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    Joined dxpnet on November 24, 2009.
    Response to CapGal about "20 minutes of tears":
    We had been fighting more often recently, mainly I think because she felt I wasn't putting enough effort into the relationship, and in some ways my own life I believe (although she didn't say the second part). I showed up to meet her yesterday for coffee to discuss what has been going on with us lately and pull up next to her car to see her in tears already when I arrived. I spent the next 10 minutes letting her know that I was wrong to downplay her feelings as unreasonable, telling her that she is still the love of my life, and that I am willing to do what is neccessary to be a better man to her. (Her biggest complaints were the fact that I was always 5 minutes late to pick her up, my trouble making commitments, my families over involvement in my life, etc).
    She responded to this that she felt like she was holding me back and that I need to focus on being the best I can be. To this I responded she was the best thing in my life and in no way is she a burden to me although I may have previously acted like it. She also mentioned that she can't stand the area we live in, and possibly wants to move away. She went on crying mostly saying how sorry she was, to which I responded she had nothing to feel sorry about, and that many of her complaints are valid. After the crying was done, she calmly said without tears that she will call me in 3 weeks and that she thinks this is for the best. I responded by asking her to please explain exactly the reason why she was breaking up with me, to which she really couldn't give a reason.
    I am not sure where to go with this, except to say that I am truly devestated. I don't know if she secretely wants to date other people deep down, if she just needs time, if she really believes she is holding back, etc. I just don't know. What I do know is that I never loved another like I love her, and in someways I did take her love for granted, never thinking she would just break it off this quickly. (Literally 2 weeks ago we had much more laughter in our relationship than we did fights.) Who knows?