Hmm. I??m madly in love with an Aries and I??m a Libra. We are hot like fire then we are light as a feather the next. I understand EXACTLY how you feel when you say you are unsure of where you stand sometimes, I have this same issue sometimes with my Aries. However when I do have those feelings I??m careful of how I bring it up so as not to come off insecure to him, which is a huge turnoff to Aries. They like strong, independent, SMART and sexy girly girls. However they know what they are doing and they know what they are supposed to do too, the problem or question is do they ???want?? to or do they ???care enough?? to do it. If they aren??t doing it, chances are they don??t have the time or something else is much more important to them at the moment, and that doesn??t necessarily mean a person, it can be something they are trying to accomplish or do.
When I ask my Aries how he??s feeling about me, I start off by telling him how I feel about him and us and the progress we??ve made. I first let him know what I appreciate about him and how I understand him. THEN I let him have it. I start telling him, ???however?? you sometimes make me feel like this??_or I??m not sure what to do or what to think when you do that??_ When we have these talks, he seems genuine about wanting me to understand him so he??s very understanding and careful with my feelings when we have these convos. We have them every once blue moon. However the last time we had it, was when we were alone. And he tried to say, ???We already talked about this, why do you want to continue talking about it?? And I told his azz ???Because it??s not like I see you every day, heck I can go a week or a couple days without hearing from you and I don??t trip, but when we are alone, YES I need to know where I stand so far, I??m human with human feelings and its my job to make sure they don??t get crushed.?? He shut his trap. Lol. Be strong and be fearless with your Aries. Don??t be afraid of losing him. When a man really loves you are care about you, you may make him walk off, but he will be back they never go far its up to you
Oh and another thing, the reason things are always on his terms is because you are always available to him. If you start making your schedule just as busy and learn the art of telling him ???no?? sometimes, he will fight harder and may even chase. Aries like to chase, especially if they feel you are worth it. And you are??_aren??t you??
I did the same thing with a leo. Except I didn't sleep with him on the first night. I made him wait 3 months. Not on purpose but because he stayed two hrs away as well. I'm chicken and couldn't do it the FIRST night. He was so damn fine I wanted him for more than a one night stand, hell I was prepared to have long distance relationship, only one problem we barley spoke when he went home. That was a red flag in my eyes, and I knew I had to make a choice that if I went there with him I'd have to look at it as a one time thing and keep it moving. So long story short, we went there and it was good but the next day he was shocked to see me packing my stuff and dipping. He even seemed like he had a lil attitude. I was honestly afraid of falling for him and looking like a fool. I later found out that he actually liked me and HE tried to reach out to ME, but he was so suttle that I didn??t catch on. But he did it within a week. Not two yrs. It would be two yrs now actually, and Im friends with him on facebook and twitter. He plays professional football now, if he reached out to me now after 2 yrs, I'm not sure how I'd react according to my sign. I'd be polite but I wouldn't try to have sex again because I don??t know where his thangy has been and I was on some "living in the moment" type of thing last time we talked. I have to be in the mood for a one night thing which has only happen 2 times in my life so far, so If he wants it again, he'll have to put in work and come correct. I'm not hurting if we never do again. I feel sorry for guys I really truly like, because those are the ones I make wait the longest.
Girl if it's been two yrs and he hasn't contacted you, he probably has a girlfriend, or he took the situation for what it was "a night of great sex with a young girl" and kept it moving. Men don??t think that far into space about these type of things. Women come across a man that can put it down in the bedroom and want to hold on for dear life because its hard to come by. Men on the other hand just need it to be tight, and for her not to be stiff and to be clean and wet. The clean part maybe hard to come by considering society is so nasty, but he can protect himself with a rubber. Anywho I still say they have it easier.
As far as reaching out to him goes, I'd say it's too late. I would friend him on Facebook but I wouldn't message him. If I did I wouldn??t tell him I want to see him, because that his job. I'd friend him and say something on his wall like "Hey" with a smiley face and let HIM hit up MY inbox. If he doesn??t then oh well. You were supposed to be the prize not him. So if he wants to unwrap the gift again let him be a MAN and say so. Personally I'd say he doesn't want it, not bad enough like you anyway because if he did as a Libra he would've found a cleaver way to reach out to you himself without seeming to into you or crazy.
HECK YEA THEY DO!! I was with a sagg for a yr and the 2nd day I saw him I was eating dinner with his family, which turned into me going over there every day after church to eat with his family. The 4th day we saw each other, he asked to make it official, and things sky rocketed from there. About a month in he told me he loved me. 6 months after that we were apartment shopping o_0. It felt right then, but I have to admit in the beginning he was in deeper than I was. However I'm a Libra, so I used to tell him I love him to, because I didn't want him to feel embarrassed if I didn??t say it back. But I didn't truly fall in love until about 4 months into the relationship.
Saggs tend to fall hard and quick, and yes it??s a rollercoaster ride that you never want to get off of. Being in a relationship with a sagg is like being in an amusement park all day long. Their life is always moving, and fun and you just never get bored. However I feel sorry for the poor sensitive cancer, this will not last. Cancer will soon learn that the Sagg sharp blunt tongue is a razor that they will not want to endure for the long hall. Cancer is all feelings and emotions completely, and shuts down into their shell when wronged. Sagg gets impatient and thinks this type of behavior is childish and they will not baby cancer. They will say sorry, and expect to move forward with or without cancer. Saggs don??t stay long, unless you can keep up. They are always looking for the next better or big thing, which keeps their partner always feeling like they are in a worldwide competition. Truth is, until sagg's mature its best you don??t fall in love with them, or you will be sorry.
But then again you ARE an Aries. Your going to say what you want regardless. lol, whether it sounds good, bad, rude, or sweet. If its the truth Aries is going to say it. Not saying that you are like this in particular, but most Aries i know do. You and I are night day. Two complete opposite poles of the zodiac. So i wouldn't expect you to understand what i meant, no offense. Blunt people, or people who are blantely upfront about everything normally dont.
Also I want to add, that by being a Libra I often have the same issues as Gems where people may take my words and run with them. As you may know Libra's are guilty charmers. Saying and doing the most to charm the pants off the one they like. Or you may not even be someone they truly like in an emotional way, they may make you feel its possible one day, when in reality you probably have zero chance with them in a romantic way. Yet they enjoy your company or whatever else it is that you bring to the table. With a libra, I always advise to NEVER go off of what we say, always pay attention to what we do. Same as gems apparently. Wow.
I guess I'm saying all this because it seems gems are just like us. Only they flip flop on a daily, where as a Libra can flip flop within the hour. One minute we could be feeling on top of the world, and the next we could think about something, or someone, or something small that we don??t like or rubbed us the wrong way could happen, and bam! Our whole demeanor and attitude is different at that moment. No telling how long it will last. If it's a true Leeb we are definitely quick and determined to be happy again hopefully within the next hour again (see what I mean.lol). I'm excited about this gem. Maybe we can help each other, because I seek balance all the damn time, and it drives me banana's to where I don??t want to be bothered until I find it in my life or at least within myself some days. My only problem is this damn Pisces moon, thats where the falling too hard too fast I mentioned earlier, comes from. But at least I know it's there so I can control it. I have more Libra and Leo in my chart. So fear of having a bruised ego if he doesn't keeps me from calling him and smothering him too much. I'd much rather he do it for me instead. Lol.
Wow. Reading up on Gems, is kind of bitter sweet. I just recently started something with a gem and he sounds??_well??_just like me. I'm a Libra.
I like attention from my partner, but not too much. I'll never admit it but I enjoy missing my partner, gotta admit that once I finally get a call or text im like AHHhhh??_lol. Its like that with my gem. He's in a different state. So right now all we have is communication. I'm going back to visit in September for my birthday and I think we are both just bursting to see one another. Anyway, I don??t call him. He always calls me. I don??t text him unless he text me. Its something my friends and fam having me trying with him because they all know I really like him but I have a problem with falling to fast, and falling for a guy that stays out of state before truly knowing him would NOT be a good look at all. Plus I have a tendency to be too sweet. So it seems to be working on him though.
Gemini's are very open and blunt if you ask me. You just have to ask the right questions and listen. Hear what they SAY, not hear what YOU want to hear and run with it. My sister whom is an Aries was married to a Gemini for yrs. He drove her nuts when they were younger because he honestly didn't know what he TRULY wanted out of life, he knew he wanted her but she began to smoother him, which caused him to push further and further away. So now she's coaching me to be as carefree, and fun and seemingly dethatched as possible with this gem. He has even openly told me that he will cut a girl off, if he finds out she likes him more than he likes her. He says he doesn??t like wasting people 's time. So never let him know you're head over heels, even if he says it to you. Just say "aww, babe. You're so sweet. I like you too." And leave it!
HOWEVER I'MA BEAST WHEN IT COMES TO FALLING OUT OF LOVE AND THE PERSON THAT WAITED TO LONG TO LOVE ME BACK THE WAY I DESERVE, LETS JUST SAY THE NEXT WOMAN AFTER ME WILL BE CHERISHED MORE QUICKLY. BECAUSE WHEN IM DONE IM DONE, BUT I WISH YOU WELL WITH THE OTHERS DEAR. LOL
@shestarrAries You are very welcome! lol. And I'm glad i could shed some light for you. I know my libra fellas can be a handful on you gals, i see the threads come in like hott cakes, everyone wants to know what makes them tick. The only thing i suggest to my readers is that you remember every man is different and studying his sign down to the last sentence in every zodiac book you can find wont get you into his heart. Its a sheer guide, a very sheer guide. You still have to be yourself to make sure he like you for YOU, not the person all of us on this thread told you to act like. My post are to help you understand why he mostly likely said something, did something confusing, and most of all that darn dissapearing that ALL libra's simply cant seem to help doing.
Anyway, i know i'm babbling, and you probably already know all of what i said. So thanks again, and if you need somewhere to post about your crazy leeb, here's the place. lol.
@Redberry Thanks so much for your last post, it really helped me out alot. Especially when everyone is so negative when it comes to my aries and me. I only talk to two people about him and they are both more fed up than i am. Problem is i love my aries. We've liked each other long before we even fully knew each other, and at one point we were just cool as hell with one another, so you are right it is hard to walk away. Plus like i said he and i have mutual cousin through marriage so he's always around. As a Libra i can dissapear and come back after months refreshed and able to diss someone i felt didn't care enough. But with this Aries, he's always around at family gatherings, my favorite aunts house, it like ugh! Its bitter sweet seeing him when i want more out of him and trying to let go of him. Crazy thing is he still accuses me of dissapearing. I want to shout, oh you haven't seen me truly dissapear! lol.
Anyway, he and i are okay. I still want to let go and get my emotions in check so i dont start to hate him. I want to continue to "have" alot of love for him, but i dont want to be "in" love with him anymore. Being in love by youself is no fun, and it causes you to dislike the other person for not seeing your worth. I dont want that for us. I genuinely have a soft spot in the pits of my heart for this dude, and if nothing else i want to be his friend. Thats how much i love him.
@Redberry, Aww thanks. It's funny that people on this website can see what a treasure I must be just from my words alone, however my Aries unfortunately is 21yrs old technically and 18 yrs old brain wise if you know what I mean. So he doesn't appreciate me, I'm upset and sad most days for myself because I feel I shouldn't have let him in the first place. It took him yrs to get my attention now that he has it, he takes advantage I think. It hurts because I have to see him all the time, because our fams are connected the marriage, so to try to save face I smile anyway and still try to live life. He knows how I should be loved, but he's not ready and doesn't care enough to step up. So just last night, I cussed him out about being all talk and no action, and told him I know he doesn't hear me right now because I keep letting him in, but he can bet that will change sooner than he thinks.
To everyone else thanks for reading, and keep me posted ??_
"Maybe cause he had said he's done with relationships. He just got out of a 2 year rels in January. And another, I'm not his type." Thanks girl so much! I enjoy helping you ladies I may not have problems with Libra men because I understand them, but the other men of the zodiac sure do give me problems. Like the Fiery Aries that has won my heart.
Okay minus everything else you typed, this right here is a problem. I don??t know what the rest of your post says, and frankly it doesn't matter until he changes mind sets about you, which will have to happen naturally. When I say naturally that means no fishing the net trying to change yourself to fit his needs and wants, it will only make things worse, and you will notice a change in his behavior the moment you go back to being yourself, which can mean a very unhappy and untruthful bond between you two in the end. Time will be wasted on both sides. I suggest you keep things the way they are. Continue to be yourself. For him to say you're not his type, flat out his mouth is a huge red flag that this Libra see's you as a home girl, a friend and nothing more.
However, time does change some people, and with a friendship first anything can happen, but trust me you want this man or any man for that matter to fall for the real you. I had to learn that the hard way. If you get on these zodiac sites and ask all the little tricks to get a man to fall especially judging by his sign, he may fall for tricks and but not you the real you, and it will show once things get serious. I'm in love with an Aries, and we couldn't be more different, but sort of the same. We are like night and day, but I love it! It keeps it interesting, I'm sure I drive him nuts with my hot and cold moments, but still he chases. Which brings me to @Iefness lol.
SourPatchSag: You are a sagg and he is a libra. 2 words fire+air =FIREWORKS!! From start to finish might I add. Think about it, what happens when air hits fire, the flames get bigger.
The trick is how to keep those flames, which these two signs have no problem in doing so once the two of you have a mutual understanding and common ground on where the relationship stands, and where it's headed. If you have two different views then you will always bump heads, and your libra will often disappear, because they dislike the unbalance of emotions and feelings. He stays after you because you are a challenge to him You give him just enough. However being a challenge and toying with someone's emotions are two different things. Be careful not to take part in the 2nd one (toying with emotions). Libra's have a problem with giving the benefit of the doubt even when the obvious is staring them in the face because they love or care about the person just that much. However, they are smart, and once they are sure that they've been absolutely fair and giving you a chance to get with the program, and you don??t, then you will be sorry. He will beat you at your own flighty nature because his will come natural as being an air sign. It will not be a game, it will be Libra letting go, and no longer caring, and when we don??t care we can be named some of the cruelest people, but we honestly wouldn't see it that way because we would feel like we gave you a shot is our fault your time ran out? No.
I would suggest you have a sit down with him, asking him his intentions and what he wants, that way you get a chance to see if the two of you have the same plans for the relationship an no ones gets left up in the air. Feel me? A chill session with a funny movie to lighten the mood, lots of food, and even a bottle of wine, nothing too over the top because for some reason when a libra senses that they are about to talk about relationships or love, they tend to go Hollywood telling a person what they THINK the person wants to hear, instead of just being honest like you, the sagg. But by you being a sagg I'm sure you will see right through it. You are blunt by nature, so naturally you should be able to tell when someone is being blunt and honest right back, or if they are feeding you bull. When you think he's about to go Hollywood, call him out on it and ask him. So keep the mood comfortable, and soothing.
Libra Chameleon: YES! I hate to curse people out, but trust that I WILL. However if I curse you out then I have no intentions on talking to you after it. I don??t like people pulling me out of my character like that. Its not lady like. Unlike my Leo friend, if she comes out of her character on a man she will blame him and say he deserved it. Personally I don??t think you should give a man or anyone THAT much power to make you THAT angry. Cursing and flipping out doesn??t get you heard anyway from someone that does it all the time. I rarely do it, that??s why when I DO go off, people are shocked and are all ears. I be fed up.
I'm glad to see your taking it so well, but try not to read too much into his flighty nature. Its just the air in his chart. He's most likely off to balance other area's in his life that have nothing to do with you. If you are gorgeous, fun, and funny (is a plus) and you smelled great, held good convo then he will be back I can assure you that. Just as hard as it maybe try to follow his lead and not pop off on him. Use his disappearing spells as time for yourself. Use them to your advantage. If he backs off, its okay to tug a little in a sweet flirty way, but if you sense you are doing too much chances are that you ARE, and you need to take two steps back. Sounds like you and him are too early in the game. However, in the beginning a libra is at their best, turning on every charm switch they own in all area's romance, conversation, looks, and even the physical but somehow still coming off as a complete gentlemen, just a really huge flirt.
Not too worry girl. Just remember unless this man SAYS you??re his, you better believe you have A LOT of competition. By the way, a libra will never admit it but we need thinking space, and breathing room, so give us just enough to keep us peaked but never too much to make us run. If you get him to say he loves you and he's pulling all the stops and as a woman you know what I mean, thats when a men leaves no doubt in your brain that he's crazy in love and Tyra Banks could walk by and he'd only have eyes for you, then you can kick up your feet and watch the fireworks because a libra man in love is like watching a romance movie in 3D.
Lol. Sorry if it comes off as if I'm taking up for my male leebs. Lol. That??s not the case. I'm speaking in general, and throwing my thoughts out there. I feel you 100% though on the double standard thing. My Aries tried to swing the bull on me about him talking to a girl he used to date and have sex with and tried to cover it by saying they'd been friends since childhood, but he would never wife her, and they don??t look at each other like that anymore and that they both decided they are way better off as friends. I looked him dead in the eye and said okay cool then, because I have guy friend whom I've been friends with for 11 yrs, we crossed the line once sexually but we decided the same thing, so its cool if he calls my phone from time to time right? He looked like if he could kill me with his eyes he would've at that moment. Then he proceeded to tell me how what I said was different. I rolled my eyes, and bluntly said "Yeah, I thought so." But SEE, that??s my point. What you are talking about is NOT just libras. All men lie and do that bull crap. Its up to us women to accept it or not, or check em. If you got a problem with your Libra lying then check his azz, or DUMP him. If he loves you then all those lies will bite him in the azz anyway when he truly needs you to believe him. Simple as that.
Hmmm, for me it's Aries and Sagg so far. I attract a lot of leo's but just like the OP I can never get off the ground with them, I find they desire way more attention than I generally like to give. I mean I don??t mind showering my partner with attention overtime but, Leo's wants it upfront. I'm not about hover over you after one date, get real.LOL.
My most deepest connections have been with Sagg men and Aries men though. Sagg is fun and exciting and intense one minute then cool as summer breeze the next. Life just seems to always be sunny in their world. As a libra that disdains the negative, a person that is always sunny gets an A+ in my book any day. However they seem to have a hard time settling down. Notorious cheaters. Sorry. At least all the ones I've known. Some sagg friends I have, acquaintances, all cheat. I'm like dude really? Just break up, take a break do your thang then go back. You're not married, so why cheat?
With the Aries men, its fire passion and yes fun. The only thing I don??t like with them, is they come off self-centered. It seems if it's not about them, then they don??t care. I'm sure you know that??s a problem in any relationship. They make decision based off of what will benefit them, which is cool, but when building a relationship you want to make a decision that??s best for BOTH people. That??s when I see Aries has a "every man/woman for themselves" type of attitude. But overall I like this sign.