Posted by LuckyLibra979
Posted by tcta
Posted by FireChild
Posted by LadyNeptune
Why it is always good to pace yourself in a new relationship. Eventually once the person shows their crazy you can decide whether or not you can deal.
But if you dove headfirst and are living with her, knocked her up etc. then you are well and truly fucked and stuck.
Obviously you haven't seen people snap out of nowhere. Usually do to cheating or some other issue.
And BTW no one is stuck.
the children are stuck
Exactly and it can damage them very very deeply. Some even become abusive themselves. I know ppl who became what they feared.
And also I saw earlier in the thread about being stuck with them thru children. Not really true. You dont have to sit by each other at the game. You dont even have to speak to them. You are at the game for your child. You have to take better inititive at that point as a parent. Pick them up after school and take them to practice. Yes you have to talk to them but you dont have to deal with them. Its a difference. Now, the messed up part is some ppl will refuse to do for their kids or some women will refuse to let you see the child. I have seem it myself and that is the worst part
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yes it can damage them deeply - it's in the books and I've lived through it personally - I still fight a few lingering effects and I'm old af - thank god I made it out ok and raised a son without abusing him
I blamed my father for leaving us kids with a crazy mother to raise us but this type of thing is very hard to prove and back then it wasn't the norm for fathers to get custody - I know these things now but I can truly say it caused a lot of problems