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    Joined dxpnet on August 24, 2011.
    Posted by Black-Mamba
    Posted by Chuckcem
    Posted by coldwateryvirgo
    Posted by Chuckcem
    This caught my eye and prompted me to leave the Leo forum. I'm not a Taurus, but several of my good friends are, including a very close friend. Since five years have passed, the Taurus can't help but possibly think that you're only reaching out because he's now in a better position in life and you are not. I'm not saying that's the case, but it's possible that the thought will run through his mind. Also what changed that makes you want to reach out now?

    To give you some perspective, one of my friends has an ex who has been reaching out to him for the last 13 years or so. Granted the ex cheated on him and he's been dating someone else ever since, but even if he was single he wouldn't go back to the ex. He just takes the ego boost and continues with his life. Returning to a Taurus that you've turned away can be extremely tough. Hope this works out for you.

    It crossed my mind too that he will think it’s due to his success . But in all honestly , before he was leaving he was already in a place where he was gonna go places . If I was after his success I would’ve grabbed him then.

    Thank you for leaving the Leo forum for me lol

    In college , I was not looking for relationship. I was going the thing where I was chasing shitty men for the thrill . I was aware of that . Whenever I met good guys I wouldn’t get with them. Because I knew they were good men and I didn’t want to screw them over . I believe it’s women who hurt men that keep leaving other women with screwed up men so I just decided a long time ago I would never lead a good guy on . He was a good one , therefore I friend zoned him at the time . Well I have since re evaluated my life and have now realized the kind of man I would want to marry, be my husband and father to my children . I’m at that point in life and now he fits the kind of man I’m attracted too .

    Ultimately... it’s timing , he might not see it that way though . We shall see . I told him in the message that this is my last attempt of throwing it out there and will probably not be trying again as I will assume that after telling him where I stand and he’s not interested then it must not meant to be.


    Yeah, I'd keep most of that under wraps if you wind up talking to him. While it is your truth and the reality for many single women out there, it's not what a lot of men want to hear. It's a nice way of saying, "I liked the bad boys in my younger years, but that didn't pan out, so now in my older years I want someone who will care about me." While you may not mean it this way, it comes across as saying, "if the bad boys had worked out then, I wouldn't be looking for a good man now." Then again he may be flattered that he's so high on your list. The question is will he perceive you as high on his list?

    Understand that most "good men" usually get more valuable with age/success because women start to see them as "marriage material". Telling a good man that he is "marriage material" is like telling a gorgeous woman how pretty she is. It sounds like a compliment, but it really is not one. This is probably something that he has heard before from other women with the same relationship history as yourself. So if you do talk to him, don't lead with that.

    Also know for many men, a woman who is "marriage material" means something else. Remember that "good men" are still men. When a good man becomes successful, he will probably look for a partner who was/is more discerning in her youth. Even better is if he finds a woman who has been with him since the beginning of his success (including in her younger years). If you've spent your younger years chasing the wrong guys, it's not a good selling point for you as "marriage material".


    Harsh. If she was with the "right" guys than she'd be married already.

    I just don't get this circular kind of argument. Relationships fail all the time, doesn't entail the person was with a wrong guy, but just the wrong relationship
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    It wasn't meant to be harsh, but informative. She said that she avoided the good guys on purpose and went after the wrong guys instead. That's not going to be a good selling point for her as she tries to get back in contact with one of those good guys out of blue.