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    She loved mysteries so much that she became one.
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    Joined dxpnet on January 21, 2013.
    Posted by dillweed
    is everyone just going to skim over this dude’s leo moon & libra placements?

    hm. i dont think this man is infatuated in return. sounds like he is being a really good work colleague.

    OP why is your cap suddenly pulling all this needy/distant stuff? smothering with calls when you take too long to answer? stopping short of enacting a curfew? what is going on in his life that is making him respond like this?

    as a scorpio, who has suffered infatuation while in a relationship, i became distant, cold, removed. are you sure you arent showing signs of being checked out? & the cap is picking up on this?


    That is a possibility, except he is not a work colleague but a client.

    Good questions, I actually opened up the conversation with him. He said he felt he was losing me in terms of attention and attraction. When we go out together, he feels we are more friends than a couple. You see, just about one month ago he reached a point where he complained stating that he wished we did not spend all our free time together (which is not a lot of time, since we work a fair bit). He felt my intensity, and attention was too much for him. He made note that he prefer I spend time with other friends as well, and nurture those social interactions as well. So I finally did exactly that.

    Initially he was happy for me, but when he realised how social I could also be (since I am an ambivert) he felt uncomfortable with it. I told him, he could not have it both ways. He encourages me one way, then when he got what he wanted, he felt uneasy about it. I asked him to reflect on what he really wanted from me, and our relationship in terms of time spent together and attention. Since I can not be penalised both ways. We ended the conversation on good terms, that he needs to reflect as much as I do.

    Well, the infatuation has not happened for long. It was only in the last two weeks. I can here early to write about it because I want to still have room to keep it under control. Instead of possibly go into the realm of emotional cheating, and then coming here for validation. That was not my goal, and besides DXP should be the last place to go to after having done wrong, and try to be a victim. At the moment, I am still sane enough to nip everything in the bud. After all, I do not want to be a victim because I am not.