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The truth as we know it, is the collective opinions, accepted by society, that are in agreement with each other.

IMO
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Libra makes an interesting Mercury. You are logical and see every side and can make very fair judgement .

However I have a hard time deciding what to eat


Some, I think, attempts and/or desires to see more sides of a picture than necessary.
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I think for me, I can relate more with fellow earth mercury than I do with mercury of other signs.
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Posted by pinkbird03
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.


I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.


Haven't read everything but for a cancer to show his family is a pretty big thing. He might have thought that he went too quick too fast. He might be processing things in his mind. It can take time for a cancer to be fully open and emotionally available. Our emotions take time to ignite and there's not much you can do about it apart from being yourself. Give him time but don't let him drag you, if you feel you need an answer ask for it (gently). But I would suggest you don't rush, distract yourself with other things, make sure what you want is clear in your mind. And yes most cancers can be crap at communicating.

I actually had a relationship with an aries for a couple of years. She always complained that I was too slow.. Typical thing would be a) she wants to talk about something going on with us b) I listen c) I respond a week after. It made her go through hell in the beginning but there was nothing I could. I had to let my feelings to settle so I could give her the right answer. With time she got my modus operandi and by the end she knew me better than myself.


Did you tell her that you'd need to a week to get back to her?


No. But we were only in couple mode and sleeping together at the weekends. And too busy during the week. So it wasn't something out of the ordinary to have the next convo a week after. It was hard for me to give a straight answer in matters that concern the heart. It's easier now, I grew up and it takes me less or no time to know what I want.
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Posted by ariesgirl88
Yes my dear. And having a mercury in Pisces is making it even harder for me to communicate my needs. I have difficulty expressing my unhappiness also.
I don't want to be demanding, pushy because i am not certain where i stand too. Sometimes I am direct and most of the times I face this internal struggle on how to articulate my thoughts and feelings. Not sure if it makes sense.

And yes I took that leap of faith when I asked him if we are dating exclusive. I may either 1. Scare him off . Or 2. Get a response I desire. Regardless of the outcome, I think I will have a better idea of how and where to move things.
Keep the faith and positivity for now!


Yeah, I can relate to that also. I have Taurus Mercury and I fluctuate between direct and emphasis on wording, depending on the situation and the person.

He might give you the answer you want to hear, but not the answer you're looking for, because you might be forcing him to decide, before he is ready.



That's if he even likes me enough to give me the answer I want to hear. As far as I know he is someone straight forward too.

You know its like every time we meet up with or without his friends, things are good, then it will always end up with lotsa kissing cuddling and intimacy. But I am not one that take this lightly and casually and as mentioned I have only gotten initmate with my bfs so this whole thing actually feels foreign/wrong to me.

How I wish I can reverse the time and let things progress slower without the physical intimacy aspect cause no doubt I think things have gotten complicated because of that.
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I don't know about that. I've found vagueness creeps in (or just silence) even with the most straight forward water or earth sign, when it's situations that a direct answer (to them) would make them seem like a jerk.

Because of the uncertainty? You have clarity when he's right in front of you. But yeah, probably the intimate part did complicate it on your end ...not sure if it did for him.

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Posted by ariesgirl88
Posted by pinkbird03
It seems like things went downhill right after you met his family and friends. My guess is that they don’t like u too much and that impacted his feelings somewhat. Not entirely though because he keeps talking to u.


I am not sure too. But I know I was pretty quiet and reserved. Met the sister and bffs a few times thereafter too and they seem okay with me. So I really dont know.


Haven't read everything but for a cancer to show his family is a pretty big thing. He might have thought that he went too quick too fast. He might be processing things in his mind. It can take time for a cancer to be fully open and emotionally available. Our emotions take time to ignite and there's not much you can do about it apart from being yourself. Give him time but don't let him drag you, if you feel you need an answer ask for it (gently). But I would suggest you don't rush, distract yourself with other things, make sure what you want is clear in your mind. And yes most cancers can be crap at communicating.

I actually had a relationship with an aries for a couple of years. She always complained that I was too slow.. Typical thing would be a) she wants to talk about something going on with us b) I listen c) I respond a week after. It made her go through hell in the beginning but there was nothing I could. I had to let my feelings to settle so I could give her the right answer. With time she got my modus operandi and by the end she knew me better than myself.
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Did you tell her that you'd need to a week to get back to her?
Posted by ariesgirl88
Yes my dear. And having a mercury in Pisces is making it even harder for me to communicate my needs. I have difficulty expressing my unhappiness also.
I don't want to be demanding, pushy because i am not certain where i stand too. Sometimes I am direct and most of the times I face this internal struggle on how to articulate my thoughts and feelings. Not sure if it makes sense.

And yes I took that leap of faith when I asked him if we are dating exclusive. I may either 1. Scare him off . Or 2. Get a response I desire. Regardless of the outcome, I think I will have a better idea of how and where to move things.
Keep the faith and positivity for now!


Yeah, I can relate to that also. I have Taurus Mercury and I fluctuate between direct and emphasis on wording, depending on the situation and the person.

He might give you the answer you want to hear, but not the answer you're looking for, because you might be forcing him to decide, before he is ready.

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Posted by nikkistar
The very first post from a month ago, made me die laughing, and then the subsequent posts after as well. You literally post and then quote things about Cancer men as if you know them, and you really don't. lol


Don't be such an marker, she's trying to figure this out and she clearly cares for the guy.


Do you even know who the treetrunk I am? Not being an marker, is not in my vocabulary.

Let me be more blunt here, cause I can laugh even more. You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does. Every assumption she has stated about men, and Cancer traits sounds immature and juvenile. It's this goofy ass butter, that girls don't understand, and I'm not gonna sit here and say "aww poor girl".



Thank you so much for your feedback, I really appteciate it. You seem to really understand cancer man. I am sorry if I have come across as assuming, and whatever assumptions I have made about cancer men and all which were untrue were actually bits and pieces of informations which I have read and picked up from all over the internet.

Please believe me that I am really trying to know more about my cancer man and that's the sole reason why I am seeking help from this forum.

I understand what you mean by "You don't do nice things for people, and expect anything in return, she does" I guess I just couldn't help it but to feel disappointed when I was feeling ill and vulnerabe last week.

I am really new to this dating thing. This is actually the 1st guy I have dated other than my 2 ex bfs (both of them were pretty straightforward) That's why I am not responding well to this whole ambiguity. I am having this dilemna in wanting to move things forward and yet I am afraid of getting myself hurt therfore I may seem to be really calculative over who do what, who initiate what and etc.

Thank you once again! Any insights are rrally appreciated
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That, I think, ultimately is the problem with this Sun/Moon/Rising combo. I'm also an Aries Sun with Leo Moon and Cancer Rising. You have certain expectations and/or desire for progress or results, but at the same time, you don't want to come across as pushy or demanding.

Stop putting focus on that. Sometimes, it may be best to just take a leap of faith. The results may surprise you.

IMO

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Posted by LifeOnMars
I'm extremely quiet in real life. Not enigmaitc, rather inherently laconic.
Once in a while I need my verbal release and just talk someone's head off. Whoever happens to be in my field of vision. Be it online or irl. I have the tendency to overshare and put myself in a subservient position due to compulsive self deprecation. I'm an open book. style and presentation are more important than content. I genuinely love words and actively work of expanding my vocabulary. Being able to adequately express myself is essential to my well being. Otherwise I get irritable. I hold myself to very high standards in that regard. I love English more than my native language.


She overshares.




I overshare sometimes too, despite my moon.


I do too. Was joking with cloudy ^^

Hey ram! When is the next mafia that would benefit from our awesome participation?


LOL.

You missed a few while you were away.

There was one organised by @nikkistar with a GoT theme. Townies totally slayed mafia lol


Shiiiiiiit... I love GoT -.- make sure we team up in the next one πŸ˜‚


See what you missed out on, mister?



Im angry at you for not notifying me so that i do not miss it. 🀨🀨😐
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#InnocentAries
Posted by Ram416
Let's talk about Mercury.

"Mercury, the messenger of the gods, is the ruler of Gemini and Virgo. Mercury is the messenger in Astrology as it is in Mythology. It is the planet of day-to-day expression and communication. Mercury’s action is to take things apart and put them back together again. It is an opportunistic planet, decidedly unemotional and curious."

https://cafeastrology.com/mercury.html

So where is your Mercury and how does its placing (sign and house) affect how you deal with your day to day communication with others?

Let me start first:

Mercury Taurus:

"Mercury in Taurus is known for being slow in communication, but why? The answer is that it hates controversies, but love friendships, discipline and reverence more than wars. As a result, the carriers tend to practice total quality management in their words. They don’t exactly spend time looking for elegant words in the dictionary. Their top priority is proper order. They believe that there is always a right way to communicate with people. Even in their writing this is usually visible in the form of grammar and paper format. They can even read it several times before sending it the recipient. Beauty and creativity are the second priority."

http://www.forestforwomen.com/2015/05/mercury-in-taurus-analysis.html


Mercury in 12th house

"An individual with Mercury in the 12th house have introspective, obsessive and private thoughts, they may often be unable to express. This placement can indicate someone with an extremely sensitive mind, and one that is highly influenced by collective currents. Many astrologers believe this is a weak position for Mercury, stating the person feels weak or inferior in some way when communicating. In many ways, it can make life difficult on a strictly mecurial level. However, with Mercury here the imagination is heightened, mental psychic powers deepened, and the individual finds a new level of expression."

http://theastrologyplacemembership.com/2014/02/mercury-in-the-12th-house/


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Mercury in 11th house

"Those with mercury in the 11th house display a mind that is part of the group collective; they are part of the mental matrix and often their intellect is expressed through groups, organisations, and associations. A powerful force is ignited when people work together creating a collective pulse, collective synergy, and unity of thought. The individual is plugged into the group-mind and with Mercury here this allows the individual to enlarge their scope of understanding."

http://theastrologyplacemembership.com/2014/03/mercury-in-11th-house/

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Posted by LifeOnMars
I'm extremely quiet in real life. Not enigmaitc, rather inherently laconic.
Once in a while I need my verbal release and just talk someone's head off. Whoever happens to be in my field of vision. Be it online or irl. I have the tendency to overshare and put myself in a subservient position due to compulsive self deprecation. I'm an open book. style and presentation are more important than content. I genuinely love words and actively work of expanding my vocabulary. Being able to adequately express myself is essential to my well being. Otherwise I get irritable. I hold myself to very high standards in that regard. I love English more than my native language.


She overshares.




I overshare sometimes too, despite my moon.


I do too. Was joking with cloudy ^^

Hey ram! When is the next mafia that would benefit from our awesome participation?


LOL.

You missed a few while you were away.

There was one organised by @nikkistar with a GoT theme. Townies totally slayed mafia lol


Shiiiiiiit... I love GoT -.- make sure we team up in the next one πŸ˜‚
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See what you missed out on, mister?

Posted by SofiaV87
I'm going on a date with a:
Sun Virgo
Moon cap
Mercury Leo
Venus Virgo
Mars Aquarius

How's that look with my :
Sun aries
Moon Pisces
Mercury Pisces
Venus Aqua
Mars Leeb


He might be more aloof than you. Virgo Sun, Cap Moon, and Virgo Venus I think are like good at poker-faces.
Dominants Calculator | Results

ARIES β™ˆ 14 (15.5% ) | #1

TAURUS ♉ 12 (13.3% ) | #2

GEMINI β™Š 8 (8.88% ) | #5

CANCER β™‹ 8 (8.88% ) | #5

LEO β™Œ 11 (12.2% ) | #3

VIRGO ♍ 3 (3.33% ) | #10

LIBRA β™Ž 6 (6.66% ) | #9

SCORPIO ♏ 2 (2.22% ) | #11

SAGITTARIUS ♐ 0 (0% ) | #12

CAPRICORN β™‘ 11 (12.2% ) | #3

AQUARIUS β™’ 8 (8.88% ) | #5

PISCES β™“ 7 (7.77% ) | #8



ELEMENTS:

FIRE 26 (27.9% ) | #1

EARTH 24 (25.8% ) | #3

AIR 26 (27.9% ) | #1

WATER 17 (18.2% ) | #4


I dunno lol. The Elements section I don't think I agree with though. Fire and Earth might flip flop between 1st and 2nd, but definitely air shouldn't be tied for first lol.

@LifeOnMars

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Posted by mission
So this Aquarius girl I've had a crush on and off with, for several years, has took a liking to me and asked me out (her Venus is in Aries, go figure! My Venus is in Taurus.) I'm not looking to jump into anything quickly, and I'm pretty cautious as far as developing relationships go. I'm wondering if there's any behavior I should recognize that I wouldn't be familiar with already.

Also, her moon is in Cancer, mine is in Capricorn. Maybe not the best mix?


I'd throw expectations out the window. Cuz it may lead you to see things through coloured lenses.
Posted by ariesbee
I know many Pisceans who lack integrity and/or indulge in many vices. My uncle is the worst, cheats on his wife (currently with his wife's best friend) and flies to Vietnam to hook up with prostitutes. All Pisces girls I know are wild and love to party and drink, my cousin is the same. Works at a club in Vegas and got her breasts done. Drinks heavily. Co worker is attention seeking and sulks when it is not directed towards her.

Are most Pisceans drawn to the forbidden and licentious? It's just many similarities I've seen with those who fall under this sun.


Fellow Aries, there are always bad apples in every sign.
@LibraJackson

Also, it's no problem for you to write it here. But I think the most person who wants to know the most, of your thoughts, is the Aries.
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Posted by Rozaeon
I don't mean to be rude but you're starting to get really annoying with this story
Grow up and take some time to think instead of panicking and posting here everytime something is bothering you


This is why of dealing with things. You are not being, you are entitled to your own opinions.
Like I'm entitled to vent here, I obviously like this site and I love getting feedbacks because I'm an overthinking for sure. I know I can be annoying, If it annoys you personally you don't need to read it just ignore it.

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I understand overthinking. I'm an overthinker too. But this is why you should put things out there, instead of just letting it sitting inside your mind.

Overanalyzing isn't always logical. Sometimes you lose the big picture because you were focusing too much on the small details, details that ultimately may not matter in the grand scheme of things.

Putting it out there also helps letting the other person know what's bothering you. If the other person cared, they'll take steps to avoid letting it happen again.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
That's not even 30 yet.

How does one go about convincing a cap to be a fwb

Don't worry I'll probably fail in this endeavor too

I take Ls when it comes to sex romance love


A Cap friend had asked me to a fwb. I didn't do anything lol. But I do think they ought to like you to some extent for them to get into an fwb with you.