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  • Virgo season is killing the patience I've had with this Cap man. My insecurities are at war here.

    I don't know if I should ask what is going on between us.

    Should I express how my feelings are growing and I don't want to get hurt.

    Or just get out of dodge in Cancer fashion, which involves explaining why we are leaving.

    Here goes the Cancer style backstory: A year since we met. Dated for like 3 1/2 months, he stated not ready for relationship topic (ex issues). He disappeared for 3 months, stalked me on social media the whole time. He came back around and I acted different with him. I put away my feelings for him, so basically for me it was FWB. He slowly did things to win me over a bit but I had my wall up. Had our first argument and I tried cut him out (don't text me anymore) before he could ghost me again. It was about trust and I know Cappys and their trust. But he surprised me by still reaching out to me.We texted about 4-6 times, he was still talking about the argument and trust, I was so over it. After almost a month of not seeing each other, we finally got back to hanging out and he was very different with me. No more mentions of the argument, he changed small things that I would tell him I didn't like. The trust we had was back. All mentions of his ex wife stopped (this is his biggest issue, the hurt his ex wife caused him and she loves to yo-yo him back giving him hope...shes an aqua. separated for 3yrs they have a child together). This was big, in the past he mentioned her hatefully every time we hung out and then would tell me things like she wants to do counseling together and work it out (her yo-yoing him, me being in the friendzone). I heard him on the phone with her recently and I can tell with his tone and actions that hes finally moving on from her. He did mention this to me in his texts from our argument that he was working on moving on from her, so whatever flipped the switch it happened after that. In those texts he mentioned that our thing is a "physical relationship", that hes not ready for a "relationship". But of-course my intuition is picking up on a lot of small changes in him. He opening up more to me about his family and his art and sometimes work. But not about himself. He looks different, like if all the stress of his life is off, totally can see him more relaxed in the face. Hes even more humorous with me even tho some of his jokes is on me. He smiles more with me because I am totally always funny.

    He is on a work trip right now and I haven't seen him in 2 weeks. When he gets back I have 1 day to see him and then I leave for 1 week. I treetrunking miss him and it's making me see that I can't hid my feelings for him.

    Again do I, ask what is going on between us.

    Should I express how my feelings are growing and I don't want to get hurt.

    Or just get out of dodge in Cancer fashion.