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    Posted by Chuckcem
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    I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
    Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
    I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...


    Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.

    Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.

    Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.

    I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.

    If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.

    Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.

    As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.

    Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.


    Another thing, he commented quite often how much he appreciated my strong personality and said how refreshing it was. I was with a cancer previously and always had to mellow out to please him because he was more chill than I
    Then he made a comment about two strong personalities not working. I told him with two strong teammates you know what you are.... winners. I’m just confused and honestly disappointed.
    Do you think he’ll come back around? I did my part
    He got a genuine apology from me. I will not chase him... doesn’t mean I don’t want to! Lol sigh


    It really sounds like he may not be able to handle you. It's your choice if you want to wait around on him, but it's up to him to start speaking to you again since he's the one who bailed. Also try to see this situation for what it is and don't get caught up in the back and forth, hot and cold games he appears to be playing. Scorpios can often fall for push/pull tactics from aloof people, or people who seem hard to get. If this guy is too insecure to not cause unnecessary problems, see it for what it is, not what you want it to be.


    Ty Mr Leo... in ref to not being able to handle me.... my personality? My vibe? In what way. Still nothing from him.... should I even wish him a happy birthday? I know he was interested and the worst part is, I feel like I chased him away. Still sincerely bummed


    This Leo reeks of insecurity. Here's the thing about Scorpios, there is usually a fairly strong sexual energy that exudes from you once you get past the "mystique". Leos can generally cut through that mystique fairly quickly. A Leo who understands this will be enticed, but a Leo who doesn't may think that a Scorpio's sexual energy is shared with everyone. An insecure Leo will simply not understand why they are evoking such an intense energy from a Scorpio so early.

    From what I gather, the Leo got in his own head and saw your energy as a threat. He probably let his imagination run wild and deteriorate into jealousy. He couldn't peg you. Likewise you were probably more direct than he anticipated, so he probably thought you act this way with everyone.

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    Ty Leo, my original thought... ok he has some insecurities. In groups of large people his dynamic exude pure confidence and I completely appreciated that... it drew me in actually. I have toned myself down a lot of times and I just won’t any more. He went from appreciating me being 100, telling me it was refreshing to this. Hot and cold. He said he hates playing games but I’m second guessing that one. He has completely cut me off
    And it sucks because I’m not like that with anyone... only people I like lol. I think I’m just completely bummed because I’m picky, been single for a minute. No one catches my attention easily but he did... he had it and then he was gone... still bummed