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Cancer Sun/ Aqua Moon/ Gemini Venus/ Virgo Mars/ Cap Asc
Posted by 7thHouse Posted by Isolde Posted by PhoenixStorm Posted by Isolde Posted by 7thHouse Posted by Isolde Posted by 7thHouse Posted by Isolde Posted by PhoenixStorm
I read this post on Facebook, I’m interested in hearing feedback from both men and women. Do you think there is truth to this?IF YOU’RE NOT DATING MULTIPLE MEN, YOU’RE MISSING OUT!
Lemmie stop yellin
But forreal
You want marriage right?
You wanna just meet the perfect guy, go on a few perfect dates and just end up in the perfect relationship until he proposes & ya’ll get married right?
I get it
The issue is you KNOW that’s not what usually happens
What USUALLY happens is that you meet a guy you like
Ya’ll kick it for a while until you ask yourself:
“Where is this going?”
And THEN when you’ve dropped enough “what are wes?”
He makes you his girlfriend, you’re in a relationship for a couple of years & then
BOOM!💥
Ya’ll break up
It ends
& you realize
You just wasted a LOT of time you can👏🏿never👏🏿get👏🏿back
Most women wait to get chosen by the guy they like
SMART women create options for themselves & do the CHOOSING
They make men EARN their exclusivity instead of giving it to them just because they’re “liked”
Why? It:
1️⃣Prevents over-investment
Putting all your emotional eggs in one basket prematurely is reckless. Dating multiple men allows you to invest hope in YOURSELF instead of a man.
2️⃣Forces men to step up
They will know you have options & if they want you they will either have to step up or step OUT.
3️⃣Creates space for you to be pursued.
Once exclusive, it’s common for women to flip the script & pursue the man because they want him to find them worthy of the ring. Dating multiple men keeps you in a pursued state until a man earns the right to lock you down
4️⃣Allows you to focus on yourself instead of focusing on a man.
You’re able to focus on YOUR needs, YOUR expectations, YOUR preferences because you’re not losing yourself to one “boyfriend”
5️⃣Increases your feminine energy
You’re less needy or pressed about a relationship going nowhere so you can be at ease & graceful for the different men you interact with.
& allows you to regularly receive quality attention & dates instead of begging the one man who lost his reason to make an effort
And best of all
You won’t have to ask “Where is this going?’ because you’ll be in control & the men you date will have to ask YOU😏
Explore your options Sis...quality men are def exploring theirs
This is a concept that has been pushed since the Sex and the City era, 20 yrs later still haven’t heard of any success stories.
Quality over quantity any day
Success story. Found my husband through that process and I'm still happily married lol
Good that it worked for you, so one happy story in 20 years if you want to call the stats a success.
Well, it's not as complicated as that. Everyday we make choices. If someone goes after the first guy that approaches her and try to force or forge a good relationship out of it, then something must be wrong. If you know what I mean. By nature, we do the natural selection process already. And that explains who we are attracted to and who we aren't. So, in saying it doesn't work is like saying we are going against our own nature of selecting our mates. At least that's how I see it.
I’m not disagreeing with you either, people find each other in various ways. It just does to need to be so formulaic... that’s all 😏
@7thhouse @isolde I think it also depends on the persons attachment types. I’m pretty emotional and need a passionate/emotional connection pretty early on for me to really want to establish something with someone. For other women who are more logical than emotional and have that admirable ability to be objective, I think the dating around thing works easier for them and also for the men that they attract. I don’t know if I’m making any sense, I have a sinus headache so I’m kinda scatter brained lol but I can see definitely see how or why it works for some and not for others. My emotions get involved pretty quickly though, so it would be difficult for me to get involved with multiple people. At the same time I admire those who can do it objectively and are more lighthearted about it.
Exactly it’s admirable for those that are able to do it, I’ve seen friends with aqua Venus being able to do this without emotional havoc.
Then I’ve seen loads of Sag who have lunch time dates and then an evening date, they have the stamina for it, yet none turned into relationships. It’s only when they stopped dating around... then a random guy they met happened to be the guy they end up in a committed relationship with.
Dating, hook up culture is giving people more options yet I haven’t seen any real development in the past 10 yrs. Also location has a lot to do with it, buzzing major cities v smaller towns.
I have aqua venus 😂
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