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    Posted by 7thHouse
    Posted by sweethearts
    Posted by 7thHouse
    Curious about your thoughts on this. Mainly, because of an observation amongst my friends and family.

    In my friend groups, the happiest wives and girlfriends are the ones which they have husband's or boyfriends who cater to their needs. Making more of an effort than the women in the relationship do. Not to say the women don't make an effort but the men makes heaps of effort you know they are completely taken by their woman.

    Examples are: Cooking for the wife, cleaning for the wife, buying gifts, taking them on vacation, carrying their bag, when in a restaurant, the guy puts food on the woman's plate instead of the other way around, when walking the guy stays in the side where the vehicles pass by, makes the woman walk ahead or at the same pace as the guy, opens the door for the woman, etc.

    Whereas, those around me where the women make more effort, they are normally the ones always chasing the men in their lives.

    Example: woman cooks all the time because the man can't be bothered or doesn't know how, man walks ahead of the woman, man is the subject of every photo or video on social media, man's birthday and the woman makes a video filled with photos of the guy, woman buys expensive gift for the guy, woman does all the cleaning at home, woman needs to ask for date night or a conversation instead of the man giving it freely.

    Between these two dynamics, of course, the relationships can last. But the satisfaction levels are very different. Hence, the first one tend to last longer.

    Do you agree or disagree and what are your personal experiences in it? Why do you think it is the case?

    Checkout this link as well:
    https://goodmenproject.com/dating-2/if-you-want-a-man-to-put-in-more-effort-give-him-a-purpose-cmtt/


    I experienced this with the libra, at first it freaked me out, I mean we are around the table at my mums with my brothers and sister-in-laws and he kisses me 😮 that’s was uncomfortable for me... but the random flowers And gifts and dinners out and the way he looked or gestured as if I looked gorgeous while I was dressed comfortably and cooking or when he has just come home from work, made me feel wanted and appreciated. It was nice, really nice. Never had that before and would like it again one day.

    The relationship didn’t last but the imprint of being treated and loved that way will last forever in my mind.


    Would you say you were happier in the rs than he was? Did you make any efforts for him to make him feel the same way you did?
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    It made me happier, I’d be going about my usual day whether it was cooking for the kids or cleaning, getting dressed or walking up and he would come in, grab me and make gestures, not just in the beginning but throughout the relationship. Made you feel adored and wanted and puts you in a good mood. So things flow nicely. I think he was happy to be where he was after a hard relationship and bitter end. And I also think he’s still be like that with his new partner now.
    I did what I do, I cook and make a home looked after his kids like my own and supported him where he needed it. Do they appreciate that and feel it’s special treatment... not sure?