Chowfun92
@Chowfun92
10 Years
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Ugh, I don't know how to read this Scorpio Male.
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He seemed serious when he said it, like I had offended him by even suggesting that I liked him, when he believed contrary.
I think he's jealous of the other attention I'm receiving from guys. I can't think of anything else.
I think he's jealous of the other attention I'm receiving from guys. I can't think of anything else.
Posted by Whatu
Okay here is how this works.
You told him you like him more that the other person. In his mind he hears the you like him % 75 of your heart and the other person % 25.
Naturally the Scorpio wan'ts that % 25 of your like for himself. So he gets all emo and then jumps to the conclusion that you hate him.
Maybe don't say things like that.
Scorpio men are emo, I can believe that!
See the thing is I said it in a joking trying to give him a hint. Like I like you more wink wink please get this hint BC I'm not going to come out and say I like you lots!!!
Also, I'm confused he used to joke that he hated me or didn't like me and when I returned the favor he got uptight about it. I don't understand why. Why play if you can't take it?
Posted by Chowfun92
He seemed serious when he said it, like I had offended him by even suggesting that I liked him, when he believed contrary.
I think he's jealous of the other attention I'm receiving from guys. I can't think of anything else.
You compared him to another dude...and clearly you like to flaunt the attention you get from other guys. Did you think he was going to drop to his knees, bow down and say thank you? Get over yourself..
Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
He seemed serious when he said it, like I had offended him by even suggesting that I liked him, when he believed contrary.
I think he's jealous of the other attention I'm receiving from guys. I can't think of anything else.
You compared him to another dude...and clearly you like to flaunt the attention you get from other guys. Did you think he was going to drop to his knees, bow down and say thank you? Get over yourself..click to expand
You clearly need to raise up out of my thread with your bullshit. I don't flaunt any attention, as I CANNOT control anything other people say or do. I do not reciprocate any attention from other males, I ignore it and look forward to the conversation that me and the SC have together. I didn't expect him to do no dramatic shit you expressed so stop with your unneeded sarcasm.
The SM went left by making accusations that I hate him that is an insecurity that he is projecting over to me. I NEVER gave this dude any indication other than me liking him. The same way you think he shouldn't fall down to his feet and be grateful for my acknowledgement, I'm not going to do the same and shower him with undivided attention and compliments. This is a two way street.
Posted by Rabbit
Why in the name of baby Jesus would you say something like that to someone?
I don't care what sign the other person is...they are going to get pissed.
Why would they get pissed? I'm sure your not understanding the context. It was a joking and playful event. I get teased all the time and poked at. I poke back and the world ends.
He teases me, its okay, but I tease him and he gets in his feelings.
I must not understand me, I won't claim that I do EVER, but this is ridiculous. My feelings aren't spared when you "joke" that you don't like me or hate me, but as soon as I say it back or I say the OPPOSITE that I like you and not the other person, you get in your feelings and flip that shit on me like I'm miss mean. I can't deal.
I must have skipped out on Guy Behavior 101: The Do's and Don'ts of the Male Sex. I'll be sure to reenroll in that class, because I'm clearly messing up.
There is not a fight scene that makes me cringe more than the Cripple Fight in South Park!
So with that said, I get your point.
Posted by Rabbit
It shouldn't be this hard.
That's all I have left to say.
It shouldn't. It really shouldn't. I have never encountered this before.
Posted by Whatu
Okay here is how this works.
You told him you like him more that the other person. In his mind he hears the you like him % 75 of your heart and the other person % 25.
Naturally the Scorpio wan'ts that % 25 of your like for himself. So he gets all emo...
Maybe don't say things like that.
Right. Playing coy has never been cute to me and it sounds like it's backfireing on you with this Scorp in particular. As stated before, stop worrying about "coming off" in a particular way and be yourself.
If you like him a lot, simply say so. Or don't, but why on earth you felt the need to bring up other men that you already know trigger him in a certain way is beyond me. If you're spending time with him, spend time with him. Your only focus should be getting to know him and letting him know the real you, not who you like more or less than him.
It also sounds like you haven't let go of the fact that he was cold in the beginning. I'd address that (aka get over it already) at some point.
Posted by Chowfun92
See the thing is I said it in a joking trying to give him a hint. Like I like you more wink wink please get this hint BC I'm not going to come out and say I like you lots!!!
Why not?
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Whatu
Okay here is how this works.
You told him you like him more that the other person. In his mind he hears the you like him % 75 of your heart and the other person % 25.
Naturally the Scorpio wan'ts that % 25 of your like for himself. So he gets all emo...
Maybe don't say things like that.
Right. Playing coy has never been cute to me and it sounds like it's backfireing on you with this Scorp in particular. As stated before, stop worrying about "coming off" in a particular way and be yourself.
If you like him a lot, simply say so. Or don't, but why on earth you felt the need to bring up other men that you already know trigger him in a certain way is beyond me. If you're spending time with him, spend time with him. Your only focus should be getting to know him and letting him know the real you, not who you like more or less than him.
It also sounds like you haven't let go of the fact that he was cold in the beginning. I'd address that (aka get over it already) at some point.click to expand
I have tried, maybe not as hard as I should have, as I feel way more nervous with him than anyone else ever, to be alone with him or spend time with just him. However, we are in a work setting and that doesn't happen too often,. I honestly didnt' expect him to blow up like that or even addresses me like that.
I honestly don't think it is fair that he was all bullbutter mean to me and coy, but I don't have that same luxury. Why is he acting so insecure? If I didnt' like you, I wouldn't be talking to you. If I didnt' like you I wouldn't always try to be around you. I just don't get this dude.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Chowfun92
See the thing is I said it in a joking trying to give him a hint. Like I like you more wink wink please get this hint BC I'm not going to come out and say I like you lots!!!
Why not?click to expand
Because he hasn't come out and said it! Call me old fashion, a bum, a person who misses opportunities, but I try so hard and it can't come out. It's like I feel sick inside and can't muster up the courage. It took soo much for me to even get him alone and address him about the comment he made that I hated him.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Whatu
Okay here is how this works.
You told him you like him more that the other person. In his mind he hears the you like him % 75 of your heart and the other person % 25.
Naturally the Scorpio wan'ts that % 25 of your like for himself. So he gets all emo...
Maybe don't say things like that.
Right. Playing coy has never been cute to me and it sounds like it's backfireing on you with this Scorp in particular. As stated before, stop worrying about "coming off" in a particular way and be yourself.
If you like him a lot, simply say so. Or don't, but why on earth you felt the need to bring up other men that you already know trigger him in a certain way is beyond me. If you're spending time with him, spend time with him. Your only focus should be getting to know him and letting him know the real you, not who you like more or less than him.
It also sounds like you haven't let go of the fact that he was cold in the beginning. I'd address that (aka get over it already) at some point.click to expand
Yes, Thing is if a dude likes you back or even at all it shouldn't be this hard! She made it clear how she feels, if he where genuinely interested he would've taken the bait and made it easier for her... wouldn't matter if she messed up with a wrong sentence or not now everyone telling her to go at it harder, address it again etc. No, Just NO! He got the message so what if it was befuddled, hes not stepping up to the plate and its been a long time now. Cold in the beginning is loud and clear.
Posted by Rabbit
It shouldn't be this hard.
That's all I have left to say.
Yes, pay attention to this man.
Chowfun, also be careful of your reputation whatever happens you want it to stay in check.. you don't know what this scorpio is saying to other people and you don't want any leftover scars whatever happens.
Posted by CocoKatPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Whatu
Okay here is how this works.
You told him you like him more that the other person. In his mind he hears the you like him % 75 of your heart and the other person % 25.
Naturally the Scorpio wan'ts that % 25 of your like for himself. So he gets all emo...
Maybe don't say things like that.
Right. Playing coy has never been cute to me and it sounds like it's backfireing on you with this Scorp in particular. As stated before, stop worrying about "coming off" in a particular way and be yourself.
If you like him a lot, simply say so. Or don't, but why on earth you felt the need to bring up other men that you already know trigger him in a certain way is beyond me. If you're spending time with him, spend time with him. Your only focus should be getting to know him and letting him know the real you, not who you like more or less than him.
It also sounds like you haven't let go of the fact that he was cold in the beginning. I'd address that (aka get over it already) at some point.
Yes, Thing is if a dude likes you back or even at all it shouldn't be this hard! She made it clear how she feels, if he where genuinely interested he would've taken the bait and made it easier for her... wouldn't matter if she messed up with a wrong sentence or not now everyone telling her to go at it harder, address it again etc. No, Just NO! He got the message so what if it was befuddled, hes not stepping up to the plate and its been a long time now. Cold in the beginning is loud and clear.click to expand
Yes, to an extent, I agree, but I know this dude likes me. You don't address a situation like that if you didn't. Honestly, if it didn't bother him, he wouldn't have said anything. He wouldn't have vocalized how he thinks I feel about him. It wouldn't matter, because I wouldn't matter. However, he vocalizes that the perception that he thinks I have of him is negative. However, this isn't the first time he has said this. I've told him twice that I like him and that I don't hate/don't like him. Now whether he assumes I'm saying this as a platonic like or something more is on him.
The only excuse I can muster up is that he is insecur
Posted by Chowfun92
You clearly need to raise up out of my thread with your bullshit. I don't flaunt any attention, as I CANNOT control anything other people say or do. I do not reciprocate any attention from other males, I ignore it and look forward to the conversation that me and the SC have together. I didn't expect him to do no dramatic shit you expressed so stop with your unneeded sarcasm.
First of all, you are in a public forum, if you don't like the feedback you receive...move on.
I stayed away from your first thread because it was shallow and spoke volumes of your mentality.
Posted by Chowfun92
I would consider myself pretty, but the extent to which guys hit on me is crazy. Now I do have a nice shape (think Amber Rose w/o all those breast) but I'm not the only woman with curves and a small waist. It is ridiculous how much attention I get.
click to expand
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/what-is-it-about-scorpios-that-seem-to-attract-5287434/
So I say again....get over yourself. The Scorpio (or any male of any sign) was justified in his response.
Anyone guess this chicks sign yet—
Posted by Chowfun92
I have tried, maybe not as hard as I should have, as I feel way more nervous with him than anyone else ever, to be alone with him or spend time with just him....I honestly didnt' expect him to blow up like that or even addresses me like that.
I honestly don't think it is fair that he was all bullbutter mean to me and coy, but I don't have that same luxury. Why is he acting so insecure? If I didnt' like you, I wouldn't be talking to you. If I didnt' like you I wouldn't always try to be around you. I just don't get this dude.
I'm not trying to make this an epic thread like the last one, so this may be my last response unless I need to clarify something:
1. You shouldn't have to "try" to be yourself. That should actually be the easiest thing to do.
2. Water sign pairings really force you to face those parts of yourself you don't like or need to further develop. Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to push through that nervousness and stop hiding. When you revert back to playing coy that's you hiding. That's your safe place. Water signs will indirectly ask (or force) you to step out of that comfort zone time and time again, so if you can't deal, keep it moving.
3. All this "well he does why can't I, it's not fair" is why water pairing struggle at times, especially if they lack maturity in some area of their life. Too much mirroring. At the end of the day one will always need to bite the bullet and be the bigger person or it never gets off the ground. It doesn't have to always be the same person, but someone has to do it. Bite the bullet and take the lead until he feels comfortable to show himself or continue to dance and drink yourself into oblivion because he frustrates you.
4. Comments like "if I didn't like you I wouldn't try to always be around you" may makes sense to you, but he doesn't know you and give your history with him....He doesn't know what you think or why you make the choices you do. Your statement implies that he should "just know". You pointed it out yourself, he has insecurity. It cloads judgement. Unless he's a mind reader, your expectations that he just figure it out or "know" without some help from you, will backfire.
*moon sign
I agree, this shouldn't be this hard however I think a lot of this is you overreacting. Just chill out. He gets upset. Let him cool down and own your sh*t (e.g. hey, bringing up that other guy was my way of covering I really like you and this makes me nervous at times). He may respond similarly and open up, or not, but that shouldn't be your focus or the reason for owning your stuff. It's to help this move forward.
Idk, you can stay stuck on the fact that he blew up (which didn't happen out of no where) or simply own your stuff and if he wants to be with you, he will mirror your behaviour over time.
Anyway, this was four posts too long. Good luck Chow!
Idk, you can stay stuck on the fact that he blew up (which didn't happen out of no where) or simply own your stuff and if he wants to be with you, he will mirror your behaviour over time.
Anyway, this was four posts too long. Good luck Chow!
Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
You clearly need to raise up out of my thread with your bullshit. I don't flaunt any attention, as I CANNOT control anything other people say or do. I do not reciprocate any attention from other males, I ignore it and look forward to the conversation that me and the SC have together. I didn't expect him to do no dramatic shit you expressed so stop with your unneeded sarcasm.
First of all, you are in a public forum, if you don't like the feedback you receive...move on.
I stayed away from your first thread because it was shallow and spoke volumes of your mentality.
Posted by Chowfun92
I would consider myself pretty, but the extent to which guys hit on me is crazy. Now I do have a nice shape (think Amber Rose w/o all those breast) but I'm not the only woman with curves and a small waist. It is ridiculous how much attention I get.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/what-is-it-about-scorpios-that-seem-to-attract-5287434/
So I say again....get over yourself. The Scorpio (or any male of any sign) was justified in his response.
Anyone guess this chicks sign yet—click to expand
I'm a scorpio. If you paid attention, I state this many times. You sound like a hater. If I say I'm pretty who the flying fiddle sticks cares that says nothing about me other than I have confidence in my looks and people see that. Why do you care? Your right this is a public forum, and as a fellow member I'm telling you straight up I don't like your judgmental post. You stayed out of my other thread, good for you, now do yourself another favor and stay out of this one. Seriously, why torture yourself. You obviously have a problem with my threads. You addressed it, now move the bullbutter on. Unless you have more to say, and if so, I'm all ears, but don't insinuate you know ANYTHING about me or my character based on a few post on a public form that is miniscule and not even a small facet of ym life or who I am as a person. So please more your rude bullbutter ass on.
Posted by PhoenixRising
I agree, this shouldn't be this hard however I think a lot of this is you overreacting. Just chill out. He gets upset. Let him cool down and own your sh*t (e.g. hey, bringing up that other guy was my way of covering I really like you and this makes me nervous at times). He may respond similarly and open up, or not, but that shouldn't be your focus or the reason for owning your stuff. It's to help this move forward.
Idk, you can stay stuck on the fact that he blew up (which didn't happen out of no where) or simply own your stuff and if he wants to be with you, he will mirror your behaviour over time.
Anyway, this was four posts too long. Good luck Chow!
That was not too long. Your other post above is very informative. I'll have to muster up some courage. If anything, I am supposed to learn something from this dude.
Apparently I am in a mercury retrograde right now until Feb. 11th, so maybe that is messing up my communication with him, idk.
Posted by CocoKatPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Whatu
Okay here is how this works.
You told him you like him more that the other person. In his mind he hears the you like him % 75 of your heart and the other person % 25.
Naturally the Scorpio wan'ts that % 25 of your like for himself. So he gets all emo...
Maybe don't say things like that.
Right. Playing coy has never been cute to me and it sounds like it's backfireing on you with this Scorp in particular. As stated before, stop worrying about "coming off" in a particular way and be yourself.
If you like him a lot, simply say so. Or don't, but why on earth you felt the need to bring up other men that you already know trigger him in a certain way is beyond me. If you're spending time with him, spend time with him. Your only focus should be getting to know him and letting him know the real you, not who you like more or less than him.
It also sounds like you haven't let go of the fact that he was cold in the beginning. I'd address that (aka get over it already) at some point.
Yes, Thing is if a dude likes you back or even at all it shouldn't be this hard! She made it clear how she feels, if he where genuinely interested he would've taken the bait and made it easier for her... wouldn't matter if she messed up with a wrong sentence or not now everyone telling her to go at it harder, address it again etc. No, Just NO! He got the message so what if it was befuddled, hes not stepping up to the plate and its been a long time now. Cold in the beginning is loud and clear.click to expand
Hmm, if you can point out to me where anyone---prior to this post instructed her to "go at him harder" then I could respond to the former part of your comment. Better yet, I'd let them do it if they cared to.
From what I saw, people were helping her understand why he blew up and how she needs to address this if she wants to continue this. Keep in mind, I haven't read any comments after your post.
Posted by Chowfun92
I'm a scorpio. If you paid attention, I state this many times. You sound like a hater. If I say I'm pretty who the flying fiddle sticks cares that says nothing about me other than I have confidence in my looks and people see that. Why do you care? Your right this is a public forum, and as a fellow member I'm telling you straight up I don't like your judgmental post. You stayed out of my other thread, good for you, now do yourself another favor and stay out of this one. Seriously, why torture yourself. You obviously have a problem with my threads. You addressed it, now move the bullbutter on. Unless you have more to say, and if so, I'm all ears, but don't insinuate you know ANYTHING about me or my character based on a few post on a public form that is miniscule and not even a small facet of ym life or who I am as a person. So please more your rude bullbutter ass on.
Nah, I'm too empathetic and tend to put the shoes on the other person's foot, in this case the Scorp guy. I speak the TRUTH.
Some people like that, some don't. Either way, I don't care.
The truth here (if I may reiterate again), is you are one of these girls (you are 19/20 right?), who believe that on looks alone gives you the entitlement of thinking that when you want something it should be handed to you. In this case the Scorp guy... Yet because of your entitlement issues, it jammed you up when you let him know in more ways than one, he is one of many candidates that YOU can have. He took one look at that and said 'not today bitch' and put you in your very shallow place where you belong. You come here and want what? Sympathy?...Not happening hun. Move onto another guy who can't see through that shallow facade you have going on. This Scorp guy is way above that shit.
Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
I'm a scorpio. If you paid attention, I state this many times. You sound like a hater. If I say I'm pretty who the flying fiddle sticks cares that says nothing about me other than I have confidence in my looks and people see that. Why do you care? Your right this is a public forum, and as a fellow member I'm telling you straight up I don't like your judgmental post. You stayed out of my other thread, good for you, now do yourself another favor and stay out of this one. Seriously, why torture yourself. You obviously have a problem with my threads. You addressed it, now move the bullbutter on. Unless you have more to say, and if so, I'm all ears, but don't insinuate you know ANYTHING about me or my character based on a few post on a public form that is miniscule and not even a small facet of ym life or who I am as a person. So please more your rude bullbutter ass on.
Nah, I'm too empathetic and tend to put the shoes on the other person's foot, in this case the Scorp guy. I speak the TRUTH.
Some people like that, some don't. Either way, I don't care.
The truth here (if I may reiterate again), is you are one of these girls (you are 19/20 right?), who believe that on looks alone gives you the entitlement of thinking that when you want something it should be handed to you. In this case the Scorp guy... Yet because of your entitlement issues, it jammed you up when you let him know in more ways than one, he is one of many candidates that YOU can have. He took one look at that and said 'not today bitch' and put you in your very shallow place where you belong. You come here and want what? Sympathy?...Not happening hun. Move onto another guy who can't see through that shallow facade you have going on. This Scorp guy is way above that shit.click to expand
You sound bitter.
You don't speak the truth but a bunch of nonsense crafted by you in your warped bumblebutterball mind.
You sound like one of those people who have been burned by a girl and it's showing through your post. Who hurt you? 😢 So I can find them and beat them up for you, because it ruined you. Don't worry I'm also empathetic and I'll make them pay. Anyway, your doing to much insinuating based on a few comments. This isn't how you derive at an accurate perception.
Si
Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
I'm a scorpio. If you paid attention, I state this many times. You sound like a hater. If I say I'm pretty who the flying fiddle sticks cares that says nothing about me other than I have confidence in my looks and people see that. Why do you care? Your right this is a public forum, and as a fellow member I'm telling you straight up I don't like your judgmental post. You stayed out of my other thread, good for you, now do yourself another favor and stay out of this one. Seriously, why torture yourself. You obviously have a problem with my threads. You addressed it, now move the bullbutter on. Unless you have more to say, and if so, I'm all ears, but don't insinuate you know ANYTHING about me or my character based on a few post on a public form that is miniscule and not even a small facet of ym life or who I am as a person. So please more your rude bullbutter ass on.
Nah, I'm too empathetic and tend to put the shoes on the other person's foot, in this case the Scorp guy. I speak the TRUTH.
Some people like that, some don't. Either way, I don't care.
The truth here (if I may reiterate again), is you are one of these girls (you are 19/20 right?), who believe that on looks alone gives you the entitlement of thinking that when you want something it should be handed to you. In this case the Scorp guy... Yet because of your entitlement issues, it jammed you up when you let him know in more ways than one, he is one of many candidates that YOU can have. He took one look at that and said 'not today bitch' and put you in your very shallow place where you belong. You come here and want what? Sympathy?...Not happening hun. Move onto another guy who can't see through that shallow facade you have going on. This Scorp guy is way above that shit.click to expand
Since you seem so interested in analyzing who I am. I'll give you a bit of insight.
I never had a boyfriend.
I've never done anything with a guy. I never even came close.
I spent my HS and College years in my books, so how to interact with the opposite sex when it comes to guys I like is ehh at best.
I dont' want sympathy. You can leave that shit at the door.
I wanted to figure him out with out going right out and saying it to his face. (I'm taking the punk way out) However
Posted by Chowfun92
You sound bitter.
You don't speak the truth but a bunch of nonsense crafted by you in your warped bumblebutterball mind.
You sound like one of those people who have been burned by a girl and it's showing through your post. Who hurt you? 😢 So I can find them and beat them up for you, because it ruined you. Don't worry I'm also empathetic and I'll make them pay. Anyway, your doing to much insinuating based on a few comments. This isn't how you derive at an accurate perception.
Si
I'm a female... a smart one and straight. 😉
That bitterness you mention would be you looking into the mirror I'm holding up. Bitterness goes with entitlement issues like peanut butter and jelly. You, my dear, have serious issues and some growing up to do.
Posted by LetltBPosted by Chowfun92
You sound bitter.
You don't speak the truth but a bunch of nonsense crafted by you in your warped bumblebutterball mind.
You sound like one of those people who have been burned by a girl and it's showing through your post. Who hurt you? 😢 So I can find them and beat them up for you, because it ruined you. Don't worry I'm also empathetic and I'll make them pay. Anyway, your doing to much insinuating based on a few comments. This isn't how you derive at an accurate perception.
Si
I'm a female... a smart one and straight. 😉
That bitterness you mention would be you looking into the mirror I'm holding up. Bitterness goes with entitlement issues like peanut butter and jelly. You, my dear, have serious issues and some growing up to do.click to expand
I don't have entitlement issues. I may have issues as we all do, but entitlement is not one of them. I NEVER HAD THINGS HANDED TO ME, if you knew my life and my situation you would think twice about what you wrote.
IT seems like you have some growing up to do, especially if you can insinuate you know anything about a person based on a few internet post.
Have a wonderful day.
God Bless.
Posted by Chowfun92
Since you seem so interested in analyzing who I am. I'll give you a bit of insight.
I never had a boyfriend.
I've never done anything with a guy. I never even came close.
I spent my HS and College years in my books, so how to interact with the opposite sex when it comes to guys I like is ehh at best.
I dont' want sympathy. You can leave that shit at the door.
I wanted to figure him out with out going right out and saying it to his face. (I'm taking the punk way out) However
This ^^^^ would be an attempt at justifying entitlement.
Posted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.click to expand
I know where you're coming from. However, you're not dating yourself. Just because it doesn't bother you, doesn't mean it doesn't bother him. It's him you should be worried about given that you want to date him. Personally, I hate being compared to other guys. I want to be the only guy. Beginning, middle and end. Is it stupid and immature? Maybe. But that's just how I am at this point in my life.
Posted by Rabbit
1) just because you don't care about, does not mean other people don't care as well. It's not about just you. Relationships are about two people.
2) It's not about insecurity. It's about respect. If you are with someone, it should be about that person, not someone else.
Oh damn. I posted something similar and then noticed you wrote this. Well said.
+1
Posted by Rabbit
1) just because you don't care about, does not mean other people don't care as well. It's not about just you. Relationships are about two people.
2) It's not about insecurity. It's about respect. If you are with someone, it should be about that person, not someone else.
Yes, but I'm not with him that's the problem!
So if I'm not with you and there is no relationship and everyone is teasing each other and you single me out and get mad at me, after you play your games, that's okay?
Alright, I'll bite. I'll say that's okay for you to get upset or well lets say it was more on the lines of agitated to be fair. Well I'm going to assume, until I confront him on it, that he's agitated because he's insecure. He can throw jabs, and I can take a bullet like super man, but my playful jabs rough him up like a punch to the gut from popeye.
He's insecure or maybe only feels insecure when it comes to a few people and I'm one of them.
I want to be friends with him and get closer to him, but he seems to have this preconceived notion that I hate him, due to the sole fact that I invoke something in him. I've told this due I liked him several times, but he assumes I don't due to an insecurity and something I help him with. I ddint' sign up to be his momma and baby him.
Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
I know where you're coming from. However, you're not dating yourself. Just because it doesn't bother you, doesn't mean it doesn't bother him. It's him you should be worried about given that you want to date him. Personally, I hate being compared to other guys. I want to be the only guy. Beginning, middle and end. Is it stupid and immature? Maybe. But that's just how I am at this point in my life.click to expand
Yes, but we aren't dating. I'm just trying to become friends first. I always believe in that. I don't want to just enter into a relationship. So dont' get pissy over some damn teasing. You teased me to talking about you hate me and being rude or w.e. and I took it like a pro. I'm not saying he has to be like me or handle it like me, but if you dont' like that behavior don't tease me the same way. It's like an insult.
Posted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.click to expand
But it obviously bothers him; and he is who you are trying to connect with. If you want to have a relationship with yourself, or a one-sided relationship with another person, then this line of reasoning is one way to go about it. But if you genuinely want an authentic relationship with this guy (or anyone else) then you're going to have to try and see things from their position instead of trying to convince them of yours. Hopefully they will reciprocate. But if not then oh well.
Basically, one of you has to be willing to come out of your trenches and meet in no-man's-land.
Posted by Chowfun92Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
I know where you're coming from. However, you're not dating yourself. Just because it doesn't bother you, doesn't mean it doesn't bother him. It's him you should be worried about given that you want to date him. Personally, I hate being compared to other guys. I want to be the only guy. Beginning, middle and end. Is it stupid and immature? Maybe. But that's just how I am at this point in my life.
Yes, but we aren't dating. I'm just trying to become friends first. I always believe in that. I don't want to just enter into a relationship. So dont' get pissy over some damn teasing. You teased me to talking about you hate me and being rude or w.e. and I took it like a pro. I'm not saying he has to be like me or handle it like me, but if you dont' like that behavior don't tease me the same way. It's like an insult.click to expand
I might be crazy. And feel totally free to call me so, but I feel like saying, "I hate you," is a flirtatious, if not dark, way to see you disagree and blah blah blah. Comparing him to another man is just mean. Only my opinion though.
Posted by AndalusiaPosted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
But it obviously bothers him; and he is who you are trying to connect with. If you want to have a relationship with yourself, or a one-sided relationship with another person, then this line of reasoning is one way to go about it. But if you genuinely want an authentic relationship with this guy (or anyone else) then you're going to have to try and see things from their position instead of trying to convince them of yours. Hopefully they will reciprocate. But if not then oh well.
Basically, one of you has to be willing to come out of your trenches and meet in no-man's-land.click to expand
I get that, I really do. I just didn't understand it, in lieu of us teasing each other and him insinuating that I hate him/don't like him. It seemed to come from out of nowhere. I understand that I have to try and understand others at different levels, but the point still remains, while dish it out, if you cant' take it?
So I move on from that and then I'm thinking this has to be insecurity.
Posted by tiziani
You really seem like you do hate the guy though. I've met a few women that act like this when you don't return their interest (in the way they want you to return it) and yet insist on hanging around in your personal space.
Note: that doesn't mean he isn't interested. Just that he doesn't show interest in the way you want him to show interest.
I believe you when you say you feel something towards him that compells you to keep hanging around him and talking him down, insisting he change for you - but that feeling sure isn't love.
I also agree with Rabbit that if he was more mature he would have just not reacted and avoided you altogether. Unfortunately he keeps reacting.
What are you talking about? I think your lost.
Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92Posted by ShruikanPosted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
I know where you're coming from. However, you're not dating yourself. Just because it doesn't bother you, doesn't mean it doesn't bother him. It's him you should be worried about given that you want to date him. Personally, I hate being compared to other guys. I want to be the only guy. Beginning, middle and end. Is it stupid and immature? Maybe. But that's just how I am at this point in my life.
Yes, but we aren't dating. I'm just trying to become friends first. I always believe in that. I don't want to just enter into a relationship. So dont' get pissy over some damn teasing. You teased me to talking about you hate me and being rude or w.e. and I took it like a pro. I'm not saying he has to be like me or handle it like me, but if you dont' like that behavior don't tease me the same way. It's like an insult.
I might be crazy. And feel totally free to call me so, but I feel like saying, "I hate you," is a flirtatious, if not dark, way to see you disagree and blah blah blah. Comparing him to another man is just mean. Only my opinion though.click to expand
To see if I disagree lmao, what? So I say I hate you and (in your mind) I'm saying this to see if you disagree that I hate you? I don't get that type of flirting, but I do see a double standards how what he says is flirting but what I say is mean, but their both rude things to say, but only my rudness is offensive.
Posted by tiziani
I'm simply saying it's obvious to see why, from a man's perspective, you would come across as hating him. It's the logical conclusion.
But if you're not interested in his perspective, that's understood.
Okay, I see what your saying, but now I'm lost, because why would a MAN assume that I'm not interested or I hate him?
I am so lost.
Posted by Chowfun92
I give up. I need a drink. I tell the guy I like him better than someone else in a casual setting. '
this is worth a thousand side eyes
Posted by DMVPosted by Chowfun92
I give up. I need a drink. I tell the guy I like him better than someone else in a casual setting. '
this is worth a thousand side eyesclick to expand
nOO but we were all joking and teasing. wtf, damn. lol
Posted by tiziani
Well from my perspective I know what a woman who isn't interested looks like by now. And that doesn't apply here.
I didn't think you weren't interested in him. Like I said, I believe you when you say you feel towards him. Why else would you insist on getting to know him?
Now if I'm him, the only question left for me to establish is.... Is your interest of a positive or negative nature?
Look at the number of times you've just downed the guy and giving a negative opinion of him to complete strangers like us. I think the number of times you've insisted he must be "insecure" might rank into triple figures over all your threads, easily double figures by now.
I have no idea if you actually say these kinds of things to him in real life or if you just save that for when you log on the internet to get second opinions, but let me just say women who go around downing and tarnishing men in front of strangers when they feel rebuffed are not hard to come across, and increasingly easier to avoid (with age and experience).
Logically, whatever you're feeling towards him is at least strong dislike if not hatred.
Now is that bad or the end of the road? Not necessarily.
But I think what everyone is trying to get you to see is basically to cut song and dance and be more honest about your feelings so you can have honest conversations with one another.
You know, when he said "I think you hate me" maybe he was just calling it how he sees it, as a OPENING for you both to start having honesty, no-bs convos with one another. After all, that's kind of the point of getting to know one another - IF you're serious about becoming friends with him.
I don't think I ever downed him. I said he's insecure which honestly seems true unless anyone could prove otherwise why he would react the way he did. He is either insecure or he likes me and feels some type of way about me when I tease him. This isn't putting him down. Everyone is insecure at times for w.e. reason. This is also something I'd never say to anyone because it's rude and I dont' know him like that to insinuate such or provoke a negative emotion.
In all my threads I have expressed how much I like him, I mean I'm not making threads on him for my health and nor am I getting paid for my venture.
I literally suffer from clamming up when I talk to him. This has never happen
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
If that's the case, then you need to just back away.
Scorp men.. No matter how old, or how mature.. Need that ego stroked from time to time.
That is why I preach over and over.. Give him the "illusion of control". Don't act like his mama. Know what you want, be confident, and make him believe everything was his doing.click to expand
How do I make him believe everything is his doing?
Also, I figured this had to be a scorpio thing because this seemed to ingrained in him.
Posted by GetMisted
FFS.. Go find an Aries man.
All I'm reading in this thread is projections of one's own insecurities.
Sorry.. But I'mma have to agreewith LIB. He's mirroring your actions.
Ugh no I need to figure out this scorpio guy. This is a life lesson for me. I got to see if through or I won't learn.
I'm insecure with confronting him or speaking to him. I have no shame in admitting that. I think I said this in my other thread. So your right on this one.
Why is he mirroring me though?! WTF.
Posted by tiziani
What it looks like it boils down to, for me, is you trying to understand your feelings for someone. I don't see why that means he is insecure. You also went as far as insinuating he is a child. Who says that? If you really do "like" someone....
Each time he doesn't react in the way you want him to, you talk about him like someone you have zero respect for... now would I take that deal? Not me. But he for whatever reason he is still talking with you and reacting to you, only he's doing it on his terms. And you want your terms.
A more mature would have put an end to these wagons going around in circles a long time ago. I do think he is interested in you and feels something strong towards you like you said, but you're both abusing it rather than respecting it.
I insinuated that he was like a child, I don't even remember that, but I can believe it. I guess I'm not taking these things that I'm saying as harshly as you. I don't even find what I'm saying bad in the slightest. So I guess that says something about me potentially, but hopefully not. I guess I have thicker skin or w.e. it may be.
I don't want him to react the way I want, but in a way that I understand so rather than communicate this to him like an adult. I'm weaseling out and asking you guys to decipher his actions. It's not a win win situation, but since im immature in this sense, I dont' have the balls to be myself, because I for some reason can't be myself which is odd.
Posted by Chowfun92Posted by Rabbit
1) just because you don't care about, does not mean other people don't care as well. It's not about just you. Relationships are about two people.
2) It's not about insecurity. It's about respect. If you are with someone, it should be about that person, not someone else.
Yes, but I'm not with him that's the problem!
So if I'm not with you and there is no relationship and everyone is teasing each other and you single me out and get mad at me, after you play your games, that's okay?
Alright, I'll bite. I'll say that's okay for you to get upset or well lets say it was more on the lines of agitated to be fair. Well I'm going to assume, until I confront him on it, that he's agitated because he's insecure. He can throw jabs, and I can take a bullet like super man, but my playful jabs rough him up like a punch to the gut from popeye.
He's insecure or maybe only feels insecure when it comes to a few people and I'm one of them.
I want to be friends with him and get closer to him, but he seems to have this preconceived notion that I hate him, due to the sole fact that I invoke something in him. I've told this due I liked him several times, but he assumes I don't due to an insecurity and something I help him with. I ddint' sign up to be his momma and baby him.click to expand
You've thrown a bunch of points into one bag and came up with a lot "what the f*ck" in this post.
Whether you are with him or not is irrelevant, if you are spending time with him respect that this is your time to do just that and get to know him. That is the point that is trying to be made clear to you. Even when I am with my friends, they have all of my attention. You are "there" or you aren't.
As for the jabs...Has he compared you to other women? Did he mention or talk about other women while you were spending time together and getting to know him? This isn't about his inability to take a jab. Stop confusing the two things. It is the fact that you've made it clear that he has other contenders to deal with. Perhaps even gave the intention he's an option or that moment, your mind was thinking about someone else while you were spending time with him.
No one said be the man's momma. However, if you're checkin' for him, then check for him or bounce.
Posted by Chowfun92Posted by GetMistedPosted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Mmm lets see op if a guy told u " I like u only a bit more than that other girl"
ugh, who gives a flying fuck that's the thing. This shit doesn't bother me. IMO you have to be real insecure to be bothered by something so trivial and said in a joking manner. I wouldn't care. I'd be like alright.
For him to feel that way he obviously is insecure, likes me and is trying to put me in the spot to admit to liking him. He seems to need his ego filled and I didn't know it was my job. I'm not his momma.
If that's the case, then you need to just back away.
Scorp men.. No matter how old, or how mature.. Need that ego stroked from time to time.
That is why I preach over and over.. Give him the "illusion of control". Don't act like his mama. Know what you want, be confident, and make him believe everything was his doing.
How do I make him believe everything is his doing?
Also, I figured this had to be a scorpio thing because this seemed to ingrained in him.click to expand
Just....no. You are very much stuck on "I need to be right". The fact that you don't even realize you said something that would make him feel uncomfortable, uneasy, disrespected is an issue. Has he handled this well? No, but neither have you, so how is "everything" his doing?
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Chowfun92Posted by Rabbit
1) just because you don't care about, does not mean other people don't care as well. It's not about just you. Relationships are about two people.
2) It's not about insecurity. It's about respect. If you are with someone, it should be about that person, not someone else.
Yes, but I'm not with him that's the problem!
So if I'm not with you and there is no relationship and everyone is teasing each other and you single me out and get mad at me, after you play your games, that's okay?
Alright, I'll bite. I'll say that's okay for you to get upset or well lets say it was more on the lines of agitated to be fair. Well I'm going to assume, until I confront him on it, that he's agitated because he's insecure. He can throw jabs, and I can take a bullet like super man, but my playful jabs rough him up like a punch to the gut from popeye.
He's insecure or maybe only feels insecure when it comes to a few people and I'm one of them.
I want to be friends with him and get closer to him, but he seems to have this preconceived notion that I hate him, due to the sole fact that I invoke something in him. I've told this due I liked him several times, but he assumes I don't due to an insecurity and something I help him with. I ddint' sign up to be his momma and baby him.click to expand
You've thrown a bunch of points into one bag and came up with a lot "what the f*ck" in this post.
Whether you are with him or not is irrelevant, if you are spending time with him respect that this is your time to do just that and get to know him. That is the point that is trying to be made clear to you. Even when I am with my friends, they have all of my attention. You are "there" or you aren't.
As for the jabs...Has he compared you to other women? Did he mention or talk about other women while you were spending time together and getting to know him? This isn't about his inability to take a jab. Stop confusing the two things. It is the fact that you've made it clear that he has other contenders to deal with. Perhaps even gave the intention he's an option or that moment, your mind was thinking about someone else while you were spending time with him.
No on
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