Posted by AriesJo
Honestly, I've read a few of IamTheRam's posts before and I can't believe he's Aries. Not saying anything bad, but how calm he is, most of the time Aries don't leave anything to chance, they want something, then they go take it. Never sure if he's just saying what you want to hear, even though I think he is right. Actions speak louder than words and I think he'll know how you feel.
The thing is, and I've been in LDRs, when you say goodbye and move away, it's like "I wanna be together, but how's it gonna work".. and what’s the point if you can't spend time together, you're stopping yourself meeting someone new, and Aries don't have patience or time to wait around.
But, and this is a big "But", it can work, he just needs a bit of encouragement. If he sees you’re prepared to fight and make it happen, then he will want this too. Tell him what you say here, you don't want him to forget about you, tell him it is heart breaking, tell him these things! You don't have to say "I love you", but something else from the heart, like you've posted here.
From experience, I had an LDR with a Libra but I didn't think it was possible, because women had moved away before and I’d forgotten them in time. I thought the only way forward was to forget her. However, a couple of days later she messaged me, she was very emotional and she said told me something like, I’m not going to write the full message but something like "never forget me, I don't want you to ever forget me" ... and I was a bit surprised, and I don't know if it's a Libra thing, but it made her more attractive, because we all know the reason why we don't say "I love you", it's fear, putting your love on the line and being open... I suspected she thought exactly the same as you do now, but when I saw she had overcome something, that she risked being vulnerable for me, and that she thought it could work… I really wanted to try, I messaged her back straight away. But I'm convinced if she hadn't sent that text, I would have gone on to forget her. Because Aries are good at war, you don’t really need to consider other people feelings when you have a war, we can shut feelings down if we believe it’s the only way forward. But you are Libra, you can show him another way, of love and romance, because Aries want love. There’s a reason Aries is ruled by war, and Libra by love, and a reason people have heard of Ares and Aphrodite. At some point the Aries sees how Libra feels love and how vulnerable she is, the protection/hero aspect of the Aries kicks in and he feels like he could die for her, the love is like a movie where he’s the knight and she is the princess he must protect. This kind of love can overcome all obstacles including distance. How a Libra does this, I don’t know, because Libra is the master of love, not Aries, but maybe telling him is the way.
Later on, it may be the only way it can work, telling him now. Because we all know how sociable and flirty you Libras are, and if he think you’re out flirting about, then the only way really will be to shut feelings down. So you will need to persuade him at some point this isn’t the case, and why wouldn’t you flirt with other guys, because you love him. But also, he may think you will forget him, like I said, we all know how sociable and flirty you are?
I'm just a bit surprised and thankful that IamTheRam has been following my posts. I am the overthinking type and believe me. He said things in the pass that I didn't want to hear. I'm not say he defines the decision in my life but I genuinely feels like his views have helped me in the past.
From reading your views, I can see a clearer image of Libras and Aries.You are right, I'm going to tell him how heartbreaking it is but I also want him to explore the world and be happy. I'm happy he gets to do this in his life time. I will see him again in December for a visit.
Part of me feel selfish if I say I love you to him. I feel like it's going to make things harder we both knew this is going to happen. I want him to be happy and explore, I just don't want him to forget about me.
A year is not long. I can wait but I'm not going to ask him to wait because he's going to NY ! he should do whatever he wants. If that makes any sense.