Losing patience with this Scorp.

Hi, I'm sorry to hear you are suffering... I am in two minds about all this. I see some healthy self-respect in there ("He shouldn't be behaving this way") - hang onto that!

All I can say is, for me it's been a hard year but I now feel as though I am in a different place. However, I recognise that I am much more cautious - ie making no assumptions - even though I've met some family, we're talking about the future, etc. I've been almost here before, and then WHUMPF! away went the rug from under my feet. I'm not gong to tell HIM I feel that way, cos he may well have genuinely moved on... but I see it as actually quite a necessary part of my learning curve. I trust him. But I'm not blindly walking ahead thinking nothing could go wrong.

And isn't that the point? In fact I'm grateful that this process genuinely has toughened me up - to the point where I've confronted all my 'worst that can happen's. For me, the WTCH is that he disappears. And I know already, it would hert but I'd survive.

However, I also have healthy self esteem these days, and if he DID pull that one again, I would just face him out for one last talk, and calmly state my case. I don't think reacting in anger, even in texts, is a good thing - mainly because you need to maintain your dignity so that in the future you can feel great about yourself.

Another thing - why shouldn't he need time alone? And more to the point, why shouldn't YOU?? Now if he is quiet I just get on with things, always have stuff I've been doing to tell him about next time we talk. I know this is paying off cos I got a text which made me laugh - "How are you? Hope you've been enjoying working out/writing poetry/eating chips/walking/whatever you decided to do today." I think he appreciates that I have a life he can safely leave me to get on with if he's busy.

And yes, Scorps DO attract drama, they thrive on it. And they ARE busy. So the other way to see that is, hey, I figure in his schedule!

I do wish you all the best as you decided whether your love for him is worth the crap. Things changed with mine when I very calmly and lovingly said, "This is what I need from someone in a relationship - I don't know if you can give me this or not, but I've decided it's what I need. No pressure, but I'd love a response sometime."

I never got the response in words, but he upped his game several notches and I thin that was cos I stopped playing games and communicated as an adult.

Good luck, keep us posted! xx

i have few friends and they all involved with different sign men right now and all 3 going through the same thing. men don't know what they want and all are "i love you and now go away. i want to be with you but can't marry you. i want you to understand that i can't take it to the next level but don't want you seeing other men." they walk away from the men and men always beg to take them back. it's like a stupid game. so, they with the guys but looking for other men meanwhile. i don't particularly agree with that but can't say that they're wrong at the same time.
granted i'm with a scorp and he's being a bit weird lately. before he was talking about us being together but out of the blue he started acting weird and saying he's not ready and such. not like i'm pushing. but he's always around and spends all his time with me. at some point i thought it was over last week but now he's all good and nice and normal as before. wtf?
also, what's his venus sign?
yes, they do the phone thing. it's annoying.
i think it's pretty hard for pieces to be with a scorp since you guys are so sensitive.
must be a "relationship flu" going around 🙂

Viva, just reading this and wanted to send some more good wishes your way, and a hug too. You go, girl! BE yourself, get your life running so well you hardly miss him (okay, but try! 😉 ) and All Shall Be Well...

Me too! HAhahahaaa