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    Posted by pooface222
    Posted by 7thHouse
    Curious about your thoughts on this. Mainly, because of an observation amongst my friends and family.

    In my friend groups, the happiest wives and girlfriends are the ones which they have husband's or boyfriends who cater to their needs. Making more of an effort than the women in the relationship do. Not to say the women don't make an effort but the men makes heaps of effort you know they are completely taken by their woman.

    Examples are: Cooking for the wife, cleaning for the wife, buying gifts, taking them on vacation, carrying their bag, when in a restaurant, the guy puts food on the woman's plate instead of the other way around, when walking the guy stays in the side where the vehicles pass by, makes the woman walk ahead or at the same pace as the guy, opens the door for the woman, etc.

    Whereas, those around me where the women make more effort, they are normally the ones always chasing the men in their lives.

    Example: woman cooks all the time because the man can't be bothered or doesn't know how, man walks ahead of the woman, man is the subject of every photo or video on social media, man's birthday and the woman makes a video filled with photos of the guy, woman buys expensive gift for the guy, woman does all the cleaning at home, woman needs to ask for date night or a conversation instead of the man giving it freely.

    Between these two dynamics, of course, the relationships can last. But the satisfaction levels are very different. Hence, the first one tend to last longer.

    Do you agree or disagree and what are your personal experiences in it? Why do you think it is the case?

    Checkout this link as well:
    https://goodmenproject.com/dating-2/if-you-want-a-man-to-put-in-more-effort-give-him-a-purpose-cmtt/


    I agree.
    When a man caters to a womans needs, he is doing what men want to do - make a woman happy.
    He wants to know what she wants, she wants him to do things for her.

    They both get the needs met. Both are happy.

    This is how things were for years in my marriage before his control reared its ugly head!

    Before that i told him what i wanted. He made it happen and we were both happy 😊
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    Having said that, you know from answering my post recently that the guy I'm in love with made zero effort because he expected ME to make the effort first!
    But that's all I'll say on that!