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    Aggressive African Woman
    38 years old male
    Joined dxpnet on September 20, 2008.
    Why are you so obsessed with playing therapists and sorting other people's problems, people you barely know - yet when your bae needs your understanding and support, you don't know what to do.

    Two of my favourite bosses are Crabs (females, if it matters astrologically speaking). Both have the same tendency to be overly engaged in the personal problems of a selected few (me included) in their staff and at times it feels likeĀ  talking to a therapist. I'm not sure if it's a good or a bad thing, I guess bc it depends what their motives are and if it's some sort of ego trip or genuine care, or both.

    The boss at my new job is starting to pick up on my inner struggles (outwardly I'm pretty balanced) and has me put my guard down somewhat bc her concerns seem genuine and bc as she puts it, "It's not about the work, it's that I want everyone working here to feel well". Which sounds either incredibly arrogant and self-indulgent or like she's a saint.

    As for my Crab gf, she's used to me being balanced, her rock... and in the past it's always been her who was in need of my understanding & support dealing with her issues but when I'm going through something, she does not seem to know how to deal with it. And I'm not asking her to do anything really, contrary - just be supportive in the sense that she needs to leave it be and not take my issues onto herself. Just let me feel crappy if I'm having that kind of day, or days. That's all the "support" I ask: Don't try to fix my problems like it's some on-and-off switch and when that fails, start getting all impatient.

    When it comes to acquaintances and friends though, she always seems supportive and understanding and trying to be there for them (or give space), but she can't cope with me going through rough patches, even though it's completely unrelated to her, or us.

    To conclude: She possesses similar qualities as my two last Cancer bosses when dealing with other ppl's problems, but when it comes to the person closest to her, she kinda sucks and it makes me feel lonlier than if I actually had no one by my side..

    Maybe it's just that she's used to me being balanced and not all 'bipolar' - but logically she should be able to understand that I'm a human being with emotions going through stuff like anyone else, and not a golden lion God lol.

    Any of this ring any bells to anyone as far as Crab behaviour & feelings go?