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    Sun-Aries Moon-Libra Mercury-Aries Venus Pisces Mars-Gemini
    36 years old female
    Joined dxpnet on December 25, 2008.
    @OP

    I understand where you are coming from. I totally do. I've been there done that. Your situation actually reminds me of how I use to be. And I believe your wants are legitimate, if, he had been your boyfriend. But he's not.

    Now reverse your situation. Imagine him demanding you to prove to him your love. But take your pride aside. And take yourself out of your own experiences and own head.

    From an outsider perspective I can tell you what it sounds like.

    It sounds like this. What he naturally gives is not good enough. Which means he's not worthy until he does more.

    And to boot how he feels or thinks about it doesn't matter. It's only your needs and your experiences that matter more because he needs to prove himself first before he can get any more from you.

    I understand that you've been hurt. I do. I really do. It makes you very hesitant to give more because you are afraid of getting hurt because you love so deeply. But honey those experiences are a part of life. Every one goes through hurt in their own ways. That's not to diminish your experiences but it's to emphasize that your experiences are not more important than anyone else's experiences.

    You shouldn't go around treating people like those who have hurt you. Then it's no better than those who have hurt you and never change their selfish ways because they cannot see beyond their own needs. You can try but trust me (and this comes from very similar experiences) but you might get the love you think you deserve but you will never get to choose who you love demanding the way you do.

    Take a good look at your feelings and actions and really question their validity. Pride my dear might protect you from everyone but that's as far as it will get you... distance from everyone and anyone. And when you find yourself alone you will eventually find you will have to tear down that huge wall and it is easier to build than tear down. This is not to berate or tear you down it's just advice coming from similar experiences.

    Lastly,

    Even if you can't understand why someone worthy of your love wouldn't put your needs first (which is a very entitled position) anyone will tell you why should they?

    Have worth is not demanding it my dear. Demanding it is coming from a place of insecurity. Either they do or they don't and if they don't just move on.

    P.S. Being an Aries who has dated MANY Leo's plus many Leo friends you CANNOT demand or force them to do anything. Even though they can be very nice and sweet don't take it that they are submissive. No, they are very headstrong and know themselves very well and what they want. This is coming from a stubborn person who is equally headstrong.

    Good luck my dear xoxo