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  • Posted by SendInTheClowns
    Posted by whatisthisallabout
    My ex bf was 9 years younger. We were very compatible in most aspects except that he had no goals and ambitions in life so I broke up with him. He graduated from college last year, but he told me he just wanted to be a Uber driver or he'd ask his dad to find him an internship somewhere. I was very disappointed that he was too lazy to even try to find a job that he could apply the knowledge/skills that he learned from school. So, my tip for younger guys who want to date older women is that regardless of how amazing you two get along, you need to have some ambition and be inspiring to her.


    Oh yes yes yes! That can be a big deal breaker. I may be young but I am driven and future-minded. We are both studying right now, and while our paths might seem different, they're very similar. Physical health and mental health are two sides of the same coin that is life. Healthy mind, healthy body. My SO has already helped me greatly with easing my mind of various worries, as well as other people in my life. My partner is the real deal.

    It's a shame your guy felt so out of touch, but he could have just needed a bit of prodding in the right direction. Not everyone is in tune with what they ultimately want, it can take a bit of searching.

    Do you think you might've reacted a bit prematurely? On the overall side of things, do you think he could've had long-term potential?
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    If you are driven and future-minded, then I think you won't have the same problem. My ex just lives at the moment. He is the youngest child in the family so he is quite sheltered by his family and always gets what he wants. He just wants to have an easy life and have a girl by his side. I personally vaule hard work, but he is the kind of person who'd only do enough to get by. He used to be a good balancing factor for me since I am very uptight and a workholic. However, over time, his view of life just scared me. I want and need stability in life and I feel if he and I ended up being married, we wouldn't have much stability in life. He likes finer things in life and always wants the newest toys (e.g. the lastest iphone), but he doesn't want to work for it. I was scared that if we were married, we'd fight over money all the time. I just didn't see us being happy longterm. I mean, he wouldn't be happy if he couldn't get all the coolest new stuff to be with me. I wouldn't be happy seeing him spend all that money while not showing me that he could afford the life style ...