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    Venus aquarius cap here.
    Sometimes it's weeks before I'm in for seeing the person I'm dating again.
    Recently started things with a new date and I'm sort of on the fence already because she's getting pissed that I'm setting our next date weeks away.
    I'm working a lot and changing schedules at both jobs to train new people and take my new position. I've also taken into consideration that she's having her exams rn and I just want to set our next date for when she's done and at least gathered herself from it after a day or two.

    She thinks I'm not interested because of this. I am, but imo, there's no sense meeting if we won't both be anywhere near full function mentally/energetically when we do. I do see the necessity of meeting on occasion, but it doesn't precede making sure the time spent is well spent. What sense does it make to meet, if in my head, I'm only going to be thinking of how soon I can get back to my bed.
    I'm also not interested in spending extra energy when I'm in a high energy work period and I'm also not in as much of an open state of mind.

    All to say, we can be interested and pretty much invested in gaining traction with the dating, but we do have priorities and an interest in making the time spent comfortable and quality. If that means we need to delay it 3 weeks and some days and only text every other day, it's no bother to us.

    If you're going through something and need to talk, we'll make the time, if it's something serious, but otherwise, communication can be casual af until we gain hold of our normal, non-work brains again.


    This is me too with Venus in Aquarius. I've got so many irons in the fire with my regular position and my side hustle, that it could be weeks before I have another date with a woman.


    when it is convenient for you .. how would she know if you're busy or not interested? .. That's pretty dismissive


    Because I'll say that I'm extremely busy and make it very clear I still have interest in her.


    He essentially broke up with me today, after dating three months every week until the last three weeks. Quite a cold manner as well, robotic style text and didn't answer my last message :/



    His ending this with you does not surprise me at all. I practically predicted it in this post below. There is vital back story in that which is missing from this current thread.

    https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/dating-2-months-is-he-pulling-away--12431668/

    You said you'd both just got out of a relationship and he told you he was seriously hurt by this and therefore he was not looking for anything committed. Rather than listen to what he said and take a step back you jumped right in and got attached to someone who told you he wasn't available and who didn't want to commit to you. Therefore, you ended up with someone who wasn't available and who didn't want to commit to you. I'm sure he liked you. He had some free sex. Now he's going to focus on the shit he needs to focus on. Let him go. He's not going to change his mind no matter how much of a great connection you perceived you had.


    What is this "free sex"!!!!!! Should he have paid? Should he give her things to have sex?

    Pleae don't breath life into this about sex, and that she should regret having sex. She is not mentioning that here, so don't make it out to be that. Let's hope, the sex was good and they both enjoyed it and wanted it equally as much.


    Free sex as in sex outside of an exclusively committed relationship.

    Where did I say she should regret having sex with this man? I never said that at all.

    I'm afraid I can't vouch for if the sex was good though or if they both wanted it or enjoyed it.

    I hope it was good and OP can chalk this up to dating, it was only two months, and move on.


    It's just in the phrase "free sex", like she shouldn't have done it, because they are not in a relationship.
    She didn't give him "free sex", she just had sex. Just plain old regular sex.

    At least that's how it reads to me, but if you didn't mean it like that, no worries then 😊


    If that's what I'd have meant then I'd have said it. I don't mince my words.

    Yes, they had sex. I don't know if it was plain sex or old sex or plain old sex but it was sex.

    She can have sex with anyone she wants. Inside or outside of a relationship. That's her choice and she's free to make it. However, know what you're signing up for before you give yourself away because you might not deal so well with the consequences. I don't think this situation was 'just sex' and I don't think OP anticipated or was prepared for it to be short term.

    I've said all I need to say on this thread and on OP's other threads regarding this situation. If you want to have context then read those.
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    No but did she ever mention anything about the sex herself?

    If someone wrote this to me, that I gave the guy free sex, I would feel like it was someone trying to indirectly tell me, that I got used and should have gotten something back in return for the sex (so it wasn't "free") The emphasis is on free.