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  • Posted by LibraSid

    My comment about someone coming on to me being bad is because to me it shows disrespect for me, my partner, and my relationship. We're talking about 'friends' here, people who know. I can accept a lot of things but not disrespect. There's so much other stuff that would matter though. Obviously I ain't gonna get upset that someone likes me, it goes back to what I said at the beginning about apparant intentions. Be a friend first. If the relationship is bad you can tell her that as a friend. If I think someone is telling me that because they want me... it just all seems so dishonest. I don't know... its all just a game anyway and I suck at it, maybe its all these rules I have.


    This. I had a friend try this approach with me. I wasn't in a relationship per se, but he'd give advice that clearly was beneficial to him, and his motives became real apparent really quick. I wasn't attracted to him initially, but after all that I REALLY wasn't attracted to him. If one is going to start off CHASING someone with utter dishonesty, that doesn't say much about the person, nevermind that it begs the question if they're going to be completely honest in the relationship either. :/
    I saw someone say (our resident superhero iirc) that if they find out someone is taken it puts that person 'off limits', I agree. Even if I could steal someone, I wouldn't want to. Its just a bad way for it to start.
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    I have never understood how people CAN'T do this. The second I find out that someone is taken that I may have had an initial attraction to, my mind shuts it down and it just will never entertain the idea of any sort of dating and relating.
    Agreed with what was said prior though. OP, go do you and get your shit together. A relationship isn't the only thing in life. You're 21 and have a lot of time to figure yourself out. Sitting around and waiting for someone who's unavailable is such a waste of time. Be her friend, and if eventually something happens, then yay. If it doesn't, well then you didn't waste time on a lost cause.