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    Blessed be the fruit
    Joined dxpnet on November 05, 2015.
    Posted by AriesLove
    Posted by whatthecrab
    Posted by AriesLove
    This article is so far from playing hard to get in my opinion. More like playing a dead person.

    Playing hard to get does not mean no talking, laughing, going out, having fun, being down to earth etc. Simply means you are moving slow by choice. Slow into intimacy, slow into knowing all about you: where you stay, your family, your whole life.

    Allowing yourself or the other person to find out more about you. To be intriguing to each other. If you know everything right away, do everything right away most people become bored right away. I myself am one of those persons.

    It's not about getting a jerk, getting married or getting anything at all. It's about making decisions that you will not regret or you will feel good about. And allowing yourself to decide if this is someone you want to deal with. It's ultimately your choice.

    Im not competing for best head game, sex game, fun game or whatever. There is always someone better than you. I wouldn't want to be labeled any of those from anyone but my significant other. No contest here.

    I agree with your post. The article is sexist and has a nasty underlying tone that leaves a bad taste in my mouth. But I understand what he's trying to say. I don't get close to people easily and I have heard a lot of times that I'm hard to read or a hard nut to crack. But I don't think the article meant people who by nature are slow to intimacy. The writer talks about people(women only, as if men don't do this) who feel the need to play hard to get and act uninterested in order to keep people interested. Just for the sake of appearing elusive. It's true that it is an ironic approach to try maintain interest. To me it seems people play these games because relationships are hard to keep. And it's probably more of an defense mechanism or playing into the idea of hard to get=hard to leave than it is solely a strategy to attract men, like the article appears it to be. For most people it's easier to front with their feelings, because they don't know how to deal with rejection.

    I agree....also some people need to realize it's not always "playing hard to get", some people may not be as interested in you as you think. That might be hard for some people to accept (men). So they label it as playing "hard to get".
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    This. I'd love to hear what the writer of the article has to say on how he differentiates girls who play hard to get from girls who genuinely weren't interested in him.