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    Posted by nikkistar
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    Although I have to say one thing that baffled me till now though - when he was telling me he was coming to my city, I told him I’ll be doing something that night and asked him to join me. He declined initially bc he did tell me before that he only hangs with certain people like not everyone can be in his life, so he told me to hit him up after I’m done, or he will see me the next day for brunch before he returns.

    He never says things or make plans with me like that.

    Is this how fwb supposed to be? I thought it was purely just sex lol.


    This right here says "I am not going to give you spouse like treatment".

    He doesn't want to date, he doesn't want to make you a priority. He wants sex.

    So yes, this is how fwb works.


    Nikkistar, im back and i need help again. This has gotten WAAAAY more confusing.

    So, i went to his city over the weekend, he's a pro athlete as mentioned and he had a game on saturday. I texted him a few days before that i'll be there with a friend, and he was happy, and sent a hugging emoji.

    I got in, didn't hit him up, didn't ask to stay the night with him, basically showed up at his game with a male friend. My friend didn't tell me what it was, but basically just made one comment during the game, "when we see him, i'll tell him i'm your coworker. not going to ruin your game for you". so i asked why the need to clarify, and he just smirked.

    after his game, i texted him congrats on the win (though he did really badly which was shocking to me and he also seem a little out of it during the game), and if he's up to link. he didn't reply at all, which is extremely unlike him. so i didn't want to be pushy, went to grab food with my friend instead while waiting for him.

    still didn't hear from him the next day so i texted him good morning and if he's doing ok. he replied about an hour plus later and said he is and good morning. so i replied "oh ok, i wanted to see you for a bit" and he just didn't say anything. so i texted again and asked if he'll be coming to my city soon, and he said no, not that he know of. so i said "oh so i have to come out here more if i want to see you? lol" and he said yeah the season is kind of crazy. and that was it.

    i understand fwb means no feelings involved, but seems to me he's in his feelings now? i'm actually getting quite tired of this whole affair - i don't know what are we, i don't know how to react, yet i don't like to walk away from something which i was already left hanging. i always have an inclination that he expects something out of me constantly, yet don't want to say anything. i know the best way is to ask him direct, but i've expressed my feelings some time ago, pretty much asked where is this going, and he didn't say anything hence i took it that he wants us to be fwb.


    I don't know why you think he would be in his feelings with you, based off this story.

    He had a bad game, and was in his feels about that. Again, you weren't a priority, and he didn't even respond to you while you were there. He likely went to his inner circle for that.

    I don't know what more you want me to say about this. He is treating you, just like you say you are okay with, as a fuck buddy. He owes you no response, owes you no communication, owes you nothing, but his dick when he wants to get laid. He is treating you like an option, which is what you are.

    That sounds cold af, and I am sorry if I come off brass with this, but I don't want you to get your hopes up for something more, cause by the looks of it, you will never be a priority.
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    it's ok. i felt like you're the only one that would understand cancer men and their behavior better than anyone else so i don't care if you come off brass smile

    i began to felt like i'm just an option that's why i think maybe we are fwb, but he always throws me off guard with little subtle messages. i stopped overthinking things, accepted like you said f*** buddy even though we never spoke about it, and move past to meet other people, but he always seem to somehow reel me in with that subtlety. for example, just the week before he tried to initiate a conversation again by using the worst excuse on earth, and then went on to ask how am i doing. caught me completely off guard. or even share some stuff with me. so i don't know what to make of.

    why can't he just come off and say what's on his damn mind. if im an option, then don't bother to check in on me or share anything with me. it's confusing af. i'm not getting my hopes high, i just want to know what is this.