I had gotten involved with my cancer man about 2 years ago. We always had a great time, always had something to talk about...we just clicked. We got to the point that the "L" word came into play and that got things even steamier....An incident that I was unaware of happened and he cut me smooth off. went over a year without any contact with each other at all...we even work for the same company but different locations. Well the other day I had to get In contact with him concerning business....I was scared to death... my heart had been broken and I had no idea what caused it... Well he responded to me and we chatted for a while over work IM and then the next day he text me. we talked a bit about this and that and all of a sudden he told me why he cut me off a year ago. it all made sense. he told me he should have handled things differently and told me sooner. Then he goes in to saying that he has been getting really frustrated lately and confused because he thinks about me and all of our good times and wonders what it would be like for us to be together...instead of him with the girl he is engaged to. We have always had a huge spark between us but why now all of a sudden is this coming up. hes not getting married for over a year...so I kind of ruled out cold feet...is it possible he still has feelings for me? I don't want to scare him off so how do I handle this? I'm not a homewrecker but I still have feelings...what do I do?
We've hung out a couple more times. Kept it relaxed. I went with no expectations. Just enjoyed hanging out. I told him the other day in a text that I missed him. He ended up asking me to come over. I did. It was nice. Out of nowhere he asked me if I was thinking about him right then. When I said I was he was right next to me in a split second and holding me. It was very nice. He kept kissing my forehead and cheek. Eventually mouth. Seems like once he lets his guard down and we get close like that he retreats a little again. But we are spending time together again tomorrow night. We will see.
So I finally get the chance to try this out. No texting last night haven't text him today. The other day when I tried this he text me something random at 1:45??? So gonna stick it and try for the whole weekend.
Ok, here's the the thing... Since we started talking there hasn't been a day that we haven't talked or text each other. By not texting him and making that first initial contact of the day do you think he will notice? If he needs space and time to figure out what he wants I want to give him that time and space. But if we go a few days or longer without talking or texting do you think he will notice I have backed off? Because as of right now he gets the usual attention he's use to maybe I just need to take that away and see if that bothers him. Maybe miss that a little and miss me
By not texting to say hi or at all for a bit will this hurt my little crabs feelings or make him think I am not interested?? If he needs space I want him to have it along with the time he needs to figure it all out. Just don't want him to think I jumped ship.???