if you cant look beyond yourself and realize so much of who they are inside? You'll never survive, you'll always be up in arms, and you'll don't deserve to even have a taste of their love.

It's not him who's blowing it. It's her.

Yes Ocean you have a valid point. It sounds so much clearer from an outsiders prespective. So he didn't answer. What does one do? I am pretty sad I have acted like the biggest douche!

rockchick !!!


How have you been?

It's great when you pop in .. good to see you.

Thanks for all your input guys. It has toughened me up to say the least. I tried calling him a couple times but to no avail.....no surprise there!

I care for him deeply but think I've learned a very valuable lesson from my rollercoaster of emotions. I hope he comes back but what are the chances ey? Well a girl can dream!

I just can't stop thinking about him! I've been so busy all week too but I just can't seem to shake off thoughts of him 😢

So.......my Scorp got in touch with me. At first it was just a 'generic' (yeah right) text for his new mixtape download. I didn't respond as there was nothing to say. 2 days later he texts me something something really very sexual so I message him back ignoring his sexual comment as I don't want to get into that.

He messages me something sexual again on Friday and I responded (couldn't help myself) So he's like 'Let's link up, where are you?' I told him I was out but would be home in the hour which he said was perfect as our timings would coincide. He said he had something to do after so it would only be for an hour to which I replied 'Cool by babe, I gotta bounce then to so you can get on with whatever you're doing and I'll go my way' kinda thing!! He then replies 'Errmmmmm Ohhhhh K then' but didn't get back in touch after I asked where he was?

He text me yesterday saying 'Wasn't on it then?'. Like WTF— He must be smoking something. He's the one who never even responded-LOL!

I haven't messaged him back, it just made me think, what treetrunking cheek.

What does one do? *Sighs*

Posted by Stinger Baby
one stops playing games and moves one's self on.... yeh that sounds like a good idea. you like the game, thats why you give in. you got it bad. and you will never be rid of him. but its your life. whatever you feel like doing ...

I hate the game that's the thing. I am trying to stay hopeful to the fact that he might come back 100% so I give in, but I am clearly kidding myself. ARRGGHHHH!!!!!! lol

I must say though I handle him reeling me back in so much better than before cause I've experienced his butter oh so many times now. *shakes head* *rolls eyes*

you hate it but you still play it...? and accept he only wants to see you for sex?

Go out and get you some self esteem. When you start respecting yourself, then so will he.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
you hate it but you still play it...? and accept he only wants to see you for sex?

Go out and get you some self esteem. When you start respecting yourself, then so will he.

Yeah you're very right!! Treetrunk him!! I just won't respond to anything now. If he comes back at some point I'll have moved on properly!!

Thanks! x

You shouldn't be the only one putting in all of the effort. He's playing games. He knows you care about him. He loves the fact that he can play with your head. I say put a stop to it. It will always be this way with this man. You're driving yourself crazy trying to make sense out of this nonsense.

...So the Scorp is BACK!!!!!!!

He randomly CALLS me today (he never calls). He asked why I had disappeared off the face of the earth and tried telling me that he KNOWS that 'I' don't live round the way anymore cause he hasn't seen me take my dog for a walk? (I haven't moved btw)

He asked if I had forgotten about him. He said he'd like to take me out if I let him? He also asked me to hang this evening (strictly as friends). I told him I was having an early night (which is the case)

I do feel like I'm in a better place to handle the situation but what to do? I don't want to sleep with him (although it'd be nice) HA! I just can't do it for my own sanity so i wouldn't. Maybe I want him to have actual 'feelings' for me but he's probably just got sex on his mind?

Any advice guys please?

LOL!! Thanks for the advice 🙂

I have come to the realization that I don't feel the same emotions to the Scorp as I once did. Infact for some bizarre I really can't see why I was pining after him, wanting for him to be my man so to speak.

I think it's cause I was so desperate to feel a the famous Scorp textbook loving that I was deluding myself into thinking he was this perfect guy.

I really had to ask myself If I even would like for him to take me out and the answer is no, not really.

Maybe in time I could sleep with him without that once emotional attachment on my part being present or is that a dangerous game?

Have I turned into an emotionless robot? HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!

Posted by DazedScorp
If I've learned one thing from this thread...

It's that sex with a Scorpio is the closest I'll get to being able to shit a rainbow.

This is advice I will pass onto my grandchildren someday.

oh SagChick. I do feel for you and I do feel for him.

I believe he has genuine interest in you. I think he can't figure you out sometimes.

When time passes, you may start missing him.

I feel for SAG man that way, especially when we have been together. Until I had my courage to see him again, I worked myself to an emotional numbness. I even thought what the big fuss was about that I adore him so much. I didn't feel my usual butterflies. It's a good survival mechanism to convince yourself that your world does not depend on someone else. However, if I had not cared, I wouldn't feel hurt, happy or excited hearing from him. I do adore him! All yesterday and today I felt annoyed with SAG man thinking he may be playing with me. Just a few minutes ago, I remembered he actually sent me a happy Valentines note this year. I had not talked to him for a month before then.

The way I see your Scorp man is that he is actually pretty open with you. He said, he missed you loads. You said, you weren't sure. If you don't hear from him tomorrow, it is because he will think you are not interested.

I felt the same for SAG man today. I still wonder, if all this time I adored him, was all platonic and a big fat misunderstanding. His response was certainly not the way I had expected of him.

@Sag

Even before he came over he kept harpering on about what an early start he has tomorrow and that he has to go at a certain time to which I replied 'OK cool, do what you gotta do'. He gets the arse about this and questions me like 'What do you mean 'do what you gotta do?' I told him, 'What do you want from me?' Like 'if you have to work tomorrow and need to leave then do what you're doing?'

That right there is EXACTLY what my Scorpio does. EXACTLY. I was like holy shit when I read it. Like if you don't act like you care they get so fucked up about it, yet they remain calm and collected. GAH!

It seems like he cares for you outside of sex, but you just have to figure out what you want. It may be a long, difficult journey to get past all of his insecurities and other things that may annoy you, but if you want him, go for it full force and don't make things difficult. You either want to be with him or you don't. If you feel like you're starting to lose interest/feelings for him, hang out with him a little more to see if those feelings come back. I would say to not use sex to figure this out because if you realize you don't like him, he'll feel like you've been leading him on. Maybe.
Use your heart and mind on this.

Thanks for your comments guys, I really appreciate them!

He text me last night when he got home which is unlike him, saying; 'Goodnight babe' and then this this morning he texts me at the crack of dawn (when he wakes up for work) saying 'Are you awake?'. I was infact sleeping but messaged him when I woke up.

The thing is, he hasn't mentioned again about taking me out, so what do I do? Just continue saying it's cool for him to come over even when I'm not sure how I feel? OR do I ask him to take me out? (lol) So I can hang with him and then determine if I still have deep feelings for him. I feel really bad about this. I need to work out how I'm feeling...

I read my love horoscope last night and it said;

'The present planetary alignment may bring someone who thinks they understand you panting to your door, hoping for some kind of sign. Although this has the basis of a very good friendship, they are currently fantasizing about you, and could be way off beam. So you will need to calm them down and let them gently into your heart - if you really wish to. Otherwise be very firm.'

And his said;

'You have a brilliant opportunity today to create a change in the way you relate to someone. The present planetary alignment indicates that if you have been friends, you could discover that you have deeper feelings that both of you have been shy about acknowledging. Although you may initially find it difficult to talk about this, you will ultimately be glad that you could be honest with each other.'

I feel it's really accurate which is scary! I know these can be generic but it's the first time mines been so close, LOL!

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His response was certainly not the way I had expected of him.

What was his response??