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  • Posted by Jade_Alexander
    Posted by goldrockett
    Posted by Jade_Alexander
    When it comes to relationships its needs to be honest

    He needs to be honest with the kids who you are

    And if he isn’t willing, you need to move on

    I’m dating a parent, I have kids... So I have been doing research in this subject... honesty is essential


    Thank you for that response. So do you think it's something I should bring to his attention ? Or let him do so in his own time ?


    You need to talk about it. You two have been together two years and the kids see you regularly. IMO you need to know where this relationship is heading so YOU can decide if you want to stick around.

    My kids know the guy I’m dating, they do not know we are together. Everything we do is in a group setting with no touching. He will not be my ‘friend’ when we come out, it will be an honest and direct conversation. But that talk won’t happen until we are committed to the relationship and positive about where it’s going.

    We’ve been dating A MONTH and had this discussion immediately because of our concern for the kids. Im really disturbed your BF hasnt after a few years. This is like parenting 101... so either he doesnt feel a need to clarify with you because he doesnt see you as a long term partner (his emotional unavailability or the circumstances) ir he is very immature in how he parents. Either way I would see it as res flags.
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    How old are your children if you don't mind me asking ? For the most part when we are around each other we don't really touch each other when the kids are around. But sometimes I feel like he does so to acknowledge me so I don't feel left out.

    But to be honest I didn't expect this relationship to be where it is today. I've known him for years , as a friend then we just hung out one day and kept seeing each other. But I do need to know if he does see me in his life long-term. based on a few other conversations we've had before he has said certain things that point to him wanting a future with me but at the same time certain things need to change / be brought up in getting to that in this relationship.

    I just feel like when it comes to the kids in being a priority he aces that , but when it comes to bringing me in the mix things get awkward for him. Idk why but we'll have that talk. I'm active in his life , friends life and his families life. So its only right we discuss this.