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    I live in the land of the Corn Children.
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    Posted by _Dazed
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    Posted by nikkistar
    Sex =/= Intimacy


    They are related to me. I can't even fathom how they aren't for most people. It's the most private parts of your body and actions.


    And to each their own. But within the constructs of this thread. The "man" is offering the "woman" to find sexual gratification due to his lack of needing physical sex. For this "man" sex does not equate to intimacy. And the man is secure enough within himself, to understand that his "partner" needs a certain level of sexual gratification that he can not fulfill himself.

    Intimacy there for is most paramount. Intimacy is needed within a romantic relationship. Which can be achieved without sex. Therefore sex =/= to intimacy. It can add to intimacy within a romantic relationship, but it is not the ONLY avenue to increase intimacy in a couple.


    Well, okay, I can agree with that. @Dazed didn't give us any of that context, though.


    i dunno, there wasnt really much of a lack of context. i understood what the question was & where it may have stemmed from. i dont see this as a troll thread.

    but i can also relate bc of personal experience so 🤷🏻‍♀️


    I didn't mean that it's a troll thread. I think he wanted answers. I also think he expected people to answer as they did and expected to scold people for not being as open-minded as him. I personally got offended at the idea that wondering if that means he expects the same is "man hating". No, it's the most obvious answer to why someone (male or female) would bring this up as part of a relationship discussion.


    i dunno, i dont see him scolding anyone here.

    just firm “no” responses & pointing out that everyone immediately jumps on the man for perceived shadiness.

    i dont consider that “man hating” but to me, it shows just how romance can really traumatize people.


    To be fair we do unfortunately live in the world that has shown the most prevalent scenario to be the one brought up. If we answer that we would have natural suspicions and seek clarification that is obviously the course that makes the most sense 🤷‍♀️


    to me, it reads as projecting former relationship trauma onto the companion.

    suspicion isnt natural, it’s a learned behavior. learned by lack of trust from others.

    “he wants me to sleep with someone else.. he MUST be up to something”, stems from a learned behavior. not an inherent one.


    @nikkistar and I were discussing this earlier..

    I thought maybe it was social engineering of sorts via TV/film/etc.

    She went with religion.
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    I went with religion because during Pagan times, prior to Christianity/Catholic religion, sex was not depicted in an amoral context. Greeks. Romans, etc... participated in sexual exhibitions that we find "taboo" in today's age. Sex was done between men, and accepted wildly and not frowned upon. It was a social norm to see sex openly done at celebrations. There wasn't this weird judgment around sex during those times.