Posted by Etherealfeeling
It's hard being a cancer, so hard, and nobody understands. :')
Posted by Scorpico
not from my experience. I believe cancers can be cheaters but only if pushed all the way to the extreme.
but they'd tell you about it eventually. I had a friend like that
Posted by dxgartenPosted by M00NchildPosted by Shellyd238
So what you're saying is, they're insufferable! I hear that!
Unless you cater to them like a good little doormat, yeah, pretty much.
But even if you do act like a doormat, it doesn't guarantee that they'll be nice to you instead of nasty. So in the end, what else can you do but leave them alone? After all, that's the message that they are sending, whether intentionally or unintentionally.
I feel bad for my friend. I really do. I can see that maybe there's an underlying issue he's dealing with. But using others as a scapegoat for the emotion that he can't handle is not acceptable.
I still care about him but I know that if I had stayed not only will I continue feeling sad, he'd also never see that what he's done is wrong. Even now, I'm not sure if he's capable of understanding what he did is wrong. And he doesn't like to communicate/talk about his feelings so we end up nowhere. Humans are not mind-readers. Without communication there is no way to resolve problems and misunderstanding.click to expand
Posted by Starry22
FWP -do not expect empathy from someone who has yet ti grow up! Why are you beating yourself up about not being able to break the ive, she did not make any effort either. Let her sulk and continue living her life homding grudges, you do whatever is in your power to make things right jusr dont expect anything in return!
Posted by Vixen2
When I'm in an argument or diagreement I don't hold grudges long. I'm usually over it pretty quickly sometimes within an hour...it just depends. But I think water signs in general hold very long grudges because the amount of emotion, time, energy placed in a trusted friendship...and when someone hurts someone badly enough they just amputated by Scorpio, swam away from Pisces, and the shell gets put on permanently by Cancer...and it's just done. Over. No second thoughts.
Posted by Shellyd238
This literally sounds exactly like the situation with the cancer I was seeing. They are very confusing because they approached everything sideways. Us straight up no BS people can't handle it!!
I can however, 100% say that the biggest problem with miscommunication in relationships is the text message:
He used to tell me that I seemed mad when I text'd him, or that I said things that seemed rude, and I always had to try to make him understand that I was almost never mad, I am just blunt, and a lil sarcastic! ;P ...I guess manipulative cancers that never approach things straight on, can't handle us either...
I was very confused too when he deleted me from FB since, i didn't think we ended on very bad terms. But I've come to the conclusion that he was acting like an immature, selfish brat throwing a hissy fit because I wasn't playing his game anymore. It kind of seems like that may be your situation as well. He's not getting his way, so you're out, and your feelings about it don't even register to him.
Posted by Vixen2
Loss and seperation is so painful. I'm dealing with #4 and have been for 8 months. Every second of the day...my mind knows no rest from it. Every glorious, happy memory had turned gut wrenchingly painful.
All I can do is try to stay busy...I read alot, come on here and chit chat, work, obessively clean, watch mindless TV shows so I don't have to think, garden, yoga, read...but nothing really helps at all. I just try to do my best. That's all I can do. I hope you heart finds comfort no matter what kind of loss or seperation you feel.
Posted by KsamCancerPosted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by KsamCancer
Trash topic belongs in trash. Your cancer problem is miniscule compared to other issues or topics that could be made. Wasting Duncans resources and Cancers time reading these trash topics.
SERIOUSLY WTH With the attitude? if you don't want to read or participate then don't stop policing people.... aren't you crabs masters of ignoring people!!? then do!
I hate people trolling just because they have nothing else better to do...
Your emotions are showingclick to expand
Posted by KsamCancer
Trash topic belongs in trash. Your cancer problem is miniscule compared to other issues or topics that could be made. Wasting Duncans resources and Cancers time reading these trash topics.
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspPosted by thinktoomuch
(messed up the other attempt at same topic)
But what´s your definition cancer? When do you do i? What causes it?
´Cause I keep reading on his here forum, about a guy not responding is equivalent to him "shelling up" or "he is in his shell", and I personally feel like, that´s a big misunderstanding of what "shelling up" means. So let´s ask you, the experts. Please give an example, if you have one.
Shelling up: Having personal loss/difficulties and needed alone time to sort things out without being badgered.
Not shelling up: This is the thousandth text you've sent me about "our" relationship. It's been 6 months without a response from me. I'll be generous-here's a quarter to go buy a clue that lets you know I'm not interested.click to expand
Posted by gia
from my own experience with my cancerian ex, their feelings are like a color palette. When sure about a relationship they know green is green and yellow is yellow. When something emotionally shaking like a breakup happens, that color palette gets messed up.Moreover smudged. Yellow doesn't appear like yellow anymore but more like ochre color,you know? It looks yellow but not quite. So their feelings get messed up. They aren't sure about what they are feeling. Hence we have posts like "he's giving me hot and cold signs". Now this doesn't apply to a player type guy but if he was emotionally invested in you then yes. They themselves don't know what are they feeling and what they want. Hence,those endearing affectionate name calling but not ready for a relationship again just yet.
Posted by Finbuff
The way you feel about, and are obsessed with her, I'd say don't go. You can't get over this woman and seeing her isn't going to make it easier. It's self abuse.
Posted by gia
As your fellow pisces I understand we tend to overthink things and future happenings a lot
BUT
A situation gets only as awkward as you treat it.
If you take things casual with her at the party,you'd realize you were simply freaking out for no major reason.
You just need to cleanse your mind from perceiving the situation to be awkward in any likelihood.
Go there,be normal,be the coolest you.
If you keep this no-awkward but only Mr. cool aura around you, don't be too surprised if you find her stopby wanting to talk to you herself.