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    Posted by Sagoxa
    Posted by Gemgyal
    Posted by Sagoxa
    Posted by Gemgyal
    Posted by Gemgyal
    Posted by Sagoxa
    It's obvious he's being selfish, isnt he?

    He already checked out, in his head he knows he doesnt want a relationship anymore.

    He's just dragging you along until he finds something to fully focus on. Like a new life or a new person.

    I used to do this ages ago.

    Like gemini, sags are usually wishy washy in a decision making process. But once we decides, it's usually final. He already decided not wanting a relationship with you. He just hasnt got his new life lined up yet, hence this behaviour.

    Remove yourself from the situation and see what happens. Dont need to give ultimatum just remove yourself. Being friends with him will just hurt you.


    You’re so right. He said he wants to be friends but it’s hard for him to see me too often because he will be thinking back about the old times and because he still has strong feelings for me he’s afraid he will want to go back to the relationship.

    Couple of days after we broke up I just felt the decision he had made was an emotional one so we agreed to talk again and we did. During that talk it was like he regretted his decision and wanted to come back. He was saying stuff to see my reaction I guess? So i just said it’s all right better this way. Cant be with someone who keeps wanting me and then don’t
    Just doesn’t make sense to me. After that conversation we were cool and decided to be friends. I noticed suddenly there were only slow replies like 5-6 hrs later. So I stopped talking altogether for like 4 days. Then suddenly he texted me: that he wanted to “ define our friendship”

    So we had a conversation in person and I told him I can’t be friends with someone who doesn’t put in the same effort as I do. Cause when I see you as my friend you are really my friend there is not inbetween.

    For him it was like yeah i have different kind of friends blabla and I all treat them differently.

    Then he said if I would invite him to my birthday he would come? Which I obviously won’t but still why?

    After that conversation where I told him i thinks he doesn’t put effort and he can’t expect me to talk with him if the replies in a conversation take 5-6 hrs everytime. Whiles when we were in a relationship he was always texting me within 10 mins.

    Since that conversation we had I’ve seen a whole 360 in his behaviour he replies fast and really talk to me. But I’m guarded. I really don’t understand him.

    What do you think I should do best? Should I just stop the contact all completely or should I tell him that we need to stop all the contact? I just feel that when invest too much in “our friendship” he will really hurt me once he finds someone else to focus on.

    Sorry for my long reply wanted to give you some more insight.




    So he has changed and now you're uncertain? 😝

    I cant make up my mind. The part where he said he treats his friend differently etc could mean 2 things: he has compartementalized you into a friends with romance and wants no relationship or he's just playing games wanting some worship through drama. (Leo moon lol)

    I think you need to have a conversation with him again and this time say it from the start it will be final.. what the hell does he wants and tell him you cant be friends with him. So he wants you in or out?

    Being friends with him will just hurt you. He doesnt know what he wants and will keep on dragging you until he does. And it probably could take weeks, months or years lol. Even if he dates around im certain he wont tell you.


    Yeah that’s really true! I’m really an overthinker.? I really don’t feel like having a third conversation about the same thing lol. I love him but he needs to work on himself I don’t feel like it benefits us at this moment to still be in contact.

    We did speak last night about just casual stuff but today I woke up and thought about the way we are now is not working for both of us he says he needs to work on himself and move on and I want to focus on moving on I can’t do that when still in contact.

    First i thought i wanted to stay in contact but now the more I think about it and the insight i get from you all I think it’s best we don’t have any contact for now. And I’m really sure that if he decides to date around he won’t tell me. So I’d rather remove myself from the situation than to get more hurt than I am.

    I don’t really feel like having another conversation with him about it. I already told him how i am in my friendships and there is not inbetween. He said he had different types of friends. But that don’t mean it is the same for me. He also said he doesn’t believen that the connection we had and the relationship we had can ever go from that to just friends. He says so much stuff. It’s really confusing lol.


    Before you do anything, wait for 48 hours. If you still want to do it then do it.

    Sag and gem are pretty much the same. Keep changing their minds lolLaughing
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    Hahaha okay! But I still haven’t replied to what he said last night isn’t that weird to wait 48 hrs and then suddenly say something like this?

    Ulgh I hate myself sometimes I’m OVERTHINKING all the time 😂