Her Body Count....does it matter to you?

Posted by Saturn_Returns

Yes, because I'd very interested in analysing the remains. 🤣

Posted by TXCowboy

No, but they always ask about mine. 🤭

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by TXCowboy

No, but they always ask about mine. 🤭

You're a better man than me.lol

Not better, just more experienced.

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Posted by TXCowboy

No, but they always ask about mine. 🤭

You're a better man than me.lol

Not better, just more experienced.

you don't think a high body count indicates deep insecurity issues?

From my experience dating and most importantly just having a lot of friends that are girls this has definitely been true.

I don't particularly care, I know exactly who and what I'm dealing with most of the time anyway. Eventually, the truth comes out only when they are with ME.

I can't do anything about the past, but how they work with me going forward, is all that matters to me.

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Lol I think it only matters when you’re young, when you’re older no one asks anymore. Then it’s how many times have you been married & for how long? Or you’ve never been married, really? 😂😂 Honestly, none of it matters. All that matters is what happens between the two of you.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

I don't think that's high it's basically two men a year since the age of 18.

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Posted by ATGR

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I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

At least they would know what they were doing and probably not shy about their body. Nothing worse than someone shy about their body.

I think as a man it’s probably best not to ask because it will be higher than yours. Women have much more opportunity.

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Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

At least they would know what they were doing and probably not shy about their body. Nothing worse than someone shy about their body.

I think as a man it’s probably best not to ask because it will be higher than yours. Women have much more opportunity.

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Posted by alexscaries

I do run numbers as a man. I don't care how many men or women a partner has sex with. I would say the people who find it easiest to get "laid" are gay men. ATGR is right though, women often have more opportunities and even apps are biased giving unlimited swipes purely on gender.

A theory exists 20 or less is the magic number. I think you can tell early on of someone is experienced just how they talk when they have "that" talk in a relationship.

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I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

At least they would know what they were doing and probably not shy about their body. Nothing worse than someone shy about their body.

I think as a man it’s probably best not to ask because it will be higher than yours. Women have much more opportunity.

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Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

At least they would know what they were doing and probably not shy about their body. Nothing worse than someone shy about their body.

I think as a man it’s probably best not to ask because it will be higher than yours. Women have much more opportunity.

Yeah I have an extremely low count (1) which may have leave a similar impression when queer/bi girls ask me.

I use to worry about it but now I don't care as I realized that 1)

having a higher body count does not necessarily indicate skill or knowledge ( as evident by the person I had sex with and also conversations I have had with people with higher body counts than me ) and 2) there are other ways you can both acquire knowledge and skill ( sex education workshops , books , contact improv , dance classes , massage books etc).

Agree to disagree on both accounts.

1)A person with a lot of sexual experience might not be good with a person due to a lot of factors beyond just ability.



2) Books and workshops may or may not be useful. Would you hire a plumber who has read every book on it, but has no on the job experience or someone who os barely literate who has been fixing ubends since he was 16? Nothing beats physical experience.

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Posted by TXCowboy

No, but they always ask about mine. 🤭

You're a better man than me.lol

Not better, just more experienced.

you don't think a high body count indicates deep insecurity issues?

From my experience dating and most importantly just having a lot of friends that are girls this has definitely been true.

It could. Or they might just enjoy sex. Not all swingers are insecure. A low count could also mean insecurity (afraid to be vulnerable, insecure of looks for instance).

I'd suggest putting more value on what they say and do in your presence vs their past.

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Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

At least they would know what they were doing and probably not shy about their body. Nothing worse than someone shy about their body.

I think as a man it’s probably best not to ask because it will be higher than yours. Women have much more opportunity.

also more specifically the one girl I had sex (my ex) with who had a lot of partners before me

was comfortable with her body

but did not know what she wanted or how to please herself even (so was unknowledgeable) .

just fyi

The second bit is weird in not knowing what she likes.

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Posted by Saturn_Returns

My concern wouldn't be the body count, but whether she is STD-free. Also, not having mental issues would be a bonus.

Posted by alexscaries

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

At least they would know what they were doing and probably not shy about their body. Nothing worse than someone shy about their body.

I think as a man it’s probably best not to ask because it will be higher than yours. Women have much more opportunity.

Yeah I have an extremely low count (1) which may have leave a similar impression when queer/bi girls ask me.

I use to worry about it but now I don't care as I realized that 1)

having a higher body count does not necessarily indicate skill or knowledge ( as evident by the person I had sex with and also conversations I have had with people with higher body counts than me ) and 2) there are other ways you can both acquire knowledge and skill ( sex education workshops , books , contact improv , dance classes , massage books etc).

Agree to disagree on both accounts.

1)A person with a lot of sexual experience might not be good with a person due to a lot of factors beyond just ability.



2) Books and workshops may or may not be useful. Would you hire a plumber who has read every book on it, but has no on the job experience or someone who os barely literate who has been fixing ubends since he was 16? Nothing beats physical experience.

1) I agree ...I am learning chemistry is huge. Someone's skills might not even be that great but you could just be so physically and sexually attracted to them that everything they do seems like it's the best thing ever. ( This was true of my last experience which I did not capitalize).

2) Because I have a vagina and am talking about sex with other vaginas.....A better comparison would be a plumber that has read every book but does have experience fixing his own toilet / drain...like a lot.

Additionally the plumber talks with other plumbers about clients they have had and what has worked and not worked in fixing their plumbing and has gotten verbal confirmation about things that the plumber has learned from books and the workshops.

( e.g here is a freebie for you ( confirmed by many amore experienced straight women , lesbians and bisexuals) - one should bring a woman to orgasm at least once first before penetration...as in if you are able to do that penetration feels so much better and it is easier to bring her to a second orgasm through penetration because the clitoral cuff and g spot is now fully engorged , descends and is way more sensitive to stimulation).

2) I think a lot of people do what seems to work on other people. There's a lot of garbage advice, spelling out the alphabet on a clit - who invented that? The grouch from Sesame Street?

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Posted by ATGR

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

At least they would know what they were doing and probably not shy about their body. Nothing worse than someone shy about their body.

I think as a man it’s probably best not to ask because it will be higher than yours. Women have much more opportunity.

Yeah I have an extremely low count (1) which may have leave a similar impression when queer/bi girls ask me.

I use to worry about it but now I don't care as I realized that 1)

having a higher body count does not necessarily indicate skill or knowledge ( as evident by the person I had sex with and also conversations I have had with people with higher body counts than me ) and 2) there are other ways you can both acquire knowledge and skill ( sex education workshops , books , contact improv , dance classes , massage books etc).

Agree to disagree on both accounts.

1)A person with a lot of sexual experience might not be good with a person due to a lot of factors beyond just ability.



2) Books and workshops may or may not be useful. Would you hire a plumber who has read every book on it, but has no on the job experience or someone who os barely literate who has been fixing ubends since he was 16? Nothing beats physical experience.

1) I agree ...I am learning chemistry is huge. Someone's skills might not even be that great but you could just be so physically and sexually attracted to them that everything they do seems like it's the best thing ever. ( This was true of my last experience which I did not capitalize).

2) Because I have a vagina and am talking about sex with other vaginas.....A better comparison would be a plumber that has read every book but does have experience fixing his own toilet / drain...like a lot.

Additionally the plumber talks with other plumbers about clients they have had and what has worked and not worked in fixing their plumbing and has gotten verbal confirmation about things that the plumber has learned from books and the workshops.

( e.g here is a freebie for you ( confirmed by many amore experienced straight women , lesbians and bisexuals) - one should bring a woman to orgasm at least once first before penetration...as in if you are able to do that penetration feels so much better and it is easier to bring her to a second orgasm through penetration because the clitoral cuff and g spot is now fully engorged , descends and is way more sensitive to stimulation).

2) I think a lot of people do what seems to work on other people. There's a lot of garbage advice, spelling out the alphabet on a clit - who invented that? The grouch from Sesame Street?

ROFLMAO.

yeah..a better version is focusing one one letter like lower case i ( lower case i should be made with nose on side of clitloral hood and the rest of the letter should be completed with medium firm flat languorous repeated strokes of the tongue on the rest of the entire vulva or a "capital O and the magical circles" is also a classic fave).

if you were going to try that but not as the only thing you do.

But again all vaginas are snowflakes and what works on some women may not work on others.

Oddly I've pretty much done than early on out of instinct. I just focus on one place when I find her gasping and tensing up, seems to work.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

At least they would know what they were doing and probably not shy about their body. Nothing worse than someone shy about their body.

I think as a man it’s probably best not to ask because it will be higher than yours. Women have much more opportunity.

You think so— I always assume men would typically have a higher body count than women. Men just come across like they see sex as a sport sometimes. 🤣 that’s an interesting point that you make though (more opportunity)

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Posted by Findingbalance

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Posted by TXCowboy

No, but they always ask about mine. 🤭

You're a better man than me.lol

Not better, just more experienced.

you don't think a high body count indicates deep insecurity issues?

From my experience dating and most importantly just having a lot of friends that are girls this has definitely been true.

It could. Or they might just enjoy sex. Not all swingers are insecure. A low count could also mean insecurity (afraid to be vulnerable, insecure of looks for instance).

I'd suggest putting more value on what they say and do in your presence vs their past.

I would worry more if someone has been married and divorced a lot.

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Posted by TXCowboy

No, but they always ask about mine. 🤭

You're a better man than me.lol

Not better, just more experienced.

you don't think a high body count indicates deep insecurity issues?

From my experience dating and most importantly just having a lot of friends that are girls this has definitely been true.

It could. Or they might just enjoy sex. Not all swingers are insecure. A low count could also mean insecurity (afraid to be vulnerable, insecure of looks for instance).

I'd suggest putting more value on what they say and do in your presence vs their past.

Interesting perspective.

The insecurity of one's looks for someone who has a low count is interesting....maybe this is true for cisgender straight men. I think women who are insecure will still get offers and turn people down if they don't want to have sex. But I think that in itself demonstrates some sense of security, self worth and self respect as in not needing that kind of validation even if there are not entirely secure with themselves in every way. I don't know who is though.



I will say I haven't been the most secure with the way that I look until recently but that has a lot to do with me being trans and looking like what I thought other people wanted vs they way I have always felt ( more masculine presenting ).I cut my hair earlier this year and now dress in a way that I've always loved and just feel more confident because I am living authentically I think. Ofc there are still little things that I would like to change but as it stands overall I think I am cute even without those changes.

Within the last month I have had 4 encounters with three different women in which made moves on me / indicated they wanted to hook up. I turned all of them down not because I was insecure with my looks.

2 of them I was not interested in them in that way.

The last one was a f*ck girl who I was starting to develop feelings for and I didn't want those feelings to deepen as she

indicated she didn't want to date me or get emotionally attached. But really she just always pegged me for someone she could use for attention , sex/validation and free meals /vacations.

I was a total sucker for a hot minute.

So it was good I didn't do the deed as my fears were not unfounded.

She could have gotten a lot more out of me than just a few free meals and a romantic getaway.

Because of my low body count and the fact that I don't think I could do casual sex ( as in I want the person to actually deeply care for me at the very least) I know that if I had sex with her getting over her ( the fantasy version of her in my head ) would have been even harder than it already is.

IDK I think even when presented with options if you're highly insecure (of looks, ability, being judged, etc) you'd still hesitate to jump in no matter what gender you are. If you're highly insecure about looks for instance, you're going to be thinking that sure, he's coming onto me now but when we get naked he's gonna be turned off and bounce. In other words, you're still not going to actually believe you have those options. Insecurities can be quite deep 😕

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Posted by Reincarnation5



It matters for marriage.

Anyway - nobody is getting married anymore. So perhaps it isn't important to some people. I don't know.

It's a Brave New World.

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This just supports the generic viewpoint in which a man's high count makes him a stud, whereas a woman's make her dirty and undesirable. It all begins and ends in the man's mind and his understandings. I see a lot of growth that needs to happen because men really have an unhealthy outlook on sex. They are aroused and disgusted by it at the same time.

no we are possessive and looking for rarity. high body count mean you got possessed a lot and u arent that hard to get but those criteria are for relationship, if its for ONS yeah who cares but the body count, im just another one

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Posted by GenericUsername

This just supports the generic viewpoint in which a man's high count makes him a stud, whereas a woman's make her dirty and undesirable. It all begins and ends in the man's mind and his understandings. I see a lot of growth that needs to happen because men really have an unhealthy outlook on sex. They are aroused and disgusted by it at the same time.

no we are possessive and looking for rarity. high body count mean you got possessed a lot and u arent that hard to get but those criteria are for relationship, if its for ONS yeah who cares but the body count, im just another one

but it's still an unhealthy male point of view because we are not possessions. We are beings just as you are. Our reproductive organs are on the inside, yours are on the outside. And that's that. Everything else is psychological.

im so lazy to answer this, males are just being males and that's nature

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Posted by GenericUsername

This just supports the generic viewpoint in which a man's high count makes him a stud, whereas a woman's make her dirty and undesirable. It all begins and ends in the man's mind and his understandings. I see a lot of growth that needs to happen because men really have an unhealthy outlook on sex. They are aroused and disgusted by it at the same time.

no we are possessive and looking for rarity. high body count mean you got possessed a lot and u arent that hard to get but those criteria are for relationship, if its for ONS yeah who cares but the body count, im just another one

but it's still an unhealthy male point of view because we are not possessions. We are beings just as you are. Our reproductive organs are on the inside, yours are on the outside. And that's that. Everything else is psychological.

im so lazy to answer this, males are just being males and that's nature

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Posted by lepetitstar

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I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

Let’s say she’s been sexually active 14 years. 2 people a year does not sounds significantly high at all. And some people like having sex more casually. I’d be more concerned with how she does it than with how many. I read more insecurity on your side than hers.

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I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

Let’s say she’s been sexually active 14 years. 2 people a year does not sounds significantly high at all. And some people like having sex more casually. I’d be more concerned with how she does it than with how many. I read more insecurity on your side than hers.

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I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

Let’s say she’s been sexually active 14 years. 2 people a year does not sounds significantly high at all. And some people like having sex more casually. I’d be more concerned with how she does it than with how many. I read more insecurity on your side than hers.

Yeah I guess it's because I grew up Protestant and most of my straight girlfriends were also a bit conservative in my twenties. All of them are married now and have had less than 5 partners.

I get the world is big and your math makes sense for a lot of people that didn't really grow up in a religious household and drink the kool aid.lol

I will admit for a little bit I was uncertain ( not so much insecure) about why I can't just have sex with people like everyone else. I have been now hanging out with a lot of queer women who have had a lot of partners and even a few who would say are hypersexual even.

But I feel ok with my sexuality ( I'm sapio/demi and have only been sexually attracted to 3 people thus far and I'm in my 30s now) and not compromising my values just because of peer pressure.

I did a lot of back and forth before I realized that I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am even if it feels like I'm missing out sometimes. I know ultimately casual sex with someone will make me feel gross , used and shitty.

I need to be both sexually attracted to them and feel that they care about me and be in a relationship. I can't detach my feelings from sex and I know I am not alone in this.

There is some insecurity here and that’s on you to find out. But it has little to do with how many partners she’s had, IMO. If you focus on yourself and your own reactions to figure those out instead of pushing it onto her you may end up changing your mind. We all have rules and information about our own selves we buy into and to some extent romantic partners are there as confirmation of who we are or aren’t. Most of the time the root is in shame.

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I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

Let’s say she’s been sexually active 14 years. 2 people a year does not sounds significantly high at all. And some people like having sex more casually. I’d be more concerned with how she does it than with how many. I read more insecurity on your side than hers.

Yeah I guess it's because I grew up Protestant and most of my straight girlfriends were also a bit conservative in my twenties. All of them are married now and have had less than 5 partners.

I get the world is big and your math makes sense for a lot of people that didn't really grow up in a religious household and drink the kool aid.lol

I will admit for a little bit I was uncertain ( not so much insecure) about why I can't just have sex with people like everyone else. I have been now hanging out with a lot of queer women who have had a lot of partners and even a few who would say are hypersexual even.

But I feel ok with my sexuality ( I'm sapio/demi and have only been sexually attracted to 3 people thus far and I'm in my 30s now) and not compromising my values just because of peer pressure.

I did a lot of back and forth before I realized that I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am even if it feels like I'm missing out sometimes. I know ultimately casual sex with someone will make me feel gross , used and shitty.

I need to be both sexually attracted to them and feel that they care about me and be in a relationship. I can't detach my feelings from sex and I know I am not alone in this.

U normal bro, some people are deluded and not in phase with reality.

I NeED a GuY wItH ExPeRieNCE ? for what ? To fuck you and never call you back? Honestly sex isn’t that much complicated and someone who had a lot of partner are just boring.

Let’s go to Japan ! - Already did it with brad

Let’s go to that bar ! - Done it with Alfred

Woa this is so boring.. Ugh u remind me Bertrand

…

stay true to yourself’

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

Let’s say she’s been sexually active 14 years. 2 people a year does not sounds significantly high at all. And some people like having sex more casually. I’d be more concerned with how she does it than with how many. I read more insecurity on your side than hers.

Also to add this chick did get the chance to erode a bit of my self esteem / made me feel insecure

after I did not give in to having sex with her.

You could possibly be picking up on that.

Ultimately one of the best decisions I made in my life thus far...even though I really wanted too at the time.

She would have just used sex to control and manipulate me even more which is also another affirming reason why glad I kept my standards intact and give in. Her hooks were already in me a little too deep for my liking and I was starting to develop feelings.

It just might have been best sex ever but I would have even gotten more hurt in the end.

She did a number on me. Reading a lot on the internet and reflecting she was most likly a narcissist.

I survived barely.lol

If she was a narcissist then that’s what you should be worried about, not how many people she’s slept with. That’s a bigger red flag. Haha

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Anyone worried about a person's body count is just insecure....especially when they themselves aren't as experienced as the other person.

Only thing I'm interested in is past serious relationships and why they failed. Those are the ones anyone should be interested in cause those involve the heart.

I like knowing enough to see how they’ve grown and what they’ve experienced that has made them who they are now but to be honest I don’t need anything beyond that. I think it’s pointless and as long as they are the person I love now who loves me, that’s all that matters.

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Posted by Midnite_Riser

Body count does matter. Girls with high body counts I will only allow them to give me a blow job to see what they got. Thats it. After that I ditch them.

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Posted by GenericUsername

Posted by Midnite_Riser

Body count does matter. Girls with high body counts I will only allow them to give me a blow job to see what they got. Thats it. After that I ditch them.

I doubt you ever had a blowjob with that attitude

🤭

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by lepetitstar

Posted by SeaLion

Anyone worried about a person's body count is just insecure....especially when they themselves aren't as experienced as the other person.

Only thing I'm interested in is past serious relationships and why they failed. Those are the ones anyone should be interested in cause those involve the heart.

I like knowing enough to see how they’ve grown and what they’ve experienced that has made them who they are now but to be honest I don’t need anything beyond that. I think it’s pointless and as long as they are the person I love now who loves me, that’s all that matters.

from talking to married straight female friends of mine

men tend to grow more / be better in bed not necessarily with a higher body count

but more so if they have been in long term relationships with people who were open to sexually communicating what they wanted as well as exploration , via books , workshops and other educational materials.

Practice doesn't make perfect but perfect practice makes perfect.

Wrong. Like comparing a mechanic to an F1 driver.

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by lepetitstar

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by lepetitstar

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Please share with the class.

I found out recently if I would have had sex with the last girl I was interested in I would have been number 28 ( she had been with 20 guys and 7 women before me and she was 32 yrs old.lol

I feel like that's kind of high right?

I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

Let’s say she’s been sexually active 14 years. 2 people a year does not sounds significantly high at all. And some people like having sex more casually. I’d be more concerned with how she does it than with how many. I read more insecurity on your side than hers.

Also to add this chick did get the chance to erode a bit of my self esteem / made me feel insecure

after I did not give in to having sex with her.

You could possibly be picking up on that.

Ultimately one of the best decisions I made in my life thus far...even though I really wanted too at the time.

She would have just used sex to control and manipulate me even more which is also another affirming reason why glad I kept my standards intact and give in. Her hooks were already in me a little too deep for my liking and I was starting to develop feelings.

It just might have been best sex ever but I would have even gotten more hurt in the end.

She did a number on me. Reading a lot on the internet and reflecting she was most likly a narcissist.

I survived barely.lol

If she was a narcissist then that’s what you should be worried about, not how many people she’s slept with. That’s a bigger red flag. Haha

well yeah obviously lmao

I told you the number was indicative of other more troubling things. ( narcissists are deeply insecure)

She claimed to be traditional , looking for marriage and even demisexual like me ( hilarious)

but not with that number.

The number didn't bother me as much as the inconsistencies between her words and her actions .lol

She was just trying to get me to like her even more and get into my panties ( for the purposes again of control manipulation , attention , gifts etc)

Your parents tell you about the bad boys but they never mention bad b*tches lol.

You made the thread about the body count tho

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by lepetitstar

Posted by SeaLion

Anyone worried about a person's body count is just insecure....especially when they themselves aren't as experienced as the other person.

Only thing I'm interested in is past serious relationships and why they failed. Those are the ones anyone should be interested in cause those involve the heart.

I like knowing enough to see how they’ve grown and what they’ve experienced that has made them who they are now but to be honest I don’t need anything beyond that. I think it’s pointless and as long as they are the person I love now who loves me, that’s all that matters.

from talking to married straight female friends of mine

men tend to grow more / be better in bed not necessarily with a higher body count

but more so if they have been in long term relationships with people who were open to sexually communicating what they wanted as well as exploration , via books , workshops and other educational materials.

Practice doesn't make perfect but perfect practice makes perfect.

Stats and possibilities will always exist but taking each human as themselves works better.

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Posted by GenericUsername

Posted by Midnite_Riser

Body count does matter. Girls with high body counts I will only allow them to give me a blow job to see what they got. Thats it. After that I ditch them.

I doubt you ever had a blowjob with that attitude

🤭

Well it's true, this is just an example of a toxic mindset. Like sex and sexual activities are some form of punishment for women. It's stupid and I would rather be alone than waste my energy on someone who clearly has issues 😒

Don't lie. You love the toxicity. It turns you on. You crave it. You women always love to lie and claim "he's toxic" but in actuality, you are turned on by it because it comforts the nature of your sexuality.

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Posted by Midnite_Riser

Body count does matter. Girls with high body counts I will only allow them to give me a blow job to see what they got. Thats it. After that I ditch them.

Why?

Women do collect different strains of HPV with more sexual partners. Strains 16, 18, 31, 33 etcetera. Like baseball cards.

Increases the chance of head and neck cancers. As well as penile cancer.

Poor Michael Douglas.

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Please share with the class.



I don't want to slut shame and I think of myself as being sex positive but

I also feel like a high number could indicate other issues like deep rooted insecurity (using sex for validation) which is a no go me if I'm looking for a relationship or a potential future wife.

Even casual sex with a girl with a high body count seems less appealing.

If she's more discerning and is willing to hook up with you it seems like a more rewarding and fulfilling experience for both of you no??

Thoughts?

Posted by Reincarnation5

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by Midnite_Riser

Body count does matter. Girls with high body counts I will only allow them to give me a blow job to see what they got. Thats it. After that I ditch them.

Why?

Women do collect different strains of HPV with more sexual partners. Strains 16, 18, 31, 33 etcetera. Like baseball cards.

Increases the chance of head and neck cancers. As well as penile cancer.

Poor Michael Douglas.

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Posted by Reincarnation5

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by Midnite_Riser

Body count does matter. Girls with high body counts I will only allow them to give me a blow job to see what they got. Thats it. After that I ditch them.

Why?

Women do collect different strains of HPV with more sexual partners. Strains 16, 18, 31, 33 etcetera. Like baseball cards.

Increases the chance of head and neck cancers. As well as penile cancer.

Poor Michael Douglas.

Lmao, 75% of the human population has,

microscopic mites in the eye brows They eat dead skin cells and keep the pores clean.

Your body doesn't digest food. Bacteria your intestines breaks it down and we absorb the remainder. Same for the stomach to a lesser degree. This is the origin of side effects anti-biotics.

Similar, your mouth has shit ton of bacteria breaking down food and eating bad bacteria in your mouth that produce acid as a byproduct that erodes your teeth. These bad bacteria are acidic in nature. They are in the gut and mouth mostly eat sugar and covert it to acid that damages your body. This is why most problems can be eliminated by controlling simple sugar intake.

There is a strain of herbes a large section of the population have without negative side effects. In fact it prevents other strains from taking hold. HPV is a veriant that has begun to cause damage. Men are mostly carries but damage can cause cancer, sterilization, and other health problems if the immune system keeping it in check is compromised.

The vagina has it's on ecosystem of microbes. Again why hp balance actually matters. Keep the good guys in check and bad guys down. Cancers and the alike are very possible if this isn't managed.

High acidity in the body causes a lot of problems...everywhere because of the complex system of bacteria in our body working with our body symbiotically. In fact they have discovered virus DNA in our DNA.

Our body and how it works, it's very exists is amazing. Most health issues are imbalances of some kind, even cancer. Most cancers scevage free glucose in blood stream before it's able to hijack the blood stream directly and grow.

so, If you think a blow job keeps you "safe"....Lmao Your still swapping colonies of beneficial and problematic organisms. Btw don't brush your teeth before intercourses, the micro scratches make it easier to introduce organisms into your blood stream bypassing stomach and mouth defenses. Use mouth watch before and after instead.

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I don’t even ask this question. It’s pointless, most would lie anyways. I just want someone with experience and know how and a clean bill of health.

Asking this question is immature IMO.

What happens is they said they had a body count of 5 but were fucking/ dating 3 people at the same time.

Vs

Someone who’s got 15, but is only seeing you?

Body count is for insecure people. I don’t think there is a reason to ask at all. It’s a breeding ground for lies and insecurity.