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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I got anxious just by reading this.
Girl calm down and loosen up a bit, it's okay. Everything's okay.
I think this whole thing is blown out of proportion to the max tbh :/


So you wouldn't be hurt and feeling a certain way if your boyfriend abandoned you in another city and left you to find your way home? Common be real.


She's an earth sign. We see the logic in both. Even the OP sees it went south on both parts. He's wrong for leaving no doubt and I'd be pissed but come on even the OP said he came back Several times...and offered to leave his car and she said no..could you not see that's mixed messages? My water placements would have me crying and hating him but my earth side says...girl what were u thinking also


There's a HUGE difference between saying "I don't want to leave RIGHT NOW cause it's 3am", and "I'm not leaving with you at all, ever". Surely you see the distinction?

Posted by capricorngirl25
telling me he's going back to los angeles(we drove together from la to SF) he said are you coming with me or staying here? I told him I wasn't going anywhere at this time..it was now about 3am.


Yip and then She told him to break up with her...he said "if we're broken up I'm not leaving you I'll wait til the morning" so I assume he's waiting outside for her response. No response...so more than likely in his mind the last communication was "she wants to break up, I'm offering to stay and she's not responding.." a lot of assumption and little to no actual communication or benefit of the doubt for either of them. The alcohol didn't help.
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alcohol rarely helps, unless its anal. Or so I've been told lol
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Posted by DivaCanLeo
Most women should really try to find their soulmate by 27. If they're not hitched by then they'll be doing a lot of settling later on.

I think maybe just stop online dating for awhile and give real guys in the real world a chance for now.


completely untrue. the older I get the higher my standards get.


She's the last person who should be giving advice on this stuff. The butter she says is so treetrunked up and skewed. She's obviously a product of some treetrunked up, outdated, cultural conditioning. It's no wonder she's a psychopath. She hates herself because she can't live up to these piss poor standards that were beaten into her head.

It's treetrunking sad that these pathetic cookiemonsteres up in this thread are forcing their own desperation upon the OP. If she wants to take a step back from the treetrunked up dating pool, so be it. Nothing wrong with that. But this pathetic barrage of silly cookiemonsteres going on about how she can't give up and making it sound like it's absolutely horrific that she wants to stop at the moment is treetrunking dog butter. They all seem to be ignoring the prime indicator here which was THE OP WAS NOT FEELING LIKE HERSELF AND THOSE AROUND HER NOTICED HER EMOTIONAL DECLINE. Yet these hoes are up in here, ignoring that because omg, no dating?? THE WORLD WILL SURELY END.

There is a such thing as dating burn out, which is what the OP is dealing with. She has every right to want to step back and recharge from these treetrunking retards she's been dealing with.

Do you, OP. Take time away and get your bearings. You'll know when you're down to date again.


Her advice is the epitome of ironic, since she herself can't follow what she preaches.



I was especially disturbed when I saw her treetrunktard response to Arielle's situation with her husband. She's delusional and absolutely reality evading.
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She blocked me because I posted a naked woman on one of her threads. Which has me thinking maybe she's been in the closet and hiding her true self. She seems overly obsessed with having the perfect black male specimen, kids, and house to live up to her cultures expectations of her. Which is cool. But why react so violently to another woman's body unless your denying your true nature and it makes you uncomfortable to confront the truth you've buried deep inside.

Just spit balling here *shrug
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Ambition and drive does not always = large income.


in my family it does. It led my dad to accumulate a small fortune despite not having a formal education, coming to this country without learning how to add or subtract. My mom had to teach him. Yet he had a successful business for over 35 years. Making over $ 10,000 a week in profits (at the peak of his business). Invested in real estate properties which now are his backbone. The money he makes in rent alone is more than twice the average family income in my area. All because he had ambition and drive to suceed.

My sisters are also all successful. Despite most of them being single/teen moms. they all have jobs that pay over $ 30 an hour. with just AA degrees. And that's RARE here in Los Angeles, CA. highest paid job you can find here now, is like $ 18 with a BA.

My ex has ambition and drive and just started his own business about 6 months ago. He's making about $ 1200 minimum a week in salary.

It's all about perspective and thinking outside the box. Someone who has ambition and drive will not settle for a mediocre job. They will push the envelope to have what no one else does.


Example, very driven individual starts their own business...a non profit. They pay themselves a nominal salary because they care more about the good their doing than than making 6 figures a year.


in my family, we believe that being the head is better than being part of a big corporate collective. We like to be our own boss and dictate what we'll do and where we'll go. Hence why my dad was a very successful salesman. It's just about learning to push your own limitations. A lot of these new kids coming out of school are so entitled and lazy... but you have a choice to be different and not follow the herd.

Follow the beat to your own drum.... advice from a fellow Aqua.
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Nice pep talk. Now back to my example...
Posted by Capri__unicorn
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I got anxious just by reading this.
Girl calm down and loosen up a bit, it's okay. Everything's okay.
I think this whole thing is blown out of proportion to the max tbh :/


So you wouldn't be hurt and feeling a certain way if your boyfriend abandoned you in another city and left you to find your way home? Common be real.


She's an earth sign. We see the logic in both. Even the OP sees it went south on both parts. He's wrong for leaving no doubt and I'd be pissed but come on even the OP said he came back Several times...and offered to leave his car and she said no..could you not see that's mixed messages? My water placements would have me crying and hating him but my earth side says...girl what were u thinking also


There's a HUGE difference between saying "I don't want to leave RIGHT NOW cause it's 3am", and "I'm not leaving with you at all, ever". Surely you see the distinction?

Posted by capricorngirl25
telling me he's going back to los angeles(we drove together from la to SF) he said are you coming with me or staying here? I told him I wasn't going anywhere at this time..it was now about 3am.
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I got anxious just by reading this.
Girl calm down and loosen up a bit, it's okay. Everything's okay.
I think this whole thing is blown out of proportion to the max tbh :/


So you wouldn't be hurt and feeling a certain way if your boyfriend abandoned you in another city and left you to find your way home? Common be real.


I would be.
But I'm not talking about that, I'm talking about how this headassery was started because it seems like the both of them don't know how to calm down.
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True. However he took this argument to the next level by using the last card available to him, his car, to leave her ass stranded. And apparently he doesn't give a butter because he hasn't reached out to find out if she made it back home, is even still alive, etc. There's some rough areas of SF.

If it was me I'd be more than just hurt. I'd be done.
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Posted by DivaCanLeo
Most women should really try to find their soulmate by 27. If they're not hitched by then they'll be doing a lot of settling later on.

I think maybe just stop online dating for awhile and give real guys in the real world a chance for now.


completely untrue. the older I get the higher my standards get.


She's the last person who should be giving advice on this stuff. The butter she says is so treetrunked up and skewed. She's obviously a product of some treetrunked up, outdated, cultural conditioning. It's no wonder she's a psychopath. She hates herself because she can't live up to these piss poor standards that were beaten into her head.

It's treetrunking sad that these pathetic cookiemonsteres up in this thread are forcing their own desperation upon the OP. If she wants to take a step back from the treetrunked up dating pool, so be it. Nothing wrong with that. But this pathetic barrage of silly cookiemonsteres going on about how she can't give up and making it sound like it's absolutely horrific that she wants to stop at the moment is treetrunking dog butter. They all seem to be ignoring the prime indicator here which was THE OP WAS NOT FEELING LIKE HERSELF AND THOSE AROUND HER NOTICED HER EMOTIONAL DECLINE. Yet these hoes are up in here, ignoring that because omg, no dating?? THE WORLD WILL SURELY END.

There is a such thing as dating burn out, which is what the OP is dealing with. She has every right to want to step back and recharge from these treetrunking retards she's been dealing with.

Do you, OP. Take time away and get your bearings. You'll know when you're down to date again.
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Her advice is the epitome of ironic, since she herself can't follow what she preaches.

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
my motto is work smarter not harder.


same here
Posted by aquarius_beauty
Posted by LadyNeptune

Ambition and drive does not always = large income.


in my family it does. It led my dad to accumulate a small fortune despite not having a formal education, coming to this country without learning how to add or subtract. My mom had to teach him. Yet he had a successful business for over 35 years. Making over $ 10,000 a week in profits (at the peak of his business). Invested in real estate properties which now are his backbone. The money he makes in rent alone is more than twice the average family income in my area. All because he had ambition and drive to suceed.

My sisters are also all successful. Despite most of them being single/teen moms. they all have jobs that pay over $ 30 an hour. with just AA degrees. And that's RARE here in Los Angeles, CA. highest paid job you can find here now, is like $ 18 with a BA.

My ex has ambition and drive and just started his own business about 6 months ago. He's making about $ 1200 minimum a week in salary.

It's all about perspective and thinking outside the box. Someone who has ambition and drive will not settle for a mediocre job. They will push the envelope to have what no one else does.
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Example, very driven individual starts their own business...a non profit. They pay themselves a nominal salary because they care more about the good their doing than than making 6 figures a year.
disagree, she's giving direct eye contact
sexual objectification is a completely different thing than wanting to save your mothers, daughters, wives, and children first from a sinking ship. duh
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I got anxious just by reading this.
Girl calm down and loosen up a bit, it's okay. Everything's okay.
I think this whole thing is blown out of proportion to the max tbh :/


So you wouldn't be hurt and feeling a certain way if your boyfriend abandoned you in another city and left you to find your way home? Common be real.
Posted by capricorngirl25
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Posted by capricorngirl25
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Few questions I have...

1. Are you on birth control?
2. Did you both get tested and share your results?



Hi LadyNeptune

1.Yes I am on birth control and I reassured him that I am very responsible and if I even have any doubts like lets say took pill late or w/e I would get the morning after pill, just to show him how responsible I am about not wanting to get preg.
2. No we didn't, but he explained to me his issue wasn't with unprotected sex, it was more about the ejaculating inside me. But I told him pre-cum contains just as much active sperm as actual sperm so there would be no difference.


Look it's really irresponsible of you both to treetrunk raw without establishing that you are both clean. Please be a responsible adult about sex and get tested with future partners. Please help halt the spread of disease.

As for your story here, he got offended when you stopped him during sex. His ego was bruised and he lashed out. That's only natural most men, and women, would be offended by this. Especially when inebriated. However what you need to question here is if you want to be with someone that prefers to run when things get tough. He bailed on you and left you in another city to fend for yourself and that just isn't cool.

Your asking how YOU can fix things when in all actuality HE should be the one to get on his knees and beg you to take his ass back.


Thank you, I already made an appointment with my doctor for testing last week. And it seems very right what you said about his ego getting bruised and him running. I don't understand how he texted me he would wait for me, then just because he didn't get a text back he left me? your right.


You handled things badly. However he bailed on you all together. If you cared about someone would you ever just leave them without a means to get home? The answer is obviously no.

It would be a completely different story if he booked you a flight or left you money for a bus...


Agreed LadyNeptune, he came back a couple times asking me to leave, then he said he would leave me his car and uber home (guessing he looked at prices and decided no) but eventually all that doesn't matter just matters what he did in the end which is leave. oh & never text me and ask me if i got back even?!
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If he does reach out to you and wants to get back together its imperative that you let him know his behavior is hurtful and unacceptable, preferably in person not over the phone. If you don't make that known then you are sending him the message that his behavior is fine and he will continue to walk all over you and treat you with disrespect.

Setting boundaries and communicating is so important at the beginning of relationships.
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Posted by DivaCanLeo
Most women should really try to find their soulmate by 27. If they're not hitched by then they'll be doing a lot of settling later on.

I think maybe just stop online dating for awhile and give real guys in the real world a chance for now.


completely untrue. the older I get the higher my standards get.
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Although I do agree that online dating is a wash. Much better to date people you meet irl. Which means never turn down an invite out by friends/coworkers/family. You could meet mr. right at those events, and since he knows people you know you have people who can confirm that he is in fact single. Instead of the married man trolling tinder for side chicks.
Posted by DivaCanLeo
Most women should really try to find their soulmate by 27. If they're not hitched by then they'll be doing a lot of settling later on.

I think maybe just stop online dating for awhile and give real guys in the real world a chance for now.


completely untrue. the older I get the higher my standards get.
Posted by capricorngirl25
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by capricorngirl25
Posted by LadyNeptune
Few questions I have...

1. Are you on birth control?
2. Did you both get tested and share your results?



Hi LadyNeptune

1.Yes I am on birth control and I reassured him that I am very responsible and if I even have any doubts like lets say took pill late or w/e I would get the morning after pill, just to show him how responsible I am about not wanting to get preg.
2. No we didn't, but he explained to me his issue wasn't with unprotected sex, it was more about the ejaculating inside me. But I told him pre-cum contains just as much active sperm as actual sperm so there would be no difference.


Look it's really irresponsible of you both to treetrunk raw without establishing that you are both clean. Please be a responsible adult about sex and get tested with future partners. Please help halt the spread of disease.

As for your story here, he got offended when you stopped him during sex. His ego was bruised and he lashed out. That's only natural most men, and women, would be offended by this. Especially when inebriated. However what you need to question here is if you want to be with someone that prefers to run when things get tough. He bailed on you and left you in another city to fend for yourself and that just isn't cool.

Your asking how YOU can fix things when in all actuality HE should be the one to get on his knees and beg you to take his ass back.


Thank you, I already made an appointment with my doctor for testing last week. And it seems very right what you said about his ego getting bruised and him running. I don't understand how he texted me he would wait for me, then just because he didn't get a text back he left me? your right.
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You handled things badly. However he bailed on you all together. If you cared about someone would you ever just leave them without a means to get home? The answer is obviously no.

It would be a completely different story if he booked you a flight or left you money for a bus...
Posted by aquarius_beauty
I wouldn't mind my SO making more money than me but I don't know if I'd be too comfortable making more than him. Not for my sake but for his. I want someone on my same level in some way or the other, to balance each other out.

I feel like me making more money than him can cause deep insecurity in him. My ex had an issue with it when I was working and he had lost his job.

And if he didn't have an issue, then I'd have an issue with it. I don't like a person who just settles. I like a man to be ambitious and driven (which is why I'm drawn to fire signs). Anyone who settles for a life of mediocrity is not for me.

If however I see he is trying and he is working hard, then I probably wouldn't tell him how much I make. I'd lie about it and never let him see my personal accounts. Just so he won't feel less of a man. I would support him in his endeavors and be encouraging.


Ambition and drive does not always = large income.
Is he gonna ditch you every time you have an argument? That's what I'd be wondering if I was in your shoes...
Posted by capricorngirl25
Posted by LadyNeptune
Few questions I have...

1. Are you on birth control?
2. Did you both get tested and share your results?



Hi LadyNeptune

1.Yes I am on birth control and I reassured him that I am very responsible and if I even have any doubts like lets say took pill late or w/e I would get the morning after pill, just to show him how responsible I am about not wanting to get preg.
2. No we didn't, but he explained to me his issue wasn't with unprotected sex, it was more about the ejaculating inside me. But I told him pre-cum contains just as much active sperm as actual sperm so there would be no difference.
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Look it's really irresponsible of you both to treetrunk raw without establishing that you are both clean. Please be a responsible adult about sex and get tested with future partners. Please help halt the spread of disease.

As for your story here, he got offended when you stopped him during sex. His ego was bruised and he lashed out. That's only natural most men, and women, would be offended by this. Especially when inebriated. However what you need to question here is if you want to be with someone that prefers to run when things get tough. He bailed on you and left you in another city to fend for yourself and that just isn't cool.

Your asking how YOU can fix things when in all actuality HE should be the one to get on his knees and beg you to take his ass back.
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