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    Joined dxpnet on April 16, 2010.
    She called an hour ago, and it started with the same bs, and I just reinforced how much I loved her and that I was there for her. She eventually was able to talk, and no yell or scream obscenities. For the first time in a looong time we actually were able to be honest and not try to tear each other up to pieces.
    You were all right regarding the money issue, not really sure what about but I know she got very defensive about the money thing. And also that she got super cold feet. Her mom did tell her of my intent and all she could think was how pressured she felt. I explained to her that I didn't care if we got married in five years or ten and that my proposal was simply to reassure her that she was the woman for me and to hopefully help her understand that in no way did I want her to feel pressured.
    We continued and she brought up the whole ex thing and that if she couldn't reassure me that nothing was going on then what kind of gf would she be. I explained again that in no way did I think she was cheating, that I never did. That I felt like I was at the bottom of her importance scale and that she lied about him being there previously. I encouraged that I never thought she cheated again, and that I feel she won't allow herself to be vulnerable because of my past transgressions although I tried and would try whatever she needed.
    She went on to discuss that she didn't believe it was over and that maybe in haste she ended things because she felt that we were arguing too much and that I couldn't let this go. I confirmed that I was upset about it, again not for the reasons she believed and that were both guilty of not communicating effectively and I didn't realize that there was a time limit on how long I could stay upset. I told her that if I knew there was, I would have tried damn harder to squash it.
    We left off with her saying that she didn't break up with me because she wants to be single or meet new people but right now she needs space because she can't think clearly. I just told her that I understood and that she should have really just said that from the beginning and thank you for proving that we actually can have a civillised conversation since there was so much misunderstanding.
    Although it sounds like she was dangling a maybe we'll get back together carrot, I'm not holding out for it. She really does need to figure stuff out right now and in no way can I be apart of her fears and sabotaging as Shellshocker put it.