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    Catilicious
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    Joined dxpnet on September 19, 2020.
    Posted by alexscaries
    Posted by ImperfectStorm
    You will lose yourself in the process of trying to win her over.

    When someone tells you how they feel, you have to believe them. We always want to believe there’s a deeper meaning like “she wants me to fight for her”, or “he’s closed off to me because he’s afraid of being hurt”. We will tell ourselves stories to fit the narrative of what we want to believe, then we end up deceiving ourselves. It’s one thing to be deceived by someone else.. it’s another thing to be deceived by yourself.

    Focus on the facts and what she is saying directly to you. Trust her when she tells you what she feels.. she is speaking her truth.

    It is true that Virgo women prefer to be friends first (I have Virgo Venus and this is how I am, too) but you cannot bet on that. You should not put your life on hold and try to mold yourself into being who you THINK she needs you to be. That doesn’t come across as being authentic at all, and the best way to approach any intimate connection is to be real with yourself and with the other person. Not this Frankenstein version of who you think she wants you to be.


    I do agree with this, but sometimes people will use ambiguity to avoid conflict. For example someone might say "I'm a bit busy" rather than saying "I don't want to date you".
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    True but in this case she straight up told him she only liked him as a friend. That's pretty clear. There's nothing more unattractive with someone changing themselves and their interest to match someone they're interested in. It's not genuine and a big turn-off. But maybe I shouldn't give advice here. I'm a libra.🤭 I will see myself out. 🤸🤣