Posted by MoonbutterPosted by Tete
Wow I haven't been around in a long time..... but here I'm again with some questions on my pocket.
My newest love interest turns out to be a gem, and as usual a LDR situation....
He is a gem, in his early 40s, moon in Capricorn and Venus in Cancer (bet that's what makes him so Sweet) and I'm a gem as well late 30s, moon in Virgo and Venus in gem.
He went back home last Friday and he has texted ever since he left, once a day, we exchange few texts and till the next day. Before he left we talked about seeing each other in april, today I asked and he is still up to it (felt bad myself after asking, don't want to be pushy but did it anyway) but need to check on dates, work, etc, if not April he say May.
So while together we had an amazing time, he talks none stop, asked tons of questions, etc....talked about his work, family, trips.... then by text he just seems cold, He says that he is missing me, and wish he was here...
I could tell he needs space and time, he is pretty much like myself, we enjoy alone time and do our own stuff, he is no much of a technology guy by the phone all day etc. So far no red flags from him.
While waiting for cab to take him to airport he looked at me and say: Well, ok so in two weeks you will tell me you met someone and blah blah.... is that the gem jealousy?
We just agreed on see what Happens. (....)
When I like someone I want to text all the time and share everything, is that same with gem guys?
I just want to see if it's worth investing? I know that LDR is no biggy for us as long as we have plans to meet, at least is not for me, I've done it before for 6 years....
but also, as I wasn't asking for it, is he still in texting cause he might see something in the future?
Will appreciate any in put, didn't think we gems were so hard to read.
Umm sure I'll put my 2 cents in the ": Well, ok so in two weeks you will tell me you met someone" remark is his Cancer Venus insecurity because he likes you and wants reassuranceclick to expand
Posted by MoonbutterPosted by TetePosted by Lilondasnitch
So me and this Gemini are friends with benefits. Are gems prone, to catching feelings? We just started. While we were intimate he was extremely gentle and he even asked asked me if I was okay. And gave me a kiss and a hug. When I left.
I've been FWB before and once I starting to catch feelings so I stopped, second time didn't, he did so I stopped.
I've friends that have started as FWB and then move into a relationship, but not without some drama in between.
Tete!!! How r u girl?!click to expand
Posted by Lilondasnitch
So me and this Gemini are friends with benefits. Are gems prone, to catching feelings? We just started. While we were intimate he was extremely gentle and he even asked asked me if I was okay. And gave me a kiss and a hug. When I left.
Posted by OneJupiterWayPosted by TetePosted by OneJupiterWayPosted by Loubra
Based upon what your saying he already confirmed he has been distracted (aka busy). However, without knowing all the details (who, what, and why) it's unfair to you or him to assume there is another woman.
If it concerns you, then bring it to his attention. Virgo's appreciate directness as long as it doesn't come across as accusatory or threatening. There is nothing wrong with asking him what his thoughts are about LDRs and whether he considers you two to be in an LDR with an exclusive commitment.
Personally, I would bring it up as a general conversation to understand his thought process because you two have just met and still need time to learn each other before setting relationship boundaries. At least this way you can gain an understanding of what is ahead of you.
here you go gem. nothing wrong with asking when you guys talk.
smart women above.
Wow, thank you guys for your helpful and rational advise, I think it is a good idea to address this as soon as we chat. As I was the one who initiated last couple of times and he said he was busy I'll try to be patient and wait for him to contact, he is supposed to start his work week today, that hasn't stopped him from contacting me before, but if he doesn't in the next couple of days I will reach out and speak up my mind.
Still, he being online and not reaching out has me worried as that means he is deciding not to Contact, and that is way I don't feel like chasing him.
And yes, is not fair that I accuse him about anything, and my guts has been wrong before. Hope this is the case.
Could this be the so much mentioned before Virgo pull?
No such thing as this push and pull ot hot n cold. Its either on / off.
A virgo that likes you will always let you know whats going on. He will always share everything with you. He will always go everywhere with you and you him.
even @p-angel would agree to that.click to expand
Posted by OneJupiterWayPosted by Loubra
Based upon what your saying he already confirmed he has been distracted (aka busy). However, without knowing all the details (who, what, and why) it's unfair to you or him to assume there is another woman.
If it concerns you, then bring it to his attention. Virgo's appreciate directness as long as it doesn't come across as accusatory or threatening. There is nothing wrong with asking him what his thoughts are about LDRs and whether he considers you two to be in an LDR with an exclusive commitment.
Personally, I would bring it up as a general conversation to understand his thought process because you two have just met and still need time to learn each other before setting relationship boundaries. At least this way you can gain an understanding of what is ahead of you.
here you go gem. nothing wrong with asking when you guys talk.
smart women above.click to expand
Posted by OneJupiterWay
Well you say he has been distant but still keep in touch. So if he did then I would not worry.
Virgos can do ldr so dont believe all the bad stuff.
Whats this dudes chart look like?
Posted by OneJupiterWayPosted by VirgoscentPosted by OneJupiterWayPosted by TetePosted by Chantilly
Honestly I think he likes you and you're right that virgos are very practical and therefore not good for long distance relationship. I think closing in the distance will be good for a chance to become exclusive. Otherwise I think Virgo can only keep up the texting for so long. They do enjoy their own space and can seem like " disappearing " but really just enjoying own time.
I was afraid virgos would be no good for LDR . I can not see him until Dec.... also why I wonder why he stayed around for this long :-/
im afraid virgos are no good for anything. sorry thats what they all
say you know.
This statement is not true at all. Many of us might not be the greatest when it comes to romantic relationships , however we have got many other valuable qualities!
I know we do.click to expand
Posted by Chantilly
I think it's a possibility that he might be wandering off to other people. Because you and I both know if there's only one person he's talking to... well then there's no reason to ignore you.
With that said, December is coming up. If you'd still like to see him, when he reaches out to you, I would respond with usual nice demeanour. The point is to observe what's happening and trust your guts. He might be putting you on the back burner while still out hunting on the market.
I have to say though, it might be a more of a fun mutual attraction you share at the moment. Otherwise, he should have initiated the talk for you to relocate already. But I also think, if you make it to December, you and him will know where each other stand for sure.Posted by TetePosted by Chantilly
I wanted to add that he must like you a good deal to stick around for this long. Don't I've him a reason to not like you eg. nag at him about how often texting etccc. Because in his mind long distance might not be a big deal until you turn it to a negative for him.Posted by TetePosted by Chantilly
Honestly I think he likes you and you're right that virgos are very practical and therefore not good for long distance relationship. I think closing in the distance will be good for a chance to become exclusive. Otherwise I think Virgo can only keep up the texting for so long. They do enjoy their own space and can seem like " disappearing " but really just enjoying own time.
I was afraid virgos would be no good for LDR . I can not see him until Dec.... also why I wonder why he stayed around for this long :-/
Thanks Chantilly . I've never nag at him.... yet.... I did asked him about his aloofness, as he said he was just busy, now I will back off and give him space.
In your expirience with virgos, should I just be normal when he decides to reach out again? Or be distant?
He has never played the pull and push thing, he is not the most expressive dude, but he has never gone ignoring me.
Could it be that he met someone?click to expand
Posted by Chantilly
I wanted to add that he must like you a good deal to stick around for this long. Don't I've him a reason to not like you eg. nag at him about how often texting etccc. Because in his mind long distance might not be a big deal until you turn it to a negative for him.Posted by TetePosted by Chantilly
Honestly I think he likes you and you're right that virgos are very practical and therefore not good for long distance relationship. I think closing in the distance will be good for a chance to become exclusive. Otherwise I think Virgo can only keep up the texting for so long. They do enjoy their own space and can seem like " disappearing " but really just enjoying own time.
I was afraid virgos would be no good for LDR . I can not see him until Dec.... also why I wonder why he stayed around for this long :-/click to expand
Posted by Virgoscent
LDR are a big no no for me , I dated a Gemini guy , and in the beginning it was good because we lived in the same town , once I moved out to a new place , I was only able to keep the relationship for a few months. It's just not for me . But by your description of this guy's behaviour it seems that he cares about you. Hope that everything goes well with you guys x
Posted by Chantilly
Honestly I think he likes you and you're right that virgos are very practical and therefore not good for long distance relationship. I think closing in the distance will be good for a chance to become exclusive. Otherwise I think Virgo can only keep up the texting for so long. They do enjoy their own space and can seem like " disappearing " but really just enjoying own time.
Posted by yupvirgo
You should ask him.
Posted by AdmiralPosted by Tete
Hi guys, first time wandering about your forum as this is the first time ive attracted and Aries man in my life, well not sure if "attracted" is the right word... yet. Maybe you can help me understand whats his deal.
So i met this Aries man online (dating site), like 2 months ago... we live in different countries. I didn't realize so, but after we exchanged few messages i did and i told him, he said that he was aware and that LDR are possible if interest is given... anyway i kept up with the chat, there is no harm in that and its nice to meet people from different cultures.
So since then we have been texting on daily basis, he is super funny, 46 yo, im 36. He told me right away his situation, recently split with ex, still living in the same house till she gets to move out with her new BF, he told me so saying that he did not wanted to hide anything or bring up situations that can seem confusing. Nice of him. He even told me few weeks ago that he told her about me, all that without me asking about it. So basically that is all we do, text, he sure say stuff about liking me and wanting me and wanting to meet and kiss, not all the time which i like, has never asked for intimate pics and he is very gentleman about intimate chats, we had only had one and it was a very respectful one (no obscene words) just sexy thoughts.
He recently said about visiting, and starting to make plans as soon as he knows when he if off work after august and when it fits. September might be it. he said is a gentleman's promise. But recently all we do is text once a day, dont get me wrong i can live with that, he apologize for being busy and asked me to not think that he has lost interest. Nice of him again. All seem so nice, but ive read lots about Aries man getting bored fast, that im wondering if this is the case cause we dont trully talk anymore, its just a text a day to wish good day (so sweet) and sometimes to share a bit of what he was up to. I do same, my text are longer many time, im gem hehehehehe.
He seems to be moving very slow compared of what ive read about aries, so would like to hear from other aries if this is normal behavior, boredom, or him keeping as an option? whats his deal?
HE JUST WANTS SEX!!!! YOU DO NOT NEED A PHD TO FIGURE IT OUT.
Oh gee this 40 something guy is treating me and making me feel nice and generally in a high emotional state and I'm a still young 30 something girl. GEEEEE WHAT COULD HE WANT?click to expand
Posted by bnr7013
I met an Aries & the situation you are describing sounds exactly like mine. They APPEAR open and honest about their living arrangements but the one I was dealing with turned out to be a liar. He was living with his ex bc they were still together. Any situation like this, I would walk away from. Why even tell your "ex" about a new person? It makes no sense if they aren't together, at least to me since it wouldn't be any it their business. Don't be fooled.