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Thank you all for the replies!

Further feedback is most welcome and appreciated!
Posted by -Flo-
Posted by sakuraflowers
Posted by -Flo-
There's not much you can do when I'm in my introverted moods, which is 80% of the time. I'll come out when I'm ready but if I invite anyone, it's the person who I trust.


So if people want to get you out, how do people tell when it's that 20% ?


You're better off getting to know me when I'm already out of hiding. When I'm fine with getting to know new people.. events, meets up, hang outs with friends, etc. once we start talking I'll know if you're genuine person, someone I would want to include into my small circle. You want to build that trust and it may take weeks to months. If I like you enough I'll want you to be around a lot more. Coax them into doing things y'all can both enjoy. If not, I'll keep our convo light and move forward.

The thing with introverts is that we go about choosing friends, not the other way around.. and I know that sounds bad but it's hard enough that we have only so much energy to spread to loved ones and than have to do that with new people as well. I find it draining.
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So that 20% means when you are out at events, meets ups, or hanging out with friends? Are you usually the ones initiating it with the people you are close to?

"If I like you enough I'll want you to be around a lot more. Coax them into doing things y'all can both enjoy. If not, I'll keep our convo light and move forward. "
--->Does it mean that if the conversation continues to be light and kept as light, you are not inclined to want that person around? I'm sorry if I misunderstood that.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Introverts are just as needy for attention as extroverts. Even more so. It's just a different way of showing it


How do they show it?
Posted by TheTinMan
Posted by sakuraflowers
Posted by TheTinMan
my advice personally (and I'm one of the biggest introverts to ever grace this planet) is to not come over to us too strong. like don't be all happy and excited like "oh heyyy how are you". you'll wound up scaring us off that way. make a smooth approach, maybe grab a chair, sit back relax and say hi or whatever. and we can talk from there on. but with me, I can't speak for other introverts, you'll have to initiate first. it's not easy to befriend us like that because most introverts do have trust issues.


I should seem less happy when I try to talk to them? Poker face?



no you can be happy with us. in fact, we'd rather be with happy people than be anywhere near mean moody and grouchy people. just don't come on too strong with it and express it in a loud manner. especially when there's lots of other people around. we get put off that way.

in conclusion I'm gonna leave you with a happy song that'll sure to make you happy.






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Thank you!
Posted by Effervescent
Make them comfortable without being overbearing. Be understanding without being intrusive. Be funny and goofy without trying hard, get them laughing, making someone laugh and feel comfortable is like opening the gate to their heart.


Would it seem intrusive to ask them questions about themselves (not overly personal questions I mean)?
Posted by YasmineMin
Just be kind and friendly. I dont think trying to be friends with an introvert is that much different from an extrovert, however I dont care to befriend the cool popular type of people. I prefer to hang out with underdog or people others deem as "geeky" I just usually feel much more comfortable around people like that. My past friends have usually been more talkative than me but definitely not up there on the social ranking like me. However, getting an introvert to open up to you, that's a whole different story. Depends on the person.


I prefer the underdogs too.

I'm not so much as trying to get introverts to open up. My Leo friend keeps at least 50% of things of him and his life to himself only. So I'm totally okay with being friends with someone and not knowing a whole lot about them, if that's what they want.

I struggle a bit with conversation though because I'm not really all that talkative myself.
Posted by PVJamz
Posted by sakuraflowers
Hypothetical question...and lets say there are two scenarios:
- someone I see in real life
- someone I only know online

I am an ambivert so I am not all that talkative myself. If you are an introvert and someone wants to at least be your friend, what would you advise?

Thank you in advance!


Introverts are talkative with people we like. It's not hard to connect if we like you. In person just talk to us. I'm not fond of small talk, but if you want to have a real conversation I'm open to it. Online... I mean there are texting apps and pms. Take your pick.
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By real conversation, do you mean any topic of depth? Or particular topics?
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Don't force yourself on an introvert. Give them space.



Don't force conversations. Just let things flow naturally.



I hate when people try to have small talk/forced conversation with me. I just say "mhm" and look away or I completely ignore them to their face.



Having things in common helps. Like if we both don't understand what's going on and you look over at me making a face that reflects exactly how I feel, I'll probably laugh and give you the same face back. That sort of thing.


What if it's like you were in the same class as them, but when the class ended, you don't know if you have anything else in common with them? I understand introverts don't really like to talk about themselves...so is asking about their hobbies the way to go?
Posted by -Flo-
There's not much you can do when I'm in my introverted moods, which is 80% of the time. I'll come out when I'm ready but if I invite anyone, it's the person who I trust.


So if people want to get you out, how do people tell when it's that 20% ?
Posted by 5TwentyOne
The way I used to connect with a very quiet, introverted Cancer I know was to talk. I talked, joked, and complimented; compliments were indirect, of course. And I listened at times, after getting her into the coversation.

Introverts are people too. They want to connect and be noticed, just the same as extroverts...usually. There are different modalities.


Did you talk about everything? Or particular subjects?
Posted by Brosmosis
Send him a PM.

What's his username?


It's really more of a general question than a question in regards to specific people.
Posted by GlaringTruth
Why is an Asian woman asking this question? You aren't an ambivert. You are an introvert.


I am both. I like talking to people, but only to a certain extent.
Posted by tiziani
Feed them.

If they have pets in the household, feed their pets.

That's what I did in Italy with the landlady and her dog. When I left they texted me to come back anytime.


A lot of people probably wouldn't say no to Italian food.
Posted by TheTinMan
my advice personally (and I'm one of the biggest introverts to ever grace this planet) is to not come over to us too strong. like don't be all happy and excited like "oh heyyy how are you". you'll wound up scaring us off that way. make a smooth approach, maybe grab a chair, sit back relax and say hi or whatever. and we can talk from there on. but with me, I can't speak for other introverts, you'll have to initiate first. it's not easy to befriend us like that because most introverts do have trust issues.


I should seem less happy when I try to talk to them? Poker face?
Posted by DwellingOnMove
I think they invented no-talk dating for this case. If you can be silent with a person and still sit with him/her at the same table, then you are giving good vibes to them.


I can definitely be silent. It's the talking part that I struggle with, given that I'm not really talkative myself.
Posted by Soul
Imo be all the things they lack or need. This is the case for meaning something to most people. Anyone can enter someones life by just being a mortal human. If you want to be in their thoughts and dreams however you need to have something they need or admire.


How would I know what they lack or need or admire?
Hypothetical question...and lets say there are two scenarios:
- someone I see in real life
- someone I only know online

I am an ambivert so I am not all that talkative myself. If you are an introvert and someone wants to at least be your friend, what would you advise?

Thank you in advance!
Which room?
Posted by OrGasMe
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Posted by tiziani
So I can't throw unbought cans?? Who made these rules?


Maybe the woman who would be at the entrance of the supermarket, running after you ...