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    My Pisces man and i have been together for almost 2 years now, yes we encountered problems, misunderstandings but we always get pass those things.

    My man and i are living together for the past year, we work on almost the same industry. We often have different shift and exhausted at work. During my off days i do my best to do house chores, do shopping and cook for him, we usually just order in most days because of the busy scheduling. My man has a busier schedule than mine, his job was more pressured and demanding than mine, i do my best to understand him and give him the alone time he needs. He is an introvert and i am somewhat an introvert too. I enjoy our alone time. On the rare occasion that we have the same schedule, we both just sit together and try to relax (me by browsing online shopping, him watching youtube and playing mobile games).

    Recently the company I was working at insisted that we stay inside the company for about a month and a half. We are in-house employees, means we cant go out and we just sleep and bathe here for a month. I work in a hotel industry. I am not happy about living him alone in the house for that long but we both talked about it and somehow it seems like it was fine as long as we both update each other daily.

    On my 4th week inside the hotel, I got into thinking, because I miss him so much and how things are when we started. He was sweet and romantic and caring before, it gradually change when he got busier at work because he was transferred into another location, it means he has to travel longer everyday and work longer hours. Again i really did my best to understand this. Its been months since we went out on a date. Our life was a repeated cycle of working sleeping and trying to recharge.

    But i missed those things, us going out, him being sweet and caring and romantic. He didnt completely drop those things. but it became lesser and lesser. So one day i told him that i miss him being sweeter and romantic, (before this i sometimes tell him this during those days when we are just sitting together at home)
    -he say he will try and he will do this best.

    Until the conversation got deeper and then we both decided to think about this thoroughly for a week. So technically, we are in a cold mood for a week. We still message each other on important things but no more small talks and iloveyous during "this" week.

    The other day he broke his silence and told me he thinks we are better as friends. And asked me how i think. I was shocked and i asked him why.

    He said, it will make him feel more relax if we are just friends. Because he feels pressure by the idea of me asking him to do those sweet romantic things again. he also told me that he feels so hurt every time i say i feel hurt when i he doesn't keep his promises (like we will go buy groceries together or go out etc). And because he says we will keep on hurting each other because he cant promise to do all those things (he say he is always tired and just want to rest -which i really get, but i hope atleast once a month we do this things together [im also exhausted from work and i am really homesick now because im still inside the hotel]

    And then he told me that we should just be good friends and stop the relationship. I was dumbfounded. and he told me to just let us go. I told him that I cant let him go, because I dont want to give up just because we are tired. Because he said he is just so tired (i know it means he doesnt want to deal with this because he is tired). And i said if we are tired we should rest, giving up is not good. And i also pointed out why we should not give up.

    We know each other better than we know anyone, we trust each other so much, we know we can count on each other during hard times. and then he say, this is why we are good as friends.

    And he also said that I should be happy about this. Of course Im not Im heartbroken. I dont want to just give up because we have a problem like this. Problems should be solved together.

    He didnt reply to my message anymore, and i was thinking about giving him space for a while.

    I know how he is, when he is pressured he shuts down, because there is so much going on in his mind, he cant deal with everything at the same time.

    I know he still loves me but I really hurts to know that he just want to give us up.

    What should i do? Will he swim away if I leave him alone? and how can i approach him without pressuring him? i just want him to know im still here for him. and i wont give this up easily. How long should i wait for him to come back?

    Any advice?