Posted by tctap
stop trying to figure out what to say - you owe it to yourself and him to tell him how you feel and that is that - put it out there because that is what it is - with no expectations of getting anything back
nothing he says will change how you feel so just put it out there - tell him everything and get it off your chest
put the egg in his basket
that will give him the opportunity to express himself - it doesn't sound like you have any idea how he really feels but I suspect he feels the same way although things have changed a bit - you don't talk to someone every day and have a good thing - that sort of thing doesn't happen often so hold on to what you can if you can
work it out Libra - you know the way - but you will need to be open and vulnerable and take tiny steps in the right direction and stop trying to hide to so call save him - he needs to "feel" as well
and you need to know where he stands
deep breaths and god speed
Posted by Gemitati
Why to be paranoid if he is basically like a husband on the business trip...telling you all he does, pictures and stuff...
Even some husbands don't do that!
Posted by IamTheRam
It seems that this went as i expected...and that's a good thing
But tbh with you...lol..i don't really understand your *paranoia* about him not being *interested in you somehow* lol
Well i do fully understand your position and the situation...this will be a very hard thing for you if you want to follow it through...and it's not easy at all to be in your position...but it's alo what @LibraLovesHim said..."how old are both of you ?"
Because the thing with LDR is that it requires alot of maturity from both in order not to fall into Paranoia...
But let's get back to him and the not interested thing hehe ^^
Why is that you think that ?...
Wold you rather prefer having him reduce the number of messages, but instead say "I love you and i miss you so much ?"...lol....you know what i wold say to that ?...total bullbutter....lies...it's all about actions
If he increased the number of things he is *doing for you*...it's because he is thinking more about you....if he is thinking about you...it's because he either likes you or he hates you...but you are not indiferent...and on your specific case...he obviously Likes you ofc ^^
Let me give you an example on how i see all of this *things* about people expecting *big words* from other people ^^
Let's say you were with 4 guys in the last 10 years....to all of them you said "I Love you"...to 3 of them you even wrote poems and stuff like that ^^
And now imagine i was the 5th...and you wold also say that you loved *me* and also wrote the poems...lol...tell me...what makes me diferent from the others ?... after all, you did to them the same things you are *doing* to *me*...Why are you not with them if you Loved *them so much* ?..( i know life is complicated lol this is just an example)...Did you really Loved them at the end of the day ?...If so how come you already forgoten them and why ?...Why are you doing to me the same things you did to them?...Am i even Unique to you ?....etc, etc...
So...here is the most important question.....What the treetrunk is Love after all ?... ^^
Love lies on the perception of the individual itself....so expectations is the *real killer* sometimes...and since we are talking about Aries here.....Love is something Extremly Unique and diferent from everything else...Love does not follow Logic or Patterns...Love is the most illogical thing that us humans *have*...a good way to see if you are in Love is...if nothing makes sense at all haha xD (don't take this literally ofc hehe)
Look at his actions...he really likes you...don't push him with the *big words* and expressions thing lool...this things comes with time...try to chill...and hey, if you want to send him a message...just do it,..but understand that in your current situation he might not reply imediatly...it might take time because he is on a new place doing new things...but it doesn't mean at all that he doesn't like you...that is something that for sure it doesn't mean ^^
Take care and again....chill ! lol
Posted by LibraLovesHimPosted by LibraJackson
Heyy so for all of you who have been following my stories, Thank you!
Your feedback has helped me genuinely.
Long Story short, My Aries man is now living in NY. He messages me every day and it's mostly him telling me how he's settling in and what he's up to. I'm also visiting him in December for a week. So it's lovely really that he's keeping in touch more than I expected because we were going out, we were just dating for almost a year knowing he would move away so we both didn't commit.
I packed his bags and helped him look for a place to rent in NY when I'm living in Ireland. He's been so lovely and thankful for all I've done. BUT This is how I feel. I tell him I miss him. he said he missed me too.
he's texting me more than normal. He's sending me pictures and he's getting excited about me coming to visit him.
I love him, I really do but sometimes I feel like he's not interested somehow. I'm always paranoid that I'm bothering him and letting him live in the new city. Also if he likes me that much, why is it so hard for him to say I miss you too first sometimes or just end it altogether if he's not interested.
Or maybe I'm just moody and confused. What do you think?
The last part maybe correct lol, I have these too. But I would also find it a little difficult living "in limbo" I am very black and white, and this for me would be living in the grey area-but this is a recent thing for me since i reached 30's. How old are you both? Are you working/studying etc? Keep on with your life doing with your own thing and try not to focus on him too much-I know easier said than done...click to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimPosted by LibraJackson
Libra is probably the most romantic sign.
However are we faithful?
I never once committed and be loyal to one person before. Saying that of finding the one and I thought I had in the past. But there's always someone or something new distracting me.
Genuinely would give my all to someone when I care, I'm just a firm believer that you can look what's on the menu but not having feelings for it.
Tell me about your most faithful relationships.
I always thought this could be the case. I am loyal/faithful but I cheat on them with life. I was VERY flighty when I was younger and the next big adventure could take me away from any man. Now that I am older, more calm and settled its about wanting someone with me in the game now! Plus I am more focused than ever on nurturing a relationship. Which I never did think would happen.
I used to always question why do I get bored with everyone/everything?!?click to expand
Posted by CookieoPosted by LibraJackson
Some of you are sick of these stories now and I don't blame you.
Anyways he's off soon. I'm going to drop him to the Airport myself as well.
I got him engrave watch saying 'Go explore, love J x' what do you think ?
It is too cheesy ? I fully believe and support him on his adventures so I hope he likes it.
Aw I think it's sweet. ?
But I'm a libra. I'm cheesy like that.click to expand
Posted by pisceswoman123
Don't make any rush decisions.
He didn't cancel... he is just meeting his boss before you go out together? That is nothing to break up!
Just relax... I know is not easy...
I think you are just scared that he is leaving in two weeks and he doesn't want to spend every moment with you. No fun... but if you push him you may loose him. So just relax and enjoy every moment you have with him.
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
You have made SO many posts about this guy.
Most have advised you to tell him how you feel. If you have not done this, then stop posting for advice.
Understand that he was going to see his boss, whom he has worked with for x amount of years. It could be the last chance to socialize with them. Where you he may still see again. So the fact that you say you have been understanding when you cant understand this, is very contradictory.
Consider that you might be getting nothing back because at the end of the day, he is moving away and does not want to give you any more hope if there is none to begin with.
Again, unless you have told him EXACTLY how you feel, posting here endlessly is not going to change your results.