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  • Posted by malloryor
    Posted by themilkyway36
    Posted by MysteriousScorpio
    I’m sorry.....I didn’t mean to cause an argument. Maybe I am being delusional here. It just sucks because I’ve never felt a connection this strongly before and then to find out that connection may have been one sided. It’s a difficult pill to swallow. And I’m sitting here wracking my brain as to how I did not see the signs that he was not as into me as I was into him??? Usually I come out of these things trying to figure out if the guy was or was not into me? But after meeting this fish I was certain he felt the same. Or so I thought. Now I don’t know what to believe anymore because everything is just so contradictory now. There has been this huge shift in him and it doesn’t feel right.


    I relate a lot with your feelings, I'm a scorpio moon and rising and was just as obsessive over the guy I liked as you are right now, if not more even. The thing with Pisces in particular is that they will mirror you (even if unconsciously) with where you are in your life right now. So since you said he's super secretive and unwilling to open up about small things, perhaps question yourself and ask yourself how open your own heart, emotions and ability to be vulnerable are. I found that I was very much not open enough as I should be for a serious relationship, the kind that would be for my highest good and healthy for me, to be. You could be right about how he has feelings for you too, but maybe he got hurt in the past and he's scared to fully embrace his feelings and trust in something. If that's the case, the person themselves will not realize that because people tend not to take personal accountability for their healing, and go along winging relationships not really caring how they are affecting others, or self-examining about whether that's right or not. You can't force someone to be open until they're ready.

    I would really take this opportunity to show yourself some self-love and really take a look how you're reacting and why. You're neglecting yourself emotionally by obsessing over someone else who doesn't respect you back enough or have the best intentions it seems. We chase after emotionally unavailable people because deep down we don't believe in our own self-worth and so try to seek approval and validation externally. You want to feel good in chasing the guy and hoping that it will finally make you feel good about your self-worth if you "get" him. Same thing happened with me and that's where self-reflection got me to realize. A part of you knew he wasn't really available from the start, but you went for it because your own emotional unavailableness thought that's safe to go towards. He could probably sense that somewhere intuitively inside himself too.

    I find it weird that he won't be honest about his birthday though, it's such a simple harmless question. I straight up told my pisces guy i was into astrology on the first date and read his birth chart. He was pretty open to discussing it. Another past pisces guy with a pisces stellium I also happened to find out his bday because he mentioned it was coming up. then I got his birth time another time by smoothly telling him my theory about how morning versus night people are born at different times and I told him my side first, like oh I feel that theory is true because I was born late at night and I'm such a night owl. Anyway with that, maybe try revealing more information about yourself first and being more open, and see if that gets anywhere. But balance it though to allow room for him to open if he chooses


    This is great advice about the mirroring. But I also think that sometimes people reverse mirror us. So, maybe OP isn’t guarded but has an anxious attachment style , and meeting emotionally unavailable men is the universe way of teaching her that she has this fear of attachment. Most people hear “fear of attachment” and think it just means you’re a commitment phobe, but for people with anxious attachment issues, fear of attachment is more “fear of losing an attachment.” These folks attach very quickly and hedge a lot of their worth on having a counterpart to be connected to. It all stems from inner child wounds.

    I think Pisces, Scorps and Cancers probably experience the most divine timing sort of lessons—mirroring, attracting what we need to fix and heal—because we are so intuitive.

    Lastly, I’ll go against you and Imperfect telling her to share her interest in astrology. If the Pisces is being very protective and secretive about his DOB, it’s best not tell him she wants it to dig deeper into his birth chart.

    I think it worked fine for you all—cuz you all were being yourself, standing in your power, being authentic to you. You end up matching people on a similar frequency when you are.
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    Yes on the attachment stuff!!! I was forced to learn about that. Anxious people and avoidant people are magnetized to one another. I'm anxious-avoidant and fearful myself. Sometimes it's a mix/spectrum and different people bring out different sides in us. Pisces traits def set a person up to be avoidant. Yep to the divine timing and lessons....I'm a scorpio moon and rising and EVERY person I've crossed paths with have taught me a meaningful lesson. I'm trying to heal myself so the karmic shit can stop playing itself out. Inner child work is soo important, that's been my focus lately and a lot of repressed things have been coming up. The guaranteed reward is the investment and effort we put into ourselves...not seeking validation externally - which I was chasing for so long unwillingly. Water signs in general have a lot of messy emotions and inner wounds to sort out first before we can get into a healthy relationship, it's mostly always about being afraid to let our guard down, trust another, getting hurt/rejected etc.