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    Joined dxpnet on July 27, 2016.
    Posted by Chuckcem
    Sounds like you two are going at two different speeds and want to different things. Also from a guy's perspective, none of this sounds like any actual fun, which should be the case when a relationship is just starting out. He clearly wants something physical, while you want something emotional. You two are simply on two different pages.

    I applaud you for sticking to your guns and wanting a relationship before sex, but you're also putting the cart before the horse. You two need to really get to know each other before a relationship even becomes an option. This is especially true in an LDR. All that time apart means that you can't get the same amount exposure with each other that you could in person. Physical chemistry is just as important in a relationship as mental and emotional chemistry.

    This means you'll need to take your time if you expect a strong bond to actually grow. As of now you've been assuming the two of you have a strong connection, but it's clear there are some things off between you. Granted LDRs are typically difficult by nature, but some communication is also missing.

    The Aries basically told you everything you need to know. He's fine with sex, but can't do a relationship. It's not a good thing, or bad thing, it just is. He's probably telling the truth with how busy he is, so it makes sense that he doesn't want the emotional strings of a relationship. Then again, who knows what this guy really wants since you barely know him.

    Those other guys that you were talking with may be correct. However it's clear that these guys also have ulterior motives. They have more incentive to discredit the Aries guy to possibly increase their chances with you. There's no point in asking these guys about the Aries' motivations. Would you ask Coca-Cola what their honest opinion of Pepsi was?

    If you're looking for a relationship, this probably isn't the one for you. Sounds like he's just too busy and only wants a physical connection currently.


    I'll keep what you said in mind!