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    Cancer Sun Sagittarius Rising Capricorn Moon Cancer Venus Leo Mars The definit
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    Joined dxpnet on June 30, 2013.
    So I promise I would make this short yet share enough info so that you amazing people can help me.

    So, I am sitting in my (virtual) corner minding my own business and in walks this guy that i have know my whole life. We have been talking casually through the years and we both have found each other intellectually interesting. Only this time, he decides to mention that he finds me interesting and would like to pursue that to see what happens. Before he goes any further he mentions that a year ago he ran into my older sister and they had a few drinks and ended up at his place. He shares that they have not seen each other since but he was under the impression that my sister expected more out of the incident as she tried to pursue it but he was sure that it was not something he wanted. Said he wanted me to know this outright before anything happens so that we can both objectively choose whether to do this or not.

    We continue talking for about 4 weeks- no sex, just a lot of great conversation. After 4 weeks we decide that we want to take this further, but I wanted to first talk to my sister, which he supported. I informed my sister and that is when all hell broke loose. Quick back story: I have always had a challenging relationship with my sister. It started out as innocent sibling rivalry cultivated by our parents and ballooned into an unhealthy competitive adult relationship. Like him, she's in her early 30s and I am close behind in my late 20s; she feels like I have always been 'lucky' and that it is not fair. Of course I have my own opinion on that (it's called hard work) an example being that even though she is really really smart-and was given better opportunities than all of my siblings, she chose not to finish college, while I struggled and got my graduate degree some years back. Anyway, she blew up (beyond my expectation) when I told her and went on to say that she has had feelings for him her whole life, called my mum to complain about it- the works! My mum kind of took my side because sadly, my sister has a tendency to throw tantrums when she doesn't get her way.

    So, Scorpio and I managed to push through all that crazy going on in the background and have gone on and slept together, met each other's friends and very recently I saw his mother (whom I have remained quite close to and she loves me to bits) in the capacity as his girlfriend and she does not seem supportive about this. The main reason she gives is that Scorpio would be breaking up the relationship between my sister and I

    So understandably, the situation is strained, I have reached a point where I am emotionally exhausted with all the hoops I am jumping. I love him and he loves me and I would like to believe we both have sensible heads on our shoulders. We are about 10 weeks in but we are both quite certain (as certain as anyone can be) that this is a relationship that we both want to pursue. I wanted an objective opinion, given the facts, what would you do in my shoes