Posted by bmoon8Posted by themilkyway36Posted by bmoon8Posted by themilkyway36Posted by bmoon8
TLDR
With friends like you, who needs enemies?
The most loyal dogs will explode in angry and bite back the more abusive treatment they receive.
I do believe my post is emotionally biased because it was written in anger, but the facts remain true.
I never abused dogs, so don’t know firsthand if it is true or not. It’s definitely plausible.
The thing is.. no one is perfect and we are all flawed in some way. There are certain flaws that do not meet our standards and we should count our losses, and move on. Otherwise, if these flaws are acceptable to you, but they bother you to a degree where you have to air dirty laundry out to a bunch of strangers online, you are not a true friend. If you were true friend and these things bother you, why not tell her to her face? Why not be open and honest with “your friend”? The worst case scenario is she would not take you seriously and keep doing the same shit. However, best case scenario is that she would change.
You're right about everyone having flaws and weaknesses, I've acted out in some pretty bad ways in the past unknowingly before too. I did think about myself and how it looks from an objective place based on what some people on here said, and truth be told I realize I'm doing the same thing my mother did to me. She would do all the necessary things but act out in small passive aggressive ways, and I'd hear her talk vehemently about me behind my back all the time without trying to understand me...so I guess I do the exact same pattern. idk anymore I have deep trust issues because I was hurt so much
That’s horrible that your mother did that.. I am sorry to hear that. Your mother sounds like she was envious of you.
It’s not too late to ever break the cycle and this is unhealthy behavior you don’t want to carry into other friendships or relationships. It’s incredible insight that you have to recognize that this is learned behavior. I’m impressed in a very good way.
I don’t trust people easily either, so can relate to your trust issues. The Cap sun/Scorpio rising/ Scorpio moon does not help with trusting either. For trust, I listen to my gut instinct on who I should take a gamble on trusting. When I trust someone and know them well, I truly become more of myself around - uninhibited and very open. Otherwise, I am closed off to people.
Signed,
8th house moon conjunct Pluto with Cap risingclick to expand
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by themilkyway36Posted by xiongmaoPosted by themilkyway36Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by xiongmaoPosted by MikeNYNYC
Give your instincts a gold star, because something is off; two things; her sun is squared her mars, and her moon is squared her mercury. Two squares in her personal planets. While her sun is naturally friendly and fun loving, her squares make her naturally quarrelsome and she's probably been burnt for "being herself" before, so sometimes, she overdoes the friendly bit in public just to be accepted.
Not really. The squares just indicate conflicting energies in her chart, where characteristics of one somewhat offsets the characteristics of another.
Like I have Leo Moon and Taurus Mercury. I’m probably more outward than other Taurus Mercury, but in comparison to some other Leo Moons, I’m more quiet.
You’re correct; conflict. And mounting inner tension as a result. Squares are the equivalent to planets arguing with eathother’s energy. It’s especially problematic in personal planets, but it could cause some some appealing tension if coming from a generational planet. Feel free to look this up.
You're literally the only person on here to have some logical sense with the facts on here. Everyone else is just busy judging my strong reaction to it. I still trust my instincts because they've never done me wrong. I had a friend in the 5th grade whom I never liked for some reason at the beginning. Our friendship developed from being in the same classes and having the same friends, and I eventually grew to love her as a friend. However, in high school a huge fight went down because she dramatically blew up on me, caused me a lot of hurt feelings.
Anyhow, that synastry analysis sounds about right - I always had a feeling about that. The cap merc I think is also squared her aries moon, and on top of the sun squared mars, our generational pluto sign is Sag and it might be aspecting to her Sun - Sag's in my year are a lot less open and open-minded than other Sag's I see. Our generational jupiter is in Cap so I see it giving it more of Saturnian flavour with Sag being ruled by Jupiter. I have a few square-offs in my chart as well so I feel the whole inner conflict energy. It feels more like a struggle to be one or the other, with both signs never feeling quite "right." What most people don't understand about plutonian and mars energy is that it's hidden, dramatic, intense, and slow-brewing (more for pluto). That's why people love to hate on scorpios who are ruled by pluto and mars, they just don't want to accept the shadow and darker parts of themselves that are present in all human beings. Pluto is also very much about taking revenge and hurting others to get back at them if they felt hurt.
I'm honestly not judging, nor am I undermining your intuition. It's just in your post, you had a lot of "I feel..." and much less things like results from what happened when you communicate with her. From what you describe, she doesn't sound like a great friend. I empathize your frustration. But...your thoughts about her, your frustrations about her....how much and how often do you actually tell her?
I have no issue in accepting the darker parts of myself. I have inclination for debates, discussions, and arguments because I'm a triple fire with mars in gemini. It's precisely my earth placements that square those fire placements that helps me learn to be less so.
The "I feel" statements are a moon in the 1st house thing lol. I know that gives me a tendency to be oversensitive to every little thing and take it personally. My cap sun makes me hide it because it doesn't like to act overly emotional. I'm trying to work through things in myself but it's just been a triggerfest lately with everything and everyone - I always feel walked on and my boundaries crossed by so many people.
It's ok. I know you Cap Suns are often more harder on yourselves than to anyone else. I just advocate speaking up, especially when you feel like your boundaries got crossed (regardless of whose fault it is). With certain fire suns, picking up subtleties may not be a strong suit.click to expand
Posted by MikeNYNYC
Ah, just go straight for the jugular why don’t you? Nominate the sign that everyone else wants to—only to end up just as wrong! Scorpio is the sign of “death.” Most people take this the wrong way; Scorpio’s a fixed sign; coupled with their deep, deep emotions, they refer to the concept that other signs see as “living and learning” and “transformations.” (This is because it’s especially hard for a fixed sign to change their perspective on anything related to their value system. Couple this reality with the fact that Scorpio’s a water sign, and, their feelings run the deepest of all three, and the “sum” is a personality that considers being pushed to the brink of turning over a “new leaf”, or way of perceiving things to be a “transformation.” The sign of death really means a life consisting of a series of little deaths towards becoming who they are or want to be.
While a hallmark quality of Scorpio is manipulation, Scorpio seeks the truth in others. If you’re honest about who you are, bare bones and everything, and, stay as true to your individual calling in life as they are to their own, without trying to impersonate someone else’s life, a Scorpio will still test you, possibly still try and use you, but staying true to yourself also means keeping good company. If you let yourself be used it’s your fault! Mind your own business, work on your own life and Scorpio’s will silently respect you (just don’t expect a grand declaration) and not harm you, rather see you as inspirational.
Posted by hydorahPosted by MikeNYNYCPosted by MikeNYNYC
Hmm, how will this go over? I’m going to go through the signs until I get to my opinion, of the most evil sign of the Western Zodiac. This requires interaction; so your guesses illicit my responses (👍). Along the way, I’ll say what stops the sign that someone guesses from maximizing their “evilhood”. If you say the most evil sign, I’ll oblige by the rules, agree and say why from my opinion.—now let’s play!
DISCLAIMER: “Evil” is defined as getting ahead without enough regard to other people’s rights, property or residual feelings enough to make a difference.
that's not what evil means, but going by that definition I'd say sagclick to expand
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
So I didn’t read alll of it but she seems to just be negatively reacting to you calling her out that one time. By giving you space, cancelling on plans. She’s def being passive aggressive and making you suffer.
But I mean if you don’t like the way she treats you nor believe you can be around her, don’t. I know it hurts (if she’s like a bestie) but sometimes cutting someone off is for your well-being.
Side note: Aries moons on ANY sun 🤢🤢🤢
Posted by ImperfectStorm
I couldn’t even read it all. Like what is the point? Lol you clearly hate her. Stop being fake friends with someone you despise. My sister does this same shit and I don’t get it. It makes you sound as bad as the person you’re portraying her as.
We choose our friends... keep that in mind.
Posted by saggurl88
Are you upset cause she doesn't want to be alone with you? Why do you need her to yourself?
Sag don't like being controlled. The more you push for alone time, the weirder she probably got
If you don't like her behavior, stop hanging around with her, tell her about herself, send this whole post that you've written out. She probably won't bother you again.
No one would want to be friends with a person who thinks of them like this. Why even bother with her?
Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by themilkyway36Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by themilkyway36Posted by AbbyNormal
You both sound codependent. Best to leave her to her own devices and vice versa. If she’s not being a friend, why do you keep entertaining her??? Focus and work on yourself and you’ll be alright.
That was probably how the bond started tbh... I feel like I either outgrew her emotionally, figured out enough of how she ticks to get tired of it, and/or I retreat and have an emotional wall up once I feel like someone can hurt me
Now that you recognize that, next step is taking action. Go your own way and don’t give it another thought. It’ll be great for you so you can focus on your priorities. It sucks, but it happens. Taking things personally will give you wrinkles 😂 Learn to work on yourself and find your confidence.
You're right it's not healthy to take it personally, I just refuse to be taken for a fool so very self-protective and paranoid right now. Finding myself and my confidence/spirit again has been the theme of my last year or so -
Oftentimes during these transitional periods, you find out who your real friends are. People can grow apart and it seems like you’re moving on from her just as much as she is from you—it’s not personal, it just happens. No need for goodbyes, she understands on an unspoken level I think. Just keep moving forward. Anyone who is a real friend will help you do so, not backwards. Being more selective with friends is not a bad thing—quality over quantity.click to expand
Posted by bmoon8Posted by themilkyway36Posted by bmoon8
TLDR
With friends like you, who needs enemies?
The most loyal dogs will explode in angry and bite back the more abusive treatment they receive.
I do believe my post is emotionally biased because it was written in anger, but the facts remain true.
I never abused dogs, so don’t know firsthand if it is true or not. It’s definitely plausible.
The thing is.. no one is perfect and we are all flawed in some way. There are certain flaws that do not meet our standards and we should count our losses, and move on. Otherwise, if these flaws are acceptable to you, but they bother you to a degree where you have to air dirty laundry out to a bunch of strangers online, you are not a true friend. If you were true friend and these things bother you, why not tell her to her face? Why not be open and honest with “your friend”? The worst case scenario is she would not take you seriously and keep doing the same shit. However, best case scenario is that she would change.click to expand
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by themilkyway36Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by xiongmaoPosted by MikeNYNYC
Give your instincts a gold star, because something is off; two things; her sun is squared her mars, and her moon is squared her mercury. Two squares in her personal planets. While her sun is naturally friendly and fun loving, her squares make her naturally quarrelsome and she's probably been burnt for "being herself" before, so sometimes, she overdoes the friendly bit in public just to be accepted.
Not really. The squares just indicate conflicting energies in her chart, where characteristics of one somewhat offsets the characteristics of another.
Like I have Leo Moon and Taurus Mercury. I’m probably more outward than other Taurus Mercury, but in comparison to some other Leo Moons, I’m more quiet.
You’re correct; conflict. And mounting inner tension as a result. Squares are the equivalent to planets arguing with eathother’s energy. It’s especially problematic in personal planets, but it could cause some some appealing tension if coming from a generational planet. Feel free to look this up.
You're literally the only person on here to have some logical sense with the facts on here. Everyone else is just busy judging my strong reaction to it. I still trust my instincts because they've never done me wrong. I had a friend in the 5th grade whom I never liked for some reason at the beginning. Our friendship developed from being in the same classes and having the same friends, and I eventually grew to love her as a friend. However, in high school a huge fight went down because she dramatically blew up on me, caused me a lot of hurt feelings.
Anyhow, that synastry analysis sounds about right - I always had a feeling about that. The cap merc I think is also squared her aries moon, and on top of the sun squared mars, our generational pluto sign is Sag and it might be aspecting to her Sun - Sag's in my year are a lot less open and open-minded than other Sag's I see. Our generational jupiter is in Cap so I see it giving it more of Saturnian flavour with Sag being ruled by Jupiter. I have a few square-offs in my chart as well so I feel the whole inner conflict energy. It feels more like a struggle to be one or the other, with both signs never feeling quite "right." What most people don't understand about plutonian and mars energy is that it's hidden, dramatic, intense, and slow-brewing (more for pluto). That's why people love to hate on scorpios who are ruled by pluto and mars, they just don't want to accept the shadow and darker parts of themselves that are present in all human beings. Pluto is also very much about taking revenge and hurting others to get back at them if they felt hurt.
I'm honestly not judging, nor am I undermining your intuition. It's just in your post, you had a lot of "I feel..." and much less things like results from what happened when you communicate with her. From what you describe, she doesn't sound like a great friend. I empathize your frustration. But...your thoughts about her, your frustrations about her....how much and how often do you actually tell her?
I have no issue in accepting the darker parts of myself. I have inclination for debates, discussions, and arguments because I'm a triple fire with mars in gemini. It's precisely my earth placements that square those fire placements that helps me learn to be less so.click to expand
Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by themilkyway36Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by xiongmaoPosted by MikeNYNYC
Give your instincts a gold star, because something is off; two things; her sun is squared her mars, and her moon is squared her mercury. Two squares in her personal planets. While her sun is naturally friendly and fun loving, her squares make her naturally quarrelsome and she's probably been burnt for "being herself" before, so sometimes, she overdoes the friendly bit in public just to be accepted.
Not really. The squares just indicate conflicting energies in her chart, where characteristics of one somewhat offsets the characteristics of another.
Like I have Leo Moon and Taurus Mercury. I’m probably more outward than other Taurus Mercury, but in comparison to some other Leo Moons, I’m more quiet.
You’re correct; conflict. And mounting inner tension as a result. Squares are the equivalent to planets arguing with eathother’s energy. It’s especially problematic in personal planets, but it could cause some some appealing tension if coming from a generational planet. Feel free to look this up.
You're literally the only person on here to have some logical sense with the facts on here. Everyone else is just busy judging my strong reaction to it. I still trust my instincts because they've never done me wrong. I had a friend in the 5th grade whom I never liked for some reason at the beginning. Our friendship developed from being in the same classes and having the same friends, and I eventually grew to love her as a friend. However, in high school a huge fight went down because she dramatically blew up on me, caused me a lot of hurt feelings.
Anyhow, that synastry analysis sounds about right - I always had a feeling about that. The cap merc I think is also squared her aries moon, and on top of the sun squared mars, our generational pluto sign is Sag and it might be aspecting to her Sun - Sag's in my year are a lot less open and open-minded than other Sag's I see. Our generational jupiter is in Cap so I see it giving it more of Saturnian flavour with Sag being ruled by Jupiter. I have a few square-offs in my chart as well so I feel the whole inner conflict energy. It feels more like a struggle to be one or the other, with both signs never feeling quite "right." What most people don't understand about plutonian and mars energy is that it's hidden, dramatic, intense, and slow-brewing (more for pluto). That's why people love to hate on scorpios who are ruled by pluto and mars, they just don't want to accept the shadow and darker parts of themselves that are present in all human beings. Pluto is also very much about taking revenge and hurting others to get back at them if they felt hurt.
Sagittarius are a lot of fun to be around; very light hearted and fascinated by culture. They’re not people to get too deep with regarding discussing emotional issues, from my experience. Which is fine by me though.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88
Currently dating a Scorpio moon and I really love how effortless it is. They are so decisive and let me know what they want, where they stand, I love it.
Just tell me what you want me to do, so I can do it
Hopefully Jlo has grown and isn't as petty. She kicked him to the curb way too early and both of them ended up having kids with others and then coming back together again. Talk about life altering decisions!
Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by xiongmaoPosted by MikeNYNYCPosted by xiongmaoPosted by MikeNYNYC
Give your instincts a gold star, because something is off; two things; her sun is squared her mars, and her moon is squared her mercury. Two squares in her personal planets. While her sun is naturally friendly and fun loving, her squares make her naturally quarrelsome and she's probably been burnt for "being herself" before, so sometimes, she overdoes the friendly bit in public just to be accepted.
Not really. The squares just indicate conflicting energies in her chart, where characteristics of one somewhat offsets the characteristics of another.
Like I have Leo Moon and Taurus Mercury. I’m probably more outward than other Taurus Mercury, but in comparison to some other Leo Moons, I’m more quiet.
You’re correct; conflict. And mounting inner tension as a result. Squares are the equivalent to planets arguing with eathother’s energy. It’s especially problematic in personal planets, but it could cause some some appealing tension if coming from a generational planet. Feel free to look this up.
The tension doesn’t necessarily make someone quarrelsome though. It just requires an outlet (like exercise) and the Sag in question is likely pretty active.
Yes, it does. It’s tension. Tension makes those with squares frustrated. A constant state of frustration makes someone argumentative. You have a fixed square. That probably makes your square very stubborn their short term thinking and communication style . But I’m not going to go on and on repeating this to you. Again, feel free to look it up.click to expand
Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by xiongmaoPosted by MikeNYNYC
Give your instincts a gold star, because something is off; two things; her sun is squared her mars, and her moon is squared her mercury. Two squares in her personal planets. While her sun is naturally friendly and fun loving, her squares make her naturally quarrelsome and she's probably been burnt for "being herself" before, so sometimes, she overdoes the friendly bit in public just to be accepted.
Not really. The squares just indicate conflicting energies in her chart, where characteristics of one somewhat offsets the characteristics of another.
Like I have Leo Moon and Taurus Mercury. I’m probably more outward than other Taurus Mercury, but in comparison to some other Leo Moons, I’m more quiet.
You’re correct; conflict. And mounting inner tension as a result. Squares are the equivalent to planets arguing with eathother’s energy. It’s especially problematic in personal planets, but it could cause some some appealing tension if coming from a generational planet. Feel free to look this up.click to expand
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by themilkyway36Posted by Moloko_vellocet
I think you’re the asshole.
You’re such a judgmental, whiny little bitch that no wonder she didn’t go to your party.
You judge everything she does or says.
Then go on the internet to tell strangers you think your friend has a personality disorder.
You’re the entitled one needing attention from someone you don’t even respect.
I bet you gossip and talk shit about her to what little friends that will put up with your nonsense.
Look at yourself.
Hmm I wonder if you're projecting here.
You know what, she does the whole judging thing to my face and gossips to me about her BEST friends. I have always had too much moral integrity to ever talk about others behind their back. I don't think it's criminal that I have human feelings and am choosing to safely express it in an online anonymous forum. Nothing I said has anything to do with me being a "whiny little bitch" because excuse me if I let loose sometimes lmao. I never say a single thing to anyone's face ever even when they're being shitty disrespectful people.
Lol, you don't even see the holes in what you've written here. Carry on....click to expand
Posted by Moloko_vellocetPosted by themilkyway36Posted by Moloko_vellocet
I think you’re the asshole.
You’re such a judgmental, whiny little bitch that no wonder she didn’t go to your party.
You judge everything she does or says.
Then go on the internet to tell strangers you think your friend has a personality disorder.
You’re the entitled one needing attention from someone you don’t even respect.
I bet you gossip and talk shit about her to what little friends that will put up with your nonsense.
Look at yourself.
Hmm I wonder if you're projecting here.
You know what, she does the whole judging thing to my face and gossips to me about her BEST friends. I have always had too much moral integrity to ever talk about others behind their back. I don't think it's criminal that I have human feelings and am choosing to safely express it in an online anonymous forum. Nothing I said has anything to do with me being a "whiny little bitch" because excuse me if I let loose sometimes lmao. I never say a single thing to anyone's face ever even when they're being shitty disrespectful people.
I’m wondering if you’re deflecting here.
Sounds like you never think you’re the problem.
You actually think a stranger on the internet is projecting on your petty bitchy straight girl drama?
Please, honey. You’re a wet blanket. Quit complaining.click to expand
Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by themilkyway36Posted by AbbyNormal
You both sound codependent. Best to leave her to her own devices and vice versa. If she’s not being a friend, why do you keep entertaining her??? Focus and work on yourself and you’ll be alright.
That was probably how the bond started tbh... I feel like I either outgrew her emotionally, figured out enough of how she ticks to get tired of it, and/or I retreat and have an emotional wall up once I feel like someone can hurt me
Now that you recognize that, next step is taking action. Go your own way and don’t give it another thought. It’ll be great for you so you can focus on your priorities. It sucks, but it happens. Taking things personally will give you wrinkles 😂 Learn to work on yourself and find your confidence.click to expand
Posted by DMV
Cancer rising here 😀
Cancer influenced people love to “miss” people. It feels good to long for someone and wait for the day to see them again.
Sometimes the fantasy of missing them is better than the reality.
In terms of asking for a second chance, cancer is also a cardinal sign and they will crab walk there way towards anything that feel strongly for.
How long that will take? Only God knows