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    Joined dxpnet on January 21, 2017.
    Posted by Ellygant
    Posted by Goodtimes
    You are correct, his silence IS a very strong indication of his lack of interest. But it's also a demonstration of his emotional immaturity. The barbaric abrupt distancing would cause anyone to feel emotionally butchered. You may consider hiring a professional counselor to help you process the emotional holocaust of being emotionally cut off by someone you care about.

    His silence and refusal to let you know where he lives, are ways of politely asking you to leave him alone and 'go away.'

    As a guy who has treated women like this, if you contact him, he would be astounded by your lack of self respect, you will come across as the ditz who "just doesn't get it." If you contact my best friend, we would get together for beers and talk about how desperate you are.

    I can't say that we guys understands how a woman can possibly be attached within six months, (virtual strangers) I wouldn't listen to these over emotional women suggesting you make a fool of yourself by contacting this guy. He wants you to leave him alone. That's why he doesn't call, pursue, or respond.

    Process your feelings with options that align with your budget, values, and self respect. If you leave him alone he will at least remember you as the woman who walked away with dignity.


    hmm. That is a helpful perspective.

    When I mention tit for tat, it was in every sense. I used to spend days in a row at a time hanging with them and they'd often talk openly, his friend asking me for advice every so often. We had a very strong family type friendship bond real fast. His best friend would praise us together a lot. Kinda odd but they had a more emotional bond as friends.

    When I randomly ran into the best friend alone once after we'd broken things off, he made a point to ask me to reach out to him and encourage me to try. It was rather bizarre. I didn't call though. Then two mutual friends we have later suggested I should give him a call. I didn't. He came around himself then. So friendship subterfuge isn't exactly out of his wheelhouse lol. However there just is no way around silence. That is the go to indicator for wanting to be left alone.

    I have some time. This is mainly me finding what's comfortable for me. I'm at the point now where it's a peaceable ending. I'd hate to, for sentiments sake, say too much and sour the good memories and experiences. Those types of conversations, even when meant well, can go sideways fast. Perhaps particularly if done by text. Lmao. I'm in no rush though. I'm picking apart my feelings early actually so I don't act impulsively on them when his birthday actually is here.
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    Well you know your situation better than anyone else, but it sounds like you are in deep denial which is one of the 5 stages of grief. Sounds like you are bouncing from acceptance, bargaining -gifts, denial - (this man hasn't moved on he's playing tit for tat) depression - reminiscing. It sounds like you are keeping a firm grip on reality; you are human and you cared.

    In addition best friends entertain all the ladies. It means nothing. You are not a man, you do not know how men speak amongst each other.

    I play tit for tat games with women too, often I may randomly call a woman from the past - but it means nothing!! The woman I love I will keep in strong contact; I most certainly wouldn't leave her hanging after she divulged her desire to be with me. A man will do ANYTHING for the woman he loves, desires, and cherishes.

    From a man's perspective, you mean very little to this man, but perhaps you need closure. But he seems to be callous of your feelings as both a romantic interest or human being. If you are attracted to people like this, then okay.

    Call him and give him the gifts if makes you happy. He will forget about it as soon as he gets the goodies and return to not pursuing. He is showing you how he feels about you. If this behavior is acceptable then okay.