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    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.


    So at this point is best to consider he made a choice by not responding, right?

    I didn't want to give the impression of playing games and I understand why I might have come across as a player.

    But if he doesn't wanna communicate, I guess he didn't care after all. Thanks so much smile


    No, most likely no choice has been made.

    You're cutting to the chase and going right to the conclusion of his indecision. My guess would be that he hasnt even got there yet.

    My advice would be to go back to the person you were when you first met.

    At this point you've become a woman who wants to throw the towel in, you're reacting in advance from fear of being rejected, this has become something that is beginning to cause you some stress.

    (I say that as a woman who has been there.)

    Just relax. Stop trying to double guess his intentions. Stop the power plays of who cares less.

    All you can be is yourself. Don't change the path you were on before you met him. Do you thing. He can decide if he wants to be part of it or not.


    No answer to a text saying that I missed him is already rejection, isn't it?

    Plus I'm not even sure what I am supposed to say when he writes eventually. "How was your Saturday date?" : )))))) Assuming that he did not stay home and cried for me.


    Geez, someone really hurt you along the way didn't they?


    Yeeeeeep : )))))))
    I guess that is why I do not have the energy for "dating games."
    I genuinely have no idea how/if to respond when he will text and I am 100% sure he will *rolling eyes*

    Well, a word of advice which you can take or not - deal with the hurt you feel from this other person first before thinking of a relationship.

    Dating games may be just someone operating at a slower pace to you. Dating games may be someone changing their mind.

    You can't lock people in to one way of thinking because that makes us feel safe. We all feel vulnerable in relationships. We each can be hurt if our other person decides to leave. Most relationships won't work out. We have to accept that there is a high chance of failure.

    You can't flinch through life with white knuckles out of fear that someone is going to hurt you again. They may. They may not. It's the shittier part of life that we all have to deal with.

    Each person I firmly believe is doing the best they can. This guy of yours is doing the best he can. He likely has his baggage too just like you do. If you are unable at this point in your life to give him a chance and work your way out of this without going straight to the DETACH cord, then you are not ready.

    Again, I say this as someone who used to walk around with my finger permanently on the trigger. I had to grow past it. I was able to do that with the help of my partner. I can't say what your solution will be but you can't live like you are constantly in a ball coiled in fight or flight mode.
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    Yeah, you are right. Hope I can keep all this in mind for next time.
    For now I didn't get a reply to my missing him message. He did text good morning and a lot of kisses and I tried calling him. Genuinely wanted to hear his voice and he sent me straight to voicemail.
    Oh well, at least I tried.