Irrational Fear of losing Loved Ones?

Ah, my fellow Stingers...


Pray tell, have you ever been overwhelmed by the sudden wave of emotions crashing over you, particularly of sadness, loss, and fear of losing your loved ones, to have them abruptly taken away from you by death. Afraid you may not have them around you, and they can be gone forever? 😢

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Ah, my fellow Stingers...


Pray tell, have you ever been overwhelmed by the sudden wave of emotions crashing over you, particularly of sadness, loss, and fear of losing your loved ones, to have them abruptly taken away from you by death. Afraid you may not have them around you, and they can be gone forever? 😢

Yes. Not so much a "crashing" over me, but more like a annoying tickle in my chest that you can't get rid of and it causes you to overreact out of frustration/confusion.

Interesting PR, if I may ask further...

- Does it go away on its own or you have to will the 'annoying tickle' away?

- Does it affect your day or how you treat those loved ones when those occurrences happen?

It's magic ✨....


Thanks for transfering my response over 😄

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Interesting PR, if I may ask further...

- Does it go away on its own or you have to will the 'annoying tickle' away?

- Does it affect your day or how you treat those loved ones when those occurrences happen?

I will need to come back to answer, but I will.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
No. I haven't.

Do you have any planets in your 4th house?

Hmm, I think it to be empty.

Why is the 4th house relevant?

Aww Lady *hugs* sister.

Well I'm a Gem with cancer Venus and mars. I have abandonment issues, and fear this on the regular

Taurus is my 4th house

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Interesting PR, if I may ask further...

- Does it go away on its own or you have to will the 'annoying tickle' away?

- Does it affect your day or how you treat those loved ones when those occurrences happen?

Neither. The circumstance made the decision for me. No annoying tickle if there is no one to worry about losing right?

Affect my day? I suppose in a way. It did occupy my thoughts a lot, but not on a conscious level. It was after I reflected on a situation that I realized how present it was and how much I let it control me.

Yes, it did affect how I treated others (e.g. overreacting)

I had this as a child, and was forced to confront death very early in life. But then again I was raised to believe the world could end any minute and everyone I knew and loved would die. That's a lot for a kid with Sun conj Saturn in the 4th.

I now believe more along these lines

Posted by TachiMichi
In Kami no michi, (Shinto), death is another passage.
We are taught not to hold on to the physical.
Respect people while they are here.
Respect the spirit of the deceased.
Death is accepted, as we knew
it was to happen one day.
Is more solemn than sad.
Loved ones never leave.
Though they go to the spirit world
they are still very much part of family.
The revered deceased become protectors of family.

By the time I was in my teens I personally knew 33 people who had died, I stopped counting.

The latest, was a great friend who died unexpectedly 2 years after meeting him. I cried once... then I was ok. I handled his remains and all financial matters and honoured his life.

Posted by FrostAndBite
@shell, was it a religious thing? Raised to believe in death at any moment? How did your childhood relationships and connections change/survive when you outgrew those beliefs?

Sorry if I'm getting too personal, lol, just very curious for relating reasons.

Ya it was religion... more like a cult.

I guess I learned to let go, which is beneficial to someone with 3 Cancer placements. I can sever ties that no longer serve and remember people fondly without having them in my immediate life.

The fear of loss of loved ones is normal. Excessive fear is not.

Regardless what anyone says, death can come at any moment.
That's hard-reality Truth, not a "religion".

Posted by FrostAndBite

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by FrostAndBite
@shell, was it a religious thing? Raised to believe in death at any moment? How did your childhood relationships and connections change/survive when you outgrew those beliefs?

Sorry if I'm getting too personal, lol, just very curious for relating reasons.

Ya it was religion... more like a cult.

I guess I learned to let go, which is beneficial to someone with 3 Cancer placements. I can sever ties that no longer serve and remember people fondly without having them in my immediate life.

Damn, was hoping for another answer, lol. I trying to navigate the transition with a friend. We used to be similar in our philosophy, now not so much. I don't believe the same as her at all anymore while it's one of her most important tenets.

As of right now, we just don't talk religion that much. Which is hard, since it's her all and I can tell she is disappointed by things I think or do sometimes. She does keep it to herself, but I know her well enough to notice. It doesn't cause me any pain or trouble, but knowing it causes her discomfort does bruise a bit.

Guess I'll continue on down paths unknowns, lol.

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Is that Cancer Moon clinging?