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  • Posted by jeane
    Posted by ConfusedAboutTaurus
    No communication at all today, so I sent a text earlier tonight asking what he's doing Friday. (I already have plans, but would have gone to see him after, and wanted to see what he would say. We used to go out every Friday night.) I felt like seeing him in person would be the only helpful thing. He never responded. To me, it's quite clear he has taken a big step back. I'm tired of wasting time with the back and forth. Either date me, or don't. Don't be 100% in person and then disappear. That's giving mixed signals, and I'm too old for that.

    I texted him almost four hours later basically saying it seems he has started pulling away, and if he is, I'll just stop bothering him. I said I'm not going to be upset or mad, but it would be nice to not have to wonder. I put a smile at the end. No response, yet he had been on Facebook. Lol

    I'm done. I'm just on here venting at this point. However, a serious question to everyone, no matter your sign--Why is it SO damn hard for people to act like mature adults and use their words? Ghosting someone is not being an adult, especially when the person hasn't done anything so awful. I would MUCH rather someone be brutally honest and hurt my feelings than me have to guess what happened. ?



    It's quite possible that he hasn't made a decision yet, or even more has things going on his life where he is unable to get back to you in your time frame.

    I can understand this point in a burgeoning relationship can be fraught with highs and lows, doubts and mistrust but for God's sake you have to be like a swan. Even if you are freaking out, you gotta keep your shit together.

    Neuroses are rarely attractive.
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    I get that, and you're right. Unfortunately, I've been through this before, and I have little tolerance for it anymore. I'm just not into wasting time or playing games. I want communication and honesty. If he is thinking or doesn't know what he wants, he could just tell me, and I'd back off and be fine in knowing that.