I think the problem is with me, not my partners. Being a Cancerian, I long to be partnered in a stable relationship. BUT having my venus in Gemini also makes me want to be free to flirt and have fun with whom ever I want, and I do get bored easily. I'm forever in this battle between wanting commitment and stability as well as freedom and fun. It's quite frustrating.
My crush has communicated on a few occasions when he's struggling with depression or stress. My response is to ask if there's anything I can do for him. He always says he doesn't know. Then I tell him I'm happy to listen if he wants to talk about anything. He never does. Perhaps I'm not saying what I should. Is there a better way to communicate with a Gem who's struggling? It's hard for me to understand why he'd tell me if he doesn't want me to help in some way. How would you Gems recommend I respond when he communicates his struggles?
We've known each other for 3 years. He's a musician, and I go to see him perform. He was attracted to me the first time he saw me and he immediately tried to pursue me for a hookup and sexting. I told him I wasn't interested in that, though. Didn't stop him from trying, haha. I got into a relationship, and while I was with my now-ex-fiance, the Gem would say things like "I should've dated you when I had the chance." Well now I'm single again, and since then the Gem and I have gotten a *little* more intimate. By that I mean we shared our first few kisses (last time I saw him he held me and kissed me on my forehead - daww!), I have most of his attention when I go see him perform - even when a hot chick is twerking on him, haha; he started holding my hand when walking me to my car after a show, and he's brought up hanging out a few times, so some things he does makes me think maybe he's digging me too, but like someone said in response to my original post, even though we talk almost daily, he hasn't tried to get to know me (ask anything about me other than how I am and what I'm up to) and like I said, our convos mostly consist of sexual content. So I dunno 🤷♀️