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    " Western Astrology Sun ... Scorpio 22? 57' in house 11
    45 years old female from Phoenix, AZ
    Joined dxpnet on January 17, 2007.
    Hey sweetie!
    I am sorry, but you already know the answer to your question. You just don't want to admit it, because it requires admitting he is not the person that you want to believe that he is...
    "knows that what he is doing is causing pain to those he comes into contact with"
    "doesnt want to hurt anybody"
    And, yet he continues doing the things he KNOWS hurts those people. If he truly didn't want to hurt anyone, he would find a solution that didn't hurt them. He knows that you want a relationship with him, and says he cannot give it to you. He knows that means that any contact you have with him is in some way hurting you, and yet he continues to call you, text you, see you, etc... Does he REALLY care about not hurting you, or does he merely care about himself?!?
    He is ultimately being selfish, whether he consciously realises it or not.
    You already said it best:
    "My God...talk about an excuse for behaving badly!!!"
    He is not "emotionally unavailable". He is screwed up and selfish...period. And, on some level, he is using you (and will most likely do the same to whatever other women take your place), again whether he realises it or not. This is not something that you can "fix" or help him with. The only person that can truly help a person like that is themselves...

    I suppose that there are some truly "emotionally unavailable" men / people out there, but those are not the ones continuing or desiring half-cocked, on-again / off-again, half-in / half-out relationships with people they supposedly care about on some level and who they know want more than they can offer at that time...
    When you are "emotionally unavailable" and someone (say, perhaps...L#2) makes it clear that they like you and want more than you can offer, would you in any possible way act the way that the man you described above does / has? Perhaps the answer lies in that question...