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    Joined dxpnet on June 05, 2009.
    Thank you for your advice all who have replied--
    He is in fact 27 and I cannot honestly do the situation justice by explaining here. I know it is pretty clear that he does not want a committment for whatever reason and yes i have set boundaries--long ago in fact--i have stopped contacting him, have told him that i want nothing more to do with him, that we are just friends and I have not been intimate with him for five months. Still he continues to try to talk to me--he is not living in my country right now but he recently got back for a short visit. During this time he constantly called me--kept begging me to see him which i flat out refused to. The huge inconvenience is that he lives in the same building as me so he knows what i do at all times. I saw him the other day and we spoke at length in which he could not stop trying to kiss up on me and get all physical with me--i did not allow it. I point blank told him that this situation does nothing for me and makes me unhappy so i am moving on. He said we should go with the flow because he cannot offer me anything right now because his career is unstable, he isn't living in the country and a relationship cannot be his focus right now. He insinuated much like your virgo man hikoro that when he comes back to my country then we would have a proper relationship. However, i dont believe that i want to remain in this situation with the uncertainty of that. In all honesty i am not breaking it off with him because i have a burning desire to be in a serious commitment with someone at this present moment and so i want that opportunity to find that--i am because it makes me unhappy and it is pointless to be in a situation with someone like this where i never know where i stand. Truthfully the intensity between us is amazing--i'm sure that's why he does not want to let it go either. When i am with him i feel like he cares about me so deeply--the way he looks at me, always giving me advice and helping me, he also gets jealous whenever my male friends visit, always makes himself visible ---because as a gemini i can be very cold and i am often detached so in person you will never know what i'm thinking or feeling---just because i talk about how i feel here doesnt mean this is how i am with him or in person--i'm actually quite cold. He actually seems quite intimidated by me at times. So you see why it's so confusing?