Posted by halalbae
Posted by Aquastic
Posted by JanMayMarry
It's always like that for toxic rs. Because we were blind and make believe that they were our everything. And when things doesn't goes the way we had planned, that's when we realized we have invested lots of feelings in it.
Been there, done that. It sucks!
This is the second relationship, where I get my heart broken by a toxic person. Both men have the same traits,they love someone else while fooling me ,then I only find out when it's too late.maybe there's something I am not doing right.
Gahhh
This is why you always gotta test the waters BEFORE your feelings are actually invested, pretend like they got you in the bag and see if efforts and communication deteriorates because a lot of people enter entirely new situations pretending to be all in and serious... while the wound from their last situation is still bleeding
And in these situations they are never able to emotionally invest in you. You can waste months and years on someone like this, eventually you will realize it was all a lie and your relationship was simply a bandage
People could avoid sooooooo much heartbreak if they just listened to their feelings. You know the feelings Im talking about. People that are good for you dont arouse those feelings, truly
Does he purposely (ESPECIALLY within the first 3 to 6 months) make you feel:
Worthless
Silenced
Unsure
Desperate
Used
Then well your intuition is YELLING at you. Your brain is feeding you these signals to protect you mentally. LISTEN. LEAVE. Dont second guess the decision. I feel like you did some insaaaane mental gymnastics to avoid listening to your intuition
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Wow! It's as if you were in my brain,it was really hard to initiate contacts and of course do other things during the relationship, was always on guard ,thinking I would somehow get hurt by this guy,but I went ahead with it,till now that he dumped me,only now that I took a step back and think about what I was doing to my heart,brain and soul . The relationship required that I compromise too much .
Thanks by the way for your analysis.😉