DD25 - It certainly is a struggle for me to forego contact when I really like someone. For me to do so, there has to be some good reasons to do. Younger and immature Virgos will likely be inwardly focused and often find insecurities causing them to pull back. The more mature virgos may be more risk averse - warning signs in the other person causing them to take things slow.
Infrequent contact really stokes the fire. The strange part is that that my analytical nature kicks in when there is no contact after a couple of weeks. In those cases, the connection starts to fade, which usually cools the burn.
daydreamer25 - regarding your questions: "Would you say that as a Virgo you value relationships more which have grown steady and through strong friendship first?"
Yes. I would say so. As you probably read, most Virgo men don't let people into their inner circle very easily. Those that make it into the inner circle are treasured and protected. So if a relationship develops out of a friendship, it tends to be very strong.
That said, I am loathed to turn a friendship into a relationship however. As you know - it is a rare circumstance where a failed relationship still retains the friendship. Most relationships don't work out.
Your second question: "And the time thing regarding the confirming and acting on it, is this mainly about trust and truly getting to know someone shares the same values/dreams?"
Partly. There are two thoughts at work. 1 - Is the friendship worth risking for the relationship? 2 - Is the attraction one sided? Answering these questions take boys lots of time...we are not naturally inclined to analyze these things.
Question is, should I make some kind of contact to show I am thinking of him or send him a message telling him how I really feel (spill the beans!) and let him ponder whilst I am away..
DO IT....I did and I feel so much better. Do it for yourself..put yourself first. I would tell him how you feel and then let it be. Go on your trip with the comfort that you expressed your feelings before you left and if he doesn't respond you won't have the ever present question of what if.....I think a heartfelt email, text or letter so he can physically see your words and reread them as many times as he wants or needs would be best and then if he doesn't respond...be okay with the knowledge you did all you could. Be mindful that he is a virgo and he is going to analyze and go into deep thoughts over your words so it may take time.....but make sure you DO IT and do it for you!
u said: Question is, should I make some kind of contact to show I am thinking of him or send him a message telling him how I really feel (spill the beans!)
I would highly suggest that, or prepare to find him on his way down another path when you return. We dislike games, but we dislike not knowing just as bad.
My last Pisces pulled that on me, and early on our relationship she couldn't figure out why I was not speaking to her or interested ina relationship at that time. I assumed, not having any data due to her close mouthed emotional state, that I would be better off with another gal.
Would you say that as a Virgo you value relationships more which have grown steady and through strong friendship first? And the time thing regarding the confirming and acting on it, is this mainly about trust and truly getting to know someone shares the same values/dreams?
Being a fellow earth sign I can completely understand if that's the case.
Fire (and water signs to some extent) can be all or nothing and I think that can push 'earthies' away.
It's interesting to know though if Virgo's are blessed with patience themselves as they obviously expect others to be that way... I have not much!
Very true tazman...It also deals with the woman as well. I know for me as an adult I have to learn that the world does not revolve against me (I'm an only child) I do know now that when it comes down to it I can reach out to my virgo in an emergency and he'll be there or do his best to be there.....to me that says a lot! It's just the matter of taking back the past and things I've said that I don't know how to do.
Let me help straighten something out here - not all virgo men are pricks who ignore your calls or messages. Most of us, if we get your messages, will reply with courtesy. Now, our response may not be what you want to read/hear but we will reply. Unless we tell you to buzz off.
Now to the subject at hand. If we are interested in you - we will let you know. If you keep communicating after we ignore you, you are telling us you are needy. Some guys will take advantage of your neediness. We will not love you. Just like you, do you find neediness from a man attractive or seductive?
One thing my younger (but probably wiser) sister noted about me (Virgo male) was that I tend to evaluate and categorzie most woman I am dating or who are interested very quickly.
Most guys are not conflicted about how they feel about relationships or life when it is something they want. If they say "I am not sure I am ready to settle down" or "I don't want to have anything serious"; to help clear your confusion, just add "...with you." to the end of their sentence. It is how some men chicken out when telling a woman how they really feel. If it is the right woman, we know right away - it will take time before we confirm and act on it.
See....this may sound mean but my friend turned me on to a song that I now listen to when I'm Pissed...entitled IT'S WHATEVA....meaning pimin you wanna clown ok.....IT'S WHATEVA! He'll be back and when he does......it's gone be trouble..... trouble!