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    When they talk about "That nigga," I'm him, I'm him, I'm that nigga...
    Joined dxpnet on January 27, 2012.
    Posted by slowdive80
    @venusaquarius - I dont have a problem dating older provided i am attracted to them and there are no kids involved. Or if kids are involved they are grown up and out of the house.

    But again, that is not easily available where I live. But what is funny is that at the beginning of my 30's where i lived previously there was while not large but decent amount of singles.

    But I was taking care of a family member at the time and couldnt date. I thought there would be more time. But then when i got to 35 I started to notice less single thirty something women that were not single mothers

    It wasnt a huge issue until i got to 37 and then last year 38. I've noticed more and more where I live is not conducive to dating my age. Even looking for late 20's as there are more women then guys here.

    And the girls in their mid 20's here settle down quick because the competition is fierce out here for them

    I like living in Santa Barbara but in two years I am going to age out of the demographic here completely

    So unless I met someone that is late 20's or 30's I think i will leave by May. That's not the only reason - it is expensive to live here and I am tired of living with roommates



    You're being very smart about it. People do need to look at the stats of where they live for marriage and love just like you would for a career.

    The southern town I grew up in had a male to female population heavily male. Not anymore but up until my late 20's at least. I could not step outta my house without a cat call or a man pulling over. So, that shaped my perspective alot. It also had high domestic violence and rape to include serial rapists. Police would rather do a drug raid before answering a domestic violence call. I kid you not. So, I was dating with absolute ease and no real concern and married young. But, I had a gun and was very careful. Being chased home by men and boys, threatened after rejection, stalked relentlessly....

    Now, I'm up North. The women here are so aggressive, men talk of being turned off. Women wait until late 30's and 40's to have children or get married cause of career opportunities are galore. But, the competition with other aggressive women with the same life plan is fierce. So, I recommend the urban Northeast for what you're looking for.
    I'm glad I'm not a single woman up here. It would be a culture shock for this southern gal. I'm up here for the career opportunities only. Got my man in the south.