You're about the best scorpio we got in my honest opinion. And that nelson dude. I don't care how much hate you get for your sexual activities on here. Although sometimes I wish you keep that to yourself to avoid all the negativities from trollers. Yall come off as the quiet keep to yourselves types and that's how I like em. In real life scorpio women is a hit or miss for me.
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Nelson is/was kind of clingy, but I know his pisces moon couldn’t help it. He did have his funny moments though, whether he intended to or not.
I guess I do keep to myself; I love when people on here (and IRL) make theories/assumptions about me, instead of asking me directly anything to confirm/deny their assumptions. I also love when women make fun of me (or drag me) when they think I won’t see (or maybe they do think I’ll see), and I just stay in the shadows knowing they are just showing insecurity. Both of these are things I learned from my gemini boyfriend 💛 If you’ve kept track of my history here, I used to be sensitive and defensive. Now I’m blossoming into my inner gemini 🙃
1) What are your preferences and why? 2) With regards an emotional or perhaps spiritual connection - does one date or five really make the difference? 3) Most controversial question: have you withheld sex because you had body issues or thought you weren't good at sex, but really wanted to fuck him\her on a first date?
Bonus Question: have you ever courted and found out the man\woman was bad at sex, did you end it?
1) I usually put out the first date; I’ve told myself (and my dates) that I won’t, and usually end up doing it 🤦♀️ Only time I haven’t was with an effeminate man (met him online, kind of noticed he was metrosexual in his pics but didn’t know just how effeminate he was until it was too late 😬 Never made that mistake again 😂😂). 2) Emotionally, I’m more connected to someone when I first start seeing them. But due to my limited attention span and my propensity to get bored, that emotional connection will fizzle unless there’s money feeding it. Spiritually I feel tinges forever, but I think that’s just muscle memory. 3) I broke my wrist a few years ago and had to wear a cast up to my shoulder. That was the only time I was insecure and withheld sex. It didn’t help that my bff jokingly told me to use the cast for stability in doggy style 😂😂🤦♀️ Just super embarrassing for me; I didn’t want to be someone’s bucket list disabled hook-up. 4) I get off more on how hot I am and how my body is making the other person feel, so I wouldn’t really say I care if someone is bad at sex or not because I’m turned on by myself and do my own thing. But I have ended things with men who had/have pencil dicks; my coochie tight but I still like some girth to give it a stretch (not too much girth though either), it’s like a deep tissue massage: to much pressure is painful, but the right amount of pressure is pure ecstasy 🤤
Posted by LadyNeptune I mean that's not really how it works. They can identify you through dental records, blood type, prints etc. And if you see interviews or talk to anyone who has a loved one who is missing it is pure hell. No closure. Constant worry. Better to know.
Body count has very little to do with risk. People who are married and only having sex with their spouse for decades get stds cause their partner is stepping out on them. Very common. More common than you would think. Well you do already know because... thread.
Now body count without protection, its only a matter of time. Not a what if, but when.
Your much more trusting than me. People lie. Especially when they have very little to loose (the trust and good opinion of a fling) and much to gain (selfish pleasure).
And even if they are honest HIV only shows up on the test 3months after infection. So its even still risky to accept a clean bill at face value.
This is why body language and mannerisms factor in. If something seems off about someone’s body language or facial expression when I ask these questions, then I already have it in my mind to use a condom. But in general I try to avoid dishonest people from the jump so before I even ask THOSE questions, if someone seems disingenuous (about things as mundane as their daily life, job, etc) I won’t even bother exploring sex with them (exceptions are made for the right price 🤑 but I proceed with caution).
Posted by LadyNeptune No I wasn't thinking a ton. It only takes one. Bareback is really rolling the dice with your health and going off of vibes seems much too risky. Maybe add std test/clean bill proof as one of your prerequisites. Life is short but the herpes is forever.
Same with the random creeps thing. It only takes one. And my advice to you is the same I would give to someone casually dating. Make sure someone knows who you are meeting and where. The only thing worse than having a loved one murdered is not being able to find the remains to have closure. Dark I know, but this is our reality.
I’ve actually thought of this (a lot, because I’ve been through some fucked up shit) and I wouldn’t want my remains to be found anyways. I’d rather have my family live on with hope that I’m somewhere out there alive, living a new life, than face the reality of my death. That’s also why I’ve decided to not get any tattoos, in the event that my face is so badly maimed that they’d have to post pictures of my tattoos on the news in hopes someone would recognize who I am. I’d rather just be a Jane Doe.
Just a little glimpse into my awareness of what I’m doing. I know full well the risks, and that helps me make decisions. I still haven’t caught an sti/std, even at the peak of my career (though I was using condoms a shit ton more back then). I still have a higher than average body count per year, and still haven’t caught anything, so I’d say my decision making is pretty solid. Fwiw I do ask my partners when the last time they got tested was, how many partners they’ve had since then, etc. All part of my decision making process.
Posted by Maxian Didn't follow this thread fully, but did you say you're polyamorous once before?
I'm polyamorous and I need consent from the partner of the person that I'm about to see, just for my own sanity. It's also not really polyamory if not all parties in the setup/dynamic are consenting. Cause you're kinda taking the 'amour' out of the poly-amory.
No dig, just wondering what your thoughts are. How long have you been living polyamorous and what is your setup? V? KTP? Something else.
Cool there's more people from DXP living the polyglamorous life!
I’m in an open relationship. Don’t really like the term “polyamorous” because “amor” implies love and love isn’t my goal with secondary partners (though my bf does need an emotional connection before sleeping with someone). I guess our setup is mostly parallel. Looking to get into swinging as well but most of the people on the scene in our area are older.